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To be upset by the remarks of a psychic?

171 replies

EverySongbirdSays · 05/04/2016 18:58

Obviously I do know that most psychics are charlatans and this one certainly was. Nothing he told me was spontaneous and was all based off my answers to his questions. He said some pretty harsh things though - AIBU to be upset by them even though I know it's absolute rot.

  1. It's too late for me and I won't have natural children. I'm 34.

  2. I go after guys that are out of my league (whatever that is)

  3. can we talk about my weight? Would I go out with a fat person?

  4. I'll probably never marry and should get a cat!

Somebody help me see the funny side here I'm a bit upset even though I shouldn't be.

COST : £35

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Iflyaway · 06/04/2016 02:30

Tell him to fuck off and only go by recomendations.(sp?)

Worked for me and DS.

Iflyaway · 06/04/2016 02:31

Tell him to fuck off and only go by recomendations.(sp?)

Worked for me and DS.

not always what you want to hear

awfullyproper · 06/04/2016 02:38

What a charmer!
Name and shame. Does he have a website?

EverySongbirdSays · 06/04/2016 02:54

I don't want to name on thread as I don't want to ID self - as i've put a lot of IDing info on here and putting his website will give my location as well. Will happily PM it to whoever cares to know.

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awfullyproper · 06/04/2016 04:23

Yes, fair enough.
He does sound like an angry twisted misogynist.

Andrewofgg · 06/04/2016 05:41

He sounds like someone who is good at getting money out of people. He can probably be sympathetic and charming when it will serve his financial purpose. Put it down to experience and for

Andrewofgg · 06/04/2016 05:42

Sorry - as I was saying - forget about it. Good luck with the cat. Get a mongrel.

Newmanwannabe · 06/04/2016 05:46

Nasty man. He must have enjoyed saying all that to you for some reason. Maybe he's a sociopath Shock

I saw a lady once. (When I was 28). She told me I'd be a widow before I was 40, that my fiancé wasn't very nice, and I would marry again, but the new husband wouldn't be nice either. Well I married the Fiancé, and am still married at age over 40. Yes, Sometimes he's an arse but overall he's ok!

Try not to take his crap to heart. Even though you know it's rubbish it still hurts.

stumblymonkey · 06/04/2016 06:09

Get the cat! Get the cat!

I have two Somalis and they are worth every penny of the money...best £800 I've ever spent in my life!

To be upset by the remarks of a psychic?
StatisticallyChallenged · 06/04/2016 12:49

I have had the same with rescue centres - most of our local ones are totally opposed to cats being kept indoors (I know this is often debated) even if they are kittens or have previously been indoor cats. This rules out huge numbers of potential cat owners in a city where most people live in flats.

We now have maine coons which are big soppy cuddly lumps, loads of fun, not much work and very sweet.

wasonthelist · 06/04/2016 12:57

Don't get a cat. They are horrid.

That'll be a fiver please :)

OliviaStabler · 06/04/2016 12:59

Register with lots of cat rescue centres. There are so many cats who need loving homes. It can take time to get the right cat for you but you can do it. Wood Green Animal Shelters are very good.

EverySongbirdSays · 06/04/2016 13:10

Locally to me there is only really one centre - I live in suburbia. Not sure how many there are in nearest city - lost out on a kitten the other day as friend didn't know how many cat would have and had some reserved.

I love how this thread has become not "I'm sure you'll still have kids one day " and turned into : GET A CAT!!!

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StatisticallyChallenged · 06/04/2016 13:31

That's cos cats are awesome

I also find they're a great people filter - if someone declares they don't like cats or my cats don't like them then they invariably turn out to be a bit of a knobber :D

MiscellaneousAssortment · 06/04/2016 13:44

I hope you're feeling a bit better. What a wanker he is. Working off the anger and insecurities the world has given him - it must be hard knowing that most humans are more developed, intelligent and competent than him. Poor diddums finds a way to practice cheap and low tricks on people. I guess pretending to have some 'special powers' is the only way he can fool people into thinks he's even the slightest bit interesting.

:)

Sorry, I don't like women hating sickos. He makes his living manipulating and lying. What a dull petty and bitter specimen of humanity.

You, on the other hand sound lovely and much more likely to find love, be fulfilled and happy. As basically, you have a massive advantage, being, not him Halo

cunningartificer · 06/04/2016 14:07

Why are you upset? you ask... Because he hit a nerve. You are scared that he might be right. That's how these people get repeat custom.

