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AIBU to take what I paid for from cheating partner without discussion

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Earworm · 25/03/2016 16:09

My partner recently told me that he didn't feel invested in our relationship. I suggested that I move out for a short period to give us both some headspace. I suspected there was someone else involved and asked him, but he denied it. I found FB messages and photos that had been sent to him from this girl, and he still denied it. 4 days after I left (at this point we hadn't actually split up) I found out that he had gone out with the girl and slept with her. We went to a counselling session and he said he was committed to working things out, but he refused to cut contact with her, so I moved out permanently. I've arranged to move into an unfurnished flat.

His flat was a shell when I moved in. I bought a whole new freestanding kitchen to replace the 2 cupboards he had, got the bathroom tiled, had a shower fitted and got new lights fitted. I replaced his broken bed frame, we sold his sofa (he got the money) and bought a new one which I 'm still paying for. I lifted all the laminate in the living room and carried it down 3 flights myself and replaced it with carpet.

He's gone away this weekend with this new girl and when he comes back, he'll have relatives with him to stay as they have a family funeral. I feel like a heartless bitch to go in and take the sofa, the bed frame and a couple of the kitchen units. He'll have an armchair to sit on and a mattress to sleep on. And he also owes me £1500 for a credit card.

OP posts:
Strokethefurrywall · 01/04/2016 00:15

Come now Suzanne. lets simplify it for you.

After being cheated on and made homeless by her ex, OP has since taken every last item that she paid for from their apartment, leaving ex with a manky old chair, a mattress and presumably little else.

I would assume that this type in incident would elicit a "hurrah" response in normal circles yes? You know, the type of incident in a movie where the heroine gets her own back and everyone cheers?

Hence the support for the OP. Hope that helps with the confusion.

AcrossthePond55 · 01/04/2016 01:13

Does anyone other than me wonder if 'Suzanne' has some dubious connection to the cheating scum? The OW or a relative perhaps?

Mysteryfla · 01/04/2016 02:21

Is Suzanne the asswipe? If not she's the new girlfriend!

dilys4trevor · 01/04/2016 08:20

I'd say so.

As an aside I loathe overuse of Confused and Hmm.

suzannecaravaggio · 01/04/2016 08:22

What a response, I seem to have a fanclub too

starry0ne · 01/04/2016 08:41

eeeeer no you don't Hmm

suzannecaravaggio · 01/04/2016 08:43

Thanks I'm really enjoying the attention I'm getting

nilbyname · 01/04/2016 09:09

tiver or op how are things going?

BoatyMcBoat · 01/04/2016 13:31

OP, hold your head high, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Don't pull your punches in getting your story out there.

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