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to go to A&e with my dd3 *pictures*

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littlemaemae · 29/03/2016 13:57

My DD who is 3 has been having stomach/bowel problems for the last year. Diagnose as constipation. She can not pass a stool for weeks despite fantastic diet and laxatives and weeks is in severe pain most days. She is very petite and skinny but her stomach has swollen to look 9 months pregnant. Getting no where with doctors/hospital etc.
Aibu to think this is not how a heathy child's stomach should look.

OP posts:
SandunesAndRainclouds · 01/04/2016 22:32

I've also had to fight for my DD's care (different issues!) and I wanted to say I know how exhausting that is on top of dealing with whatever health problem is going on.

I really, really hope this is all resolved very soon Flowers

Original poster
littlemaemae · 01/04/2016 22:33

We are going back in now to be reassessed

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DreamADream · 01/04/2016 22:34

Been lurking, thinking of you and your DD. Hope she's getting sorted now Flowers

GreenMarkerPen · 01/04/2016 22:34

good luck!

GlitteryFluff · 01/04/2016 22:34

Hope you get somewhere.

Nancery · 01/04/2016 22:35

Good luck OP!

JustABigBearAlan · 01/04/2016 22:35

I can't believe what you've had to go through Sad

Really hope they work out what's wrong soon and your dd starts to feel better.
Keep on keeping on - you're doing a great job Flowers

perfumedlife · 01/04/2016 22:38

The fact that a study in to whether babies felt pain like adults do had to be conducted in the 21st century tells us just how backward we really are!

www.ox.ac.uk/news/2015-04-21-babies-feel-pain-adults#

SquidgeyMidgey · 01/04/2016 22:39

Hope something good happens littlemae, fingers crossed your DD gets done help now.

ursuslemonade · 01/04/2016 22:39

I wish you and your dd all the best and really hope she is going to be taken care of properly now x

bakeoffcake · 01/04/2016 22:40

Refuse to leave until she has pooed!

Juju2408 · 01/04/2016 22:40

Good luck hope they get something sorted for her tonight.

whois · 01/04/2016 22:40

I'm just getting so angry on your behalf OP. It's a total injustice that no one has taken you or your DD seriously.

lougle · 01/04/2016 22:41

Poor girl. I hope you get a treatment plan very soon.

cakeycakeface · 01/04/2016 22:47

Wishing strength to you and your DH. Good luck.

Gileswithachainsaw · 01/04/2016 22:47

I have never been so astonished in my life.

one fucking xray. it's all pointless if there's a blockage stopping things from.moving.

so sorry she's going through this

timemaychangeme · 01/04/2016 22:47

I can't begin to imagine how stressed and exhausted you must be feeling. Keeping everything crossed for some decent and appropriate care for your poor dd tonight.

TheFairyCaravan · 01/04/2016 22:48

Good luck mae

MerryInthechelseahotel · 01/04/2016 22:49

I'm amazed he described her tummy as soft! It looks solid.

CauliflowerBalti · 01/04/2016 22:49

It shouldn't be this difficult. It really shouldn't. Sending you lots of love and strength. Don't know if you can read messages on your phone, but I would refuse to let them send you home with anything other than a little girl who has had a very very very big poo.

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VagueIdeas · 01/04/2016 22:51

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Don't let them fob you off again.

readyforno2 · 01/04/2016 22:53

I really hope you get answers this time. Best of luck to you and your dd.

lougle · 01/04/2016 23:00

My phone must have glitched because when I posted you were at the hospital (the first time) -I've just seen that you were sent away.

This is the time to be stubborn, I'm afraid. I had to demand to be induced when DD2 stopped growing in the womb at 35+2 weeks. The registrar said 'oh I've seen far worse growth curves'. I said 'can you guarantee me that if you don't induce me, my child will be alive this time next week?' She said 'no.' I said 'can you guarantee me that the fact that her growth has stopped is from a benign cause?' 'No'. 'Then I want to be induced. Today.' She went to get her Consultant to deal with this unreasonable woman. The consultant said that either watch and wait or induction were reasonable. I said 'then induction it is!' I was induced the next morning.

I would start down that line. 'Can you guarantee me that this is idiopathic constipation?' (Only a fool would say yes). 'Can you assure me that there is no possibility of harm to my DD by watching and waiting?' 'Can you assure me that there is no likelihood of structural defect in the bowel?' Can you assure me that there is no likelihood of a perforation?.....ask the questions. Show the staff that you are concerned about serious complications.

Catsize · 01/04/2016 23:00

OP, you are doing brilliantly. How dreadfully exhausting and distressing for you all. They need to keep her in and observe her, surely. If necessary, ask the blunt question of whether they would prefer the expense of a hospital admission or the expense of a legal case.
This will go to 1000 posts easily. Please start another thread when you feel you can.
The nation (and beyond!) is rooting for you all!!! Flowers. Oh, and Wine for later.

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