Don't be scared. It will be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead, think of how bitter and sad he is--that's a really awful future, to want to put other people down. I wonder if he was hoping that if he put you off 'out of your league' guys you might go for him?

You have the power to determine your own future--your own pets and your own life. You could move to the other side of the world if you like; you could decide to do ANYTHING.

I can guarantee that what you see when you look into the mirror (whatever that is) is not what those who love you (or who will love you) see. They will see a smart (apart from falling for the psychic) sweet and thoughtful person. Someone taking things into their own hands (as you say you are about the weight issue). But they will see your inner beauty. We can even see it on the internet.

...and if he were psychic, he should have seen it too. Idiot.

Andrewofgg · 06/04/2016 14:27

Cats are also always right. Unlike psychics.

If you get a cat remember: never piss Moggy off. Moggy will always win!

OttiliaVonBCup · 06/04/2016 14:30

Cats are bastards.

wasonthelist · 06/04/2016 14:33

I don't write off cat lovers as knobbers, but it is true I don't normally get along with cats or cat lovers.

SurroMummy13 · 06/04/2016 14:35

That wasn't him being a 'psychic' that was him being a dick and personally having a go at you!

LurkingHusband · 06/04/2016 15:09

Obviously I do know that all most psychics are charlatans

FTFY Smile

EverySongbirdSays · 06/04/2016 16:10

Why are you upset? you ask... Because he hit a nerve. You are scared that he might be right. That's how these people get repeat custom.

Yep exactly that.

As to the "out of my league guys" - i wouldn't see any of them as being that. Sure some may have been quite good looking but it's NOT all about looks. Some really were not conventionally good looking or were when they were younger and aren't so much now. I don't operate based on looks, and the assumption that I have is insulting.

As well I forgot to mention this : He told me to "get out more" and when I mentioned I do get out but my hobbies that were largely female attendees but there is one man who happens to be married; he INSTANTLY assumed I was after this man, and told me not to be a homewrecker even though I wouldn't be interested if he was single.

Oh and not interested in me himself because gay.

I don't know why he thinks I have it in for overweight men either. A couple of my ex's have struggled with their weight, and they ended it not me.

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Babylove2015 · 06/04/2016 16:57

I'm sorry you went to a fake psychic, a rude one at that. However, I disagree with the premis that a lot of posters on here are saying ; all psychics are frauds.

Sure there a fake psychics just like there are cons in all professions. Doesn't mean you should tar the whole profession with the same brush. Nothing wrong with being sceptical, you should be. But never be close-minded.

Personally, I only go to psychic mediums as well as psychics that don't use tools.
The standard rule of thumb is you don't feed a reader. Any genuine reader will ask you to wait until the end of the reading to ask questions, make comments.
At the most you says yes, no, don't know.

Another important thing to remeber with readings is nothing is set in stone. We do have free will, though some things are fixed. What a reader gives you is a probability that if you continue along the same road you are currently on, three months down the road. Then this is the likely outcome.

You must take personal responsibility. You still have choices and can act upon the information given, either discard or use it as a wake up if you don't like that outcome or go for it, if that's what you want.

If a reader says you are going to be an amazing pianist and you want to be but despite that potential you don't do anything about it. Guess what it won't happen. Like wise, you might change your current mindset and detour of the road the psychic is reading and your outcome will change.

Fake readers will fish for information. They will say you have a curse. They will be insensitive to you. They will tell you, someone is going to die. All that kind of dark crap.

Then there is the inexperience - not so good readers ( who believe they are better than they actually are) and they can be just as harmful.

I have natural psychic abilities. I also have mediumship abilities ( sorry not doing readings) so I know a 100% it is real. I have had some amazing proof off other readers. I have also had some crap readings and feel very angry at the time, they wasted my time with their nonsense.

I usually get three comparison readings, and so if A says I will do this B says no or doesn't mention it and C says the same as A, I will be more likely to believe A that it is a likely outcome.

And no I have never charged anyone for a reading because I haven't done it professionally.

It was beyond obvious what a fraud that reader was. You should be asking for a refund. And your personal responsibility as well as common sense should tell you that nothing he said was real.

Blondeshavemorefun · 06/04/2016 16:59

Ignore what he said

Go and see a proper one

I've seen 3 and all 3 told me things they just couldn't have known about my dead husband

EverySongbirdSays · 06/04/2016 17:02

Baby rather than go refund - I'm just going to tell everyone who cares to hear he's a massive fraud and not to go. I don't want to go down that route.

Yes/No/Dont Know was what I expected, instead he was just asking me questions, and then trying to make out he had already known the answer via flashing playing cards at me.

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