AIBU to bleach my DD's facial hair

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She noticed me doing it today- when she came into the bathroom without knocking (I normally do it just before a shower)

She is very dark haired and has quite noticeable facial hair (top lip) I didn't think we'd cross this bridge until she was at least a teenager She has been teased about this and her dark hair on her eyebrows and legs by some children and I've told her to ignore them (tackled it with the school)

She's very upset as she sees a simple solution- to me she is too young and I worry what damage it would do to her skin etc- whilst feeling like a hypocrite because I do it.

Any advice? She is 9.

To quote JD in Scrubs: 'just because you dye your moustache blonde, it doesn't mean it's gone!'

Sadly I've tried waxing and threading my upper lip and both times I got a massive scaly rash that made me look like The Joker for weeks now I just let it do its thing and DP calls it my 'walrus whiskers'

I have had over 20 years in the beauty industry and sadly the cliental are becoming younger and younger

As a formar salon manager we wouldn't treat anyone under the age of 12 at all...

From the age of 12 to 16 we offered some treatments but always with a parental consent.

A minors skin and hair grow is totally different from someone say in their 30's

For most part it's the insurance issue to why treatments won't be offered to a minor, no insurance will cover salons for minors.

However doesn't mean you can't do something about it.

I would start with threading. Don't use chemicals (hair removal creams) or wax on a very young child as they are at risk of a reaction. Threading only uses friction and a piece of string, so although painful and it might cause a redness its temporary.

IpL and lumar is a massive no go, the light will be too strong for young skin and you risk major burning and scarring.

For the poster that said hairs grow back thicker after threading/ waxing etc I'm sorry but that is complete tosh they might appear thicker as the hair grows back blunter but nothing can make a hair follicle thicker.

I definitely think the 'plucking makes hair grow stronger' is a huge myth.

I am very dark haired and fair skinned and I had huge, bushy brows as a child.

I started plucking them at about 12. I used to hate doing my brows and every plucking session was a chore lasting ages, for years.

Now, at age 29, I barely pluck my brows anymore...because they don't grow out. I spend a minute on them once a week where I get a few stray ones and that's it. I'm pretty certain the roots are gone or severely damaged after approaching 20 years of regular plucking.

Agreed I epilated my arm hair (ouch!) when I was about 14, it's extremely sparse since (& it was gorilla like) I wondered if I damaged the follicles by doing it young or something?

I have a scar on my lip from trying to shave off my moustache when I was a similar age . . . I still do shave it off. Is it really obvious? Do I have to spend money on waxing or threading? I really, really loathe spending money on myself, and particularly on beauty products. Veet doesn't really work and makes my top lip all swollen and painful.

Help her remove the hair if she wants. My mum just pretended the entire problem didn't exist except to occasionally tease me about it, which didn't bloody help.I desperately hope that I haven't given my daughter the hairy-face genes, there's nothing I hate more about my body.

I bought a couple of Episticks on recommendation of mammmia and I'm quite impressed! Thanks mammm

After years of irritating my skin with veet, I now use a facial Tinkle razor on my tache and peach fluff. Works brilliantly, causes no irritation, costs almost nothing, and the hair does NOT grow back thicker or darker.

I have the hairy gene. I feel for your daughter. I agree that a yellow tash is not good (particularly if you have dark skin), but I leave on the lightener for less time so it lightens rather than goes yellow. Give that a try? The boots own brand one I find fairly mild.