That au pair FINISHED my expensive Mother's Day chops?

[Honesttodog]

I can stretch a box of chocolates out for months. Just went to have one and the fucking box was empty. Unlikely that DH are the, AS HE GAVE THEM TO ME. I put them on a shelf in the sideboard that neither child could reach.

WWYD?

Never said explicitly these are my special chocs don't touch but they are away from all other foods.

I wouldn't make her replace them and I'm not sure I would even say anything, I'd just make sure than anything I wanted to be kept for just me was somewhere private in future.

As an aside, I can happily make chocolate last months. I tend to only have one or two at a time.

OTOH, I can also scoff a pack of mini malteaser bunnies in about 15 minutes.

I've never had very posh chocolates bought for me

Yes I absolutely would SSCSD, it's not the same as her polishing off a multipack of kitkats or even eating a whole pack of pork chops.
She knew these were a gift and had been put out of reach and she still decided to no only help herself but to eat them all.

I would definitely expect them to be replaced.

Lego is a life skill you only learn thro contact with kids

I haven't seen a chop for years and the last one I saw was probably in a pub meat raffle

UGH

What happened to meat raffles, are they still a thing

Don't order a new box on-line. No one will answer the door when the parcel arrives.

Hmmm they do look rather lovely...

Sorry, nothing more to add than that!

Love what people get upset about:

OP, you snooze you lose!

Buy another box and put a note inside saying "touch these and I will hunt you down like a dog and I will break your fingers". Subtle, yes?

apart from the chocolate salty balls..

why would you pay for someone you don't like and you think is a 'bit thick' to help you raise your kids.

that sounds thick to me.

Ask her in a panicked voice if she has seen the kids eating the dog worming bites that you hid in the chocolate box.

Why are you so certain it wasn't a child? Surely it wouldn't be beyond the wit of the 7 year old to pull over a chair to reach a high shelf.

If it was the AP then if it was me I'd be moderately surprised (mostly at them leaving the empty box - which is why I suspect a child) and a bit irritated but not furious. That's sort of the deal with APs - the whole point is that they're young and meant to be part of the family.

Is it only me that thinks it's a bit off that the OP is automatically assuming it's the AP that has scoffed the chocs???

If it was the AP then maybe she heard you describing her as thick and thought she'd get one back on you?! You're lucky she didn't spit on them and leave them there

You clearly have little, if any, respect for the person who is looking after your children though and for that alone, you are the thick one.

I so hope it turns out to be the DH that scoffed them

I have to say I am a bit disturbed by Lego being part of the criteria for intelligence. I have three degrees and I am a lawyer. But fucked if I could put anything other than basic Lego together!

I have to say I am a bit disturbed by Lego being part of the criteria for intelligence, maybe OP is referring to the Millenium Falcon set, have you seen that bastard?

I'm thrilled at the idea of a meat raffle. Sounds like my kind of pub.

Gutted to find out chops was a typo.

OP are you always so tetchy or just when denied access to salty balls?

I think it was your husband. Mine cannot bear it when I don't stuff my face with chocolate in one sitting so takes his chances in scoffing them and leaving the box there to replace them.

YABU

Grow up

I'd be mightily peeved if someone scoffed my chocs, especially such posh and delicious ones, so YADNBU.

BUT...

Equally I think I'd struggle to find the willpower to watch someone string a box out for months without screaming EAT THEM ALREADY and then snaffling them up on their behalf.

Open chocolates do not last the day in my house.

I'd be furious too. Don't care if it's a first world problem. When you think there's a treat waiting for you and someone has eaten it... No. Not acceptable.

My DP has a habit of eating the last eggs but not disposing of the egg box. Went to make eggs for breakfast this morning. Nope. Just the box. Also made me very cross. It's the expectation, cruelly dashed, that is the issue.

My view on au pairs is always coloured by the fact that:

a) they are young and naive and far away from home and what they know
b) being a bit clueless and 'not getting' your house rules is only to be expected
c) they're providing you with childcare for a pittance - and presumably that's valuable to you
d) in most cases I'd give them the benefit of the doubt

OP, be kind. Order another box, don't make a big deal and at some point make it clear what she can help herself to and what she can't.

Ask her in a panicked voice if she has seen the kids eating the dog worming bites that you hid in the chocolate box.
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Why are you letting a not too bright chocolate thief look after your kids?

I've been an au pair and I'v e also employed one. Having an au pair eat a bloody chocolate is nothing compared to having to comfort a sobbing wreck of a girl after the latest boyfriend has dumped her.
You don't sound very nice OP.