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... to have not named my baby yet? (6 weeks, tomorrow)

253 replies

VolvicTouchofFruit · 30/03/2016 15:40

Hi there - DS will be 6 weeks, tomorrow Sad I have a handful of names I love, but it's becoming impossible. I have tried phoning the registration office; they will not allow me to move my appointment (it's tomorrow)...

Has anyone else been in this situation? Family, and friends, think I'm being unfair to DS...

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bittapitta · 30/03/2016 15:52

You need to register the birth now! So choose something you can live with. You can change it extremely easily and reregister him before 12 months if you change your mind that drastically!

nocabbageinmyeye · 30/03/2016 15:53

Names in a hat or toss a coin. According to Amy on the Big Bang Theory it's the best way to decide because you know by your reaction when the name comes out/coin is tossed and narrow it down that way

RDWRER · 30/03/2016 15:53

(btw, for what it's worth, I think Elliott Charles is nice)

MeMySonAndl · 30/03/2016 15:53

put them in a cup and chose one at random, if you think "no, not this one" when you see it, remove it from the list straight away.

Frankly, motherhood is full of decisions, this is just the first one, it is not fair to have an unnamed baby for such a long time. (Sister is 45 this year, we ALL still call her "the baby" for the same reason)

MardyBra · 30/03/2016 15:53

From your list:

Aidan - not keen. Don't know why though.

Charlie. Nice enough

Ciaran/Kieran - Not my taste. And definitely not with the K
Elliot/Elliott. My fav from your list. Prefer one T
Louis/Louie Quite a lot of these around at the moment. Prefer Louis.
Matthew. Timeless classic
Noah. Indifferent.
Oliver. Another timeless classic
Tommy (Thomas on the BC). A bit too popular

My favs from your list would be Elliot or Matthew.

ZanyMobster · 30/03/2016 15:53

Elliott

OneLove10 · 30/03/2016 15:53

I think the longer you leave it the harder it becomes to choose. And any one you do choose you will be wondering if the other is better. You and dp pick one each and decide from that. I like Noah, sounds very sweet.

FaithlessOne · 30/03/2016 15:54

You're over thinking it. Just pick one for the poor bairn!

Coldtoeswarmheart · 30/03/2016 15:54

Matthew. Done. Grin

bittapitta · 30/03/2016 15:54

You were asking about the waiting time? 42 days from birth (in England, Wales, NI).

wonderingsoul · 30/03/2016 15:54

Have you tried calling him these names and see what feels better?

ZanyMobster · 30/03/2016 15:54

1 T for Elliott is not symmetrical lol

Error404usernamenotfound · 30/03/2016 15:54

If you really can't choose between them, then write them all on pieces of paper and pull one out of a hat. Whichever you end up with you will end up loving, because a) you liked it enough to put on the shortlist, and b) it will belong to your DS, and therefore be associated with him.

Is your DP equally indecisive?

Floggingmolly · 30/03/2016 15:54

Just pick one of those names out of a hat. If you really can't decide; it doesn't matter which one comes out, does it? Confused
What do you mean by "waiting time"? They've told you you can't move your appointment, haven't they? Just get on with it...

toomuchtooold · 30/03/2016 15:55

They're all nice names. You can pick any one of those and it will be great, and after a while of shouting it 10,000 times when he is a toddler it will be hard to imagine he could be anything else.

I don't think waiting longer will make you any more sure either TBH.

Abecedario · 30/03/2016 15:56

My nephew and his partner were more or less like this when their little one was born and were nearly at the 6 weeks, they'd tried calling him a different name each day but nothing stuck. Then unfortunately he became very poorly (meningitis) and was rushed into hospital. At hospital they were asked to give a name, gave the one that first came to mind, and that's that. They both said once they'd got over themselves and just picked then that was his name, and now they can't imagine anything else. I think sometimes you can think a name doesn't seem right but then once it is actually their name then it is right, if that makes any sense?

(Brave and tough little cookie that he is he's now 2 and fighting fit as far as we can tell at this stage Star )

From your list I like:

Elliott Charles
Matthew Charles
Or
Charlie James

Artandco · 30/03/2016 15:56

Break down the list.

From the list are any names family or sentimental?

Then choose a first name.

Have two middle names so Less to exclude

I would choose:

Charles Louis Elliott
Or
Aiden Elliott Charles

diddl · 30/03/2016 15:56

Cosmo is fabulous!

I like Noah & Oliver from your list.

Finola1step · 30/03/2016 15:57

You need to do the hat thing.

FWIW..
Thomas Charles,
Elliot Charles,
Matthew Charles.

superherostrawberry · 30/03/2016 15:58

Matthew Charles.

madcapcat · 30/03/2016 15:59

Just call him Little Man in Irish - Benen -or Hebrew - Mordecai ...Grin

clarella · 30/03/2016 15:59

Cosmo.

It's in a dc's name. Not joking - Cosmo!

sweetkitty · 30/03/2016 16:02

I ant understand this, the minute I found out the sex they had their names of course after DD1 we never told anyone their name until after they were born (still got comments though)

Elliot or Matthew

theAntsareMyFriends · 30/03/2016 16:06

My dad always says 'whatever decision you make is the right one'. I'm indecisive and it helps me.

In this scenario it would mean that once you chose one all the other will fade and the one you chose will be the name of your child and therefore the right one.

If you really can't decide pick a name out of a hat. If you feel disappointed, discard it and try again.

All the names are lovely by the way so can see why you are having trouble.

I'd go for Matthew. I love that name.

Homemadearmy · 30/03/2016 16:06

Ds 3 was without a name for 6 weeks it was awful. We just couldn't agree on a name. And my dp wouldn't compromise. In the end as we reached the deadline. I gave in and let him pick. I absolutely hated the name and couldn't say it without cringing for a couple of years. But I'm used to it now.