Is having overweight kids child abuse?

[Mummyme1987]

A friend posted on Fb that parents with fat kids are child abusers. Except for kids with medical problems. It started with comments on how it's awful that there's a generous fit section in clothes shops. I'm shocked that people think this. I think the majority of parents don't just feed their kids crap, and some kids are bigger than others, and unless it is a very extreme case it's not child abuse. Thoughts?

It's not just our perspective it's our acceptance too, take clothing for example you wouldn't have seen plus size kids clothes in m&s or anywhere a few years ago. When I was at school there were maybe one or two in the class that were overweight now it's a given that there are loads of overweight kids. I don't think all the plus sized clothes for adults either help any, again it's just another form of acceptance. Same goes for plus sized models it's just nomalising something that should be, quite frankly dealt with in a far more tougher way.

Ah yes. Another justification I've heard from a parent in regards to their overweight child is that there are other kids in the year group who are bigger, I.e minimising the child's weight problem because other children are apparently worse. Who's to say that unless something changes, your child won't end up as big if not bigger than the other children?

If your child is overweight, you find a way to deal with it. It's cruel in my opinion to continue to ignore the problem, leave them to their own devices or live in hope that it will one day 'drop off' like puppy fat, because there's no guarantee that that will happen.

"Anomaly Mon 28-Mar-16 12:30:51
I don't think it's great parenting. Two girls I know are both fat as is mum. I know she hates being overweight so cannot understand how she's let the kids go the same way at 5 and 8. The Dad is really sporty too so I can't understand how he's not bothered to keep his girls active"

And for dad to devote all that time to keeping fit i will bet a penny to a pinch of shit that his wife isnt getting the same amount of leisure time.

This thread is turning into a fat people hate club.

If ppl are going to start labelling it abuse i take it the same will be said about what this lot did to their tenants.

salfordstar.com/article.asp?id=2390

From the link.

George, whose flat has been ripped apart around him, has gone without hot water for two weeks, and has just a microwave to heat food since his gas cooker was disconnected weeks ago.

"I can't eat ready meals, I don't like them, and I can't afford to go to a restaurant so I'm living on sandwiches" he explains

Also from the link.

...One lady downstairs said that she'd had to send out for so many meals in the last few months she can't fit into a dress she bought for a wedding!" he adds "Some of us can cope but for some of these people the difference between making it and not making it is a fiver a week. They can't send out for food, so they have a choice, heat or eat. And that's wrong.

Speaking as a fat mum I am doing everything in my power to keep my children slim and healthy. I spend my days ferrying them to different sporting activities and am very careful with their food. I don't understand how any parent who is/has been fat would wish that upon their child.

www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/6931216/Sun-investigation-exposes-squalid-and-unsafe-housing-for-Army-families.html

Slim doesnt always = healthy. Ive gone from a big 21 stone to a curvy 11 stone .

An ex work colleugue is very slim but smokes and drinks. Im not the one who had the heart attack!

Not sure what the connection is with the thread topic helenadove?

This thread is turning into a fat people hate club

I've seen this done so many times before, with the OP clutching her pearls and saying "think of da kiddies" etc., and basically its a bun fight (ho ho) about how we all hate fat people. Its the last prejudice that you can happily chat about on a forum and feel really good about yourself afterwards.

No pearls here burning

I'm not advocating hating fat people at all

The connection is, a PP was saying that you can't be bigger and healthy or whatever

I agree BurningBridge, this thread is very unkind. Why can't we just accept that people come in different shapes and sizes. I think what many on Mumsnet consider normal, not just for weight, but for many things, is far too narrow.

No of course not. You're just saying, that's all.

Mummyme 1987 If you read the links you will see tenants and forces families having to go MONTHS without cookers.

People are very keen to bang on about personal responsibility but as soon as you mention corporate responsibility they pretend not to know what you are talking about or not to know the connection.

I speak as someone who used to be obese. Ive lost 10 stone.

I really wanted to know whether people really thought parents of overweight kids are child abusers, as I was so shocked my friend thought they were.

Sorry, that was directed to OP, Mummy, who is now looking all hurt and well, she was just ...saying. That's all.

helena

There you go again with the HA or housing related posts on threads that have fuck all to do with the subject.

Are you trying to start a campaign or something?

I agree with Bridges and Green.

When someone is having to live on takeaways because their LL has delayed a repair or works are done haphazardly and it results in weight gain how can it not be related to a thread about weight.

fascicle said on the last page that "Being slim is not necessarily an indication of a healthy diet" - neither is it an indication that you have the moral high ground, that you are a good or even a better person. So why does it follow that if you are overweight, or if your kids are, that you are a bad person?

A thread like this with an self-confessed lovely well meaning OP goes on Mumsnet every few weeks - you can see people waiting for something like this and gobbling up the chance to poke the fatties and then say how they are all only just giving opinion when in fact they are the message board equivalent of the builder shouting "oi lardy" at a schoolboy with a pie and dressing it up as concern for children.

I'm a self confessed fattie with overweight dd, not poking fun at other people at all. No where have I done that. I' was really shocked as said in my posts, that my friend called parents with overweight kids child abusers. If you look I did say I was one of the so called parents.