That au pair FINISHED my expensive Mother's Day chops?

[Honesttodog]

I can stretch a box of chocolates out for months. Just went to have one and the fucking box was empty. Unlikely that DH are the, AS HE GAVE THEM TO ME. I put them on a shelf in the sideboard that neither child could reach.

WWYD?

Never said explicitly these are my special chocs don't touch but they are away from all other foods.

Oh maybe you have the same au pair that ate someone's £6 crackers. I remember that thread

I'll dig the patio up for you!

...they look/sound devine. I feel a trip into town coming on!

I don't know what I'd do. It's explicitly implied that NOBODY EVER fucks with my chocolates. There's plenty of bog-standard stuff from Aldi they can eat within easy reach. I've never had an au pair but if I did I'd have to like them very much before offering them MY chocolates. I seriously wouldn't expect them to help themselves, any more than I'd expect them to take something out of my knicker drawer for personal use. No no no no no. No.

Or didn't want to open the door!

Yeah, the open-the-door-refusing-cracker-and-chop-guzzler!!!

I think YAB a bit U to make a box of chocs last for ages if they're really good, that's just wrong. Obviously it's more wrong to eat somebody else's chocolates, but that doesn't negate the initial wrongness, I would go so far as to say character flaw, of leaving good chocolate unattended when it could be safe and sound in your stomach.

If you're fed up with her and the agency are being unhelpful then get yourself a better au pair from Au Pair World. I much prefer doing my own shortlisting, interview and reference checking and I can get the right personality to suit my family because I have much more applicants to choose from.

so, how many did she eat?
cant say i could get THAT worked up over some chocolates.

One of my French families left me babysitting for a very long evening. I was "en famille" and allowed to help myself to stuff. There were a few little tins of caviar and I hadn't tried it before, so I made some toast and opened a can. I loved it! So much so, I opened another ... and another ... I ate the lot.

I genuinely forgot to tell them. They found out a couple of days later - which is when I found out what "Beluga" means and that I had scoffed about a grand's worth of salty snacks.

They replaced it with lumpfish roe, which is how I learned I like that just as much!

Ooh, so sorry she ate your balls.

Honestly, though? There are bigger things to worry about, I'm sure.

depends how much they were I have no clue what chops are

Garlic .

No darling you are absolutely NBU. Staff can be exasperating. Get onto the agency immediately and get rid of this one. Have a word with the butler tell him to get the scullery maid to cover the au pair's duties until the agency sent a replacement.... Then pour yourself a G and T and retire to the drawing room....

No darling, YADNBU. Staff can be exasperating. Get onto the agency and get rid of thIs one. Have a word with the butler and tell him to get the scullery maid to cover the au pair's duties until the agency send a replacement. Then ask him to pour you a large G &T and retire to the drawing room, you poor love..

Artisan du chocolat - salted caramel balls

OK; YADNBU

Am I the only one who is now singing "suck on my chocolate salty balls" from South Park?

Orrrr, you could always look after your own children instead of paying some poor girl a pittance to do it for you, and then the problem wouldn't arise in the first place. Too simple?

"Au pair". Are your diamond shoes also too tight?

As it involves chocolate, I was ready to say you would be right to read the riot act.

But there are mitigating factors in her favour. 1) not asking her not to eat them; 2) how old is this 'immature' au pair; 3) does she know you don't like her, and you're planning her departure?

So, what I would do is eat them faster in future.

No-one is allowed to help themselves to other people's chocolates in our family. DP does, even though it's not allowed, and he gets a roasting for it ;). Though to be fair he doesn't get given a lot of chocolates and yet he adores them whereas I get given chocolates but don't café for them.

Next time make sure your au pair is aware of your household's chocolate rule.

...also lured in here under false pretenses by your cheeky chop-bait...

Massive public group confrontation seems like best plan. Do report back, please.

So disappointed to find you didn't get given chops for Mother's Day

I'd check it definitely wasn't your kids, but I probably wouldn't raise the issue with her even if you are sure she ate them. Sounds like you want to get rid of her anyway, so I'd just do that.

I would just ask her outright. She's living in your home and is young and may not have realised the implication. I agree that it's irritating and annoying but either you deal with it now or let it fester and keep making PA remarks hoping to flush her out.
As an aside you don't sound as though you like her at all. Despite her being not very 'bright' she may have picked up on this and be scared of you. You don't come across as someone who suffers fools gladly. As such there's a chance that it may have been a subversive act of rebellion rather than a moment of chocolatey weakness. Is she picking up on the sense that you're on a countdown til you can sack her?

YANBU. What a meathead. If you're sure it was her, ask her to replace them.

And hide chocs in a carrier bag next time.

I'm with puglife now I'm going to have "suck on my chocolate salty balls" in my head all day at work. Thanks OP. YABU.

OP, I suggest you take a long hard look at yourself via your comments on this thread.

You think this girl is an idiot, you chastise her for being "not bright", yet you have no compunction about letting her look after your children, presumably for a pittance, so that you can swan around being a yummy mummy. What does that say about your own parenting? You clearly don't give much of a damn about your kids if you entrust their care to someone you consider not bright enough to play with Lego, do you? Why don't you raise your own children? Are you too snobbish to do so?