That au pair FINISHED my expensive Mother's Day chops?

[Honesttodog]

I can stretch a box of chocolates out for months. Just went to have one and the fucking box was empty. Unlikely that DH are the, AS HE GAVE THEM TO ME. I put them on a shelf in the sideboard that neither child could reach.

WWYD?

Never said explicitly these are my special chocs don't touch but they are away from all other foods.

Oh those artisan du chocolat things are amazing!! Was it clear that they were your Mother's Day gift - was she with you when you received them? Then it's really off but if she didn't know & just thought they were just there for the household then I would say that's a different matter.

xenapants odfod. You don't know the OP's situation, you don't know she is paying a pittance & the last time I looked, people are free to spend their money how they like.

xenapants where does the OP say that she doesn't work .

OP, weird of your au pair to delve into such gift like good (is the picture right?), but I would just be specific about what food can't be shared in future, and/or have it in a specified as out of bounds cupboard.

food

If it's any consolation, OP, she'll probably have the shits, after eating that lot. or is that just me?

Oh, and she's getting the OP from an agency, so of course the poor girl is being paid a pittance.

I feel your pain. My in laws came to stay the weekend after Mother's Day- not only did my (bastard) husband offer MY Mother's Day chocs around after dinner, but my FIL saw them in the fridge again the following day and announced that MIL really fancied some chocs and carried them off.

They left me a token shitty fudge so the box wasn't empty. When they left my dh felt the full force of my ire.

Surely being immature goes with the job description for an au pair?

Garlic - I am crying with laughter.

14 quid.

Just buy another box and ask her not to eat them.

Jesus.

This reminds me of the posh chocs I bought for dh for Valentine's. I reminded him a couple of times that they were very high up in the cupboard but after a couple of weeks, the box was still full and I just couldn't resist

This is when I discovered that very posh chocolates, hand made with fresh cream, don't even last for three weeks without going sour who know? Chocolates are not made to last that long! (I had finished my own box that I bought myself for Valentine's within days and they were lush. They just have to be eaten fresh.)

Anyway dh has still not noticed. Or maybe he did and blamed the cleaner? In which case he doesn't know me very well!

Could the au pair have fed them to the children or shared with them? Sorry if that theory has been debunked - I haven't RTFT.

Wow Xena - I am glad I haven't read your judgey little book.

Thanks for whoever mentioned the chocolate salty balls song... It's in my head now.

Meh I think yabu it could have been a kid, you don't know for certain it was her. She's probably being paid peanuts and they cost £14. Grow up, if you adore them that much go and buy another box and put it in a bedside table or something. Jesus.

Bit mean to describe the AP as thick.

More than slightly about the "look after your own children" comments though.

I used to hide my posh chocolates in a cupboard, behind a hidden decoy box of something like Milk Tray. The kids used to be delighted at finding my hiding place but they never found the posh chocs.

I don't think it's unreasonable to expect someone (anyone!) not to eat a box of chocolates with checking it's OK. Even my teens have better manners than that.

all this talk about the Au pair being "paid peanuts", isn't the point of an AP that they also get free board and lodging? If you add that onto the "pittance" it makes a difference.

Were there many left when you last had one?

Has the culprit eaten 2,3,4 or demolished at least 10?

I understand being pissed off if everyone knew they were supposedly off limits.

Xena - are you the filthy chocolate thief au pair?

You obviously have a huge issue with people who employ childcare. Must mean they are lazy, feckless posh scum. This is your pathetic issue not the OP. Get off the thread if it bothers you so much and stop attacking the OP.

In future hide your chocolates properly. I do.

They look rather rich, how many were eaten by the mystery choc-scoffer? I feel a bit queasy, even though I'd probably finish the box in one sitting!

At the next opportunity I would say "oh by the way, I'm going to be going near a shop that sells the [posh chocolates] tomorrow so if you want I can pick up a box and you can just give me the money if you would rather save yourself a trip into town"

And if she plays dumb just tell her you assumed she was planning on replacing the chocolates that she took.

I'm not sure I'd be making the Au Pair pay up to replace them, to me that's very petty.

I'd feel very mean doing that, would you really do that Eternal?

YANBU

At the next opportunity I would say "oh by the way, I'm going to be going near a shop that sells the [posh chocolates] tomorrow so if you want I can pick up a box and you can just give me the money if you would rather save yourself a trip into town"

Well, you might if you were giving a master class in passive aggression.

If you didn't say they were special then she might have thought they were away from everything else because no-one else wanted them. However, since they are your faves you have my permission to murder her slowly with a blunt knife along with whoever invented salted caramel because it is revolting-

Would you have had the same batshit reaction had the au-pair been the bestest au-pair in the whole wide world?

Obviously it's wrong to assume the OP doesn't work, but Xena doesn't say that, does she? I do find it odd though that someone the OP thinks is thick as pigshit is left with her children all day. Priorities I guess. most people's would focus on the quality of care rather than keeping the poor girl until she robbed your chocolates

Plus, how many were taken? (I do realise this is the nth time of asking, but the OP seems a little like the AP when it comes to understanding questions)

I can't do lego either and I have a PHD. Thick innit.