AIBU to bleach my DD's facial hair

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She noticed me doing it today- when she came into the bathroom without knocking (I normally do it just before a shower)

She is very dark haired and has quite noticeable facial hair (top lip) I didn't think we'd cross this bridge until she was at least a teenager She has been teased about this and her dark hair on her eyebrows and legs by some children and I've told her to ignore them (tackled it with the school)

She's very upset as she sees a simple solution- to me she is too young and I worry what damage it would do to her skin etc- whilst feeling like a hypocrite because I do it.

Any advice? She is 9.

I'd seek professional advice if you're going to attempt it.

Re 'feeling like a hypocrite' there are many things adults are allowed to do that children aren't, and that doesn't make us hypocrites.

Maybe take her to a beauty salon (or go in to one without her) and ask their advice? Maybe they can suggest something?
I would rather get it professionally done then do it myself - silly I know!

Bleaching is completely pointless IMO.

All that happens is you get shiny white hairs that glow in the sunlight.

It really shouldn't be an issue at aged 9 but, if you are going to do something then at least wax/ pluck rather than making day-glo hairs.

Second the advice to ask at a salon. Whatever we'd love to be the ideal answer, kids are cruel little bastards sometimes. I had more than one friend whom the boys used to tease mercilessly

I would wax it if it was affecting her. Bleaching is pointless.

I'm sorry but the hair is just as obvious if you bleach it, get it waxed or threaded professionally instead

i was going to suggest threading too.

I'd get it waxed.

If it's appropriate for her age I would suggest hair removal cream instead because it's painless. I have no idea of the safety implications of her age though.

Bleaching looks ridiculous - the way the light catches it makes it look like a bleach blonde 'tache.

Take her to a salon for professional wax.

Veet just says supervision for under 16s on its site for wax:

mobile.veet.co.uk/faqs.php?faq=3

Can't find any advice not to use. Perhaps you could give Veet's customer care line a ring for advice?

Bleaching just makes your moustache a white one, everyone can still see it...

I'd get it waxed (salon.) I know lots of people will be uncomfortable with it as she's so young but I had a moustache and a mono brow, and was crucified at school so I wouldn't do that to my children!

Do not use hair removal cream on the face! It burns your skin! I made this mistake and ended up looking like coco the clown for weeks.

Get it removed professionally if it's a problem.
My best friend growing up was Italian and she had a huge complex about it and was defoliating very early.
I was likewise as I'm very dark.

If your daughter is convinced its a problem, and it's making her unhappy, I'd get it removed.

Will salons actually let a 9 year old be waxed?

I would veet personally and keep on top of it.

I wouldn't bleach but I would let my hairy DD remove hair if causing misery. Kids won't stop the teasing. Pluck or wax.

Another vote for threading here - if she's getting teased it's unfair to make her keep the hair. It's all very well for adults to say "too young" to things like this, but realistically it's not going to harm her getting the hair removed, and it WILL scar her emotionally if you leave her to be bullied whilst forbidding a quick solution. It's easy to say it'll teach her to stand up for herself by not allowing it, but I personally feel it's unfair to make that decision on behalf of a child who is the one suffering the consequences.

Please let her get it waxed. I was her at school and it is something I still get paranoid about to this day from all the bullying I received over it. Waxing from an early age can reduce regrowth too for when she goes into secondary school.

I'd take her for threading.

I agree don't use hair removal cream on her face - it is vicious stuff and doesn't give long lasting results. Much better to go for professional waxing which over time kills off the hairs anyway.

P.S. yes, I was bullied at school, and it was HORRIBLE

I had my eyebrows threaded once and they looked lovely after all the little pimples where hair had been disappeared. I've never had spots / pimples from waxing. Was it just me, or have others had bad skin irritation from threading?

I would let her get rid of it if she wanted - not with bleach though. If she can stand waxing that might be best as the hair will probably grow back lighter.

If you're going to Veet, use the sensitive one and do a patch test behind her ear or somewhere, incase there's a reaction - last thing she'll want is a red, ulcerated area above her lip!

I pluck my young daughter's monobrow on request. She got used to the sensation quite quickly and would do the same if / when her upper lip hair gets darker and if she wants to remove it.