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AIBU to take what I paid for from cheating partner without discussion

459 replies

Earworm · 25/03/2016 16:09

My partner recently told me that he didn't feel invested in our relationship. I suggested that I move out for a short period to give us both some headspace. I suspected there was someone else involved and asked him, but he denied it. I found FB messages and photos that had been sent to him from this girl, and he still denied it. 4 days after I left (at this point we hadn't actually split up) I found out that he had gone out with the girl and slept with her. We went to a counselling session and he said he was committed to working things out, but he refused to cut contact with her, so I moved out permanently. I've arranged to move into an unfurnished flat.

His flat was a shell when I moved in. I bought a whole new freestanding kitchen to replace the 2 cupboards he had, got the bathroom tiled, had a shower fitted and got new lights fitted. I replaced his broken bed frame, we sold his sofa (he got the money) and bought a new one which I 'm still paying for. I lifted all the laminate in the living room and carried it down 3 flights myself and replaced it with carpet.

He's gone away this weekend with this new girl and when he comes back, he'll have relatives with him to stay as they have a family funeral. I feel like a heartless bitch to go in and take the sofa, the bed frame and a couple of the kitchen units. He'll have an armchair to sit on and a mattress to sleep on. And he also owes me £1500 for a credit card.

OP posts:
icelollycraving · 28/03/2016 22:33

Are you ok op? I expect the adrenaline was whooshing through earlier. DO NOT FEEL BAD. You are my hero right now. Flowers

Earworm · 28/03/2016 22:41

How many ex-boyfriends does it take to change a lightbulb? Bahahaha. None if you've not got any light bulbs. That's what he's most furious about!!

OP posts:
YouTheCat · 28/03/2016 22:44

Oh ffs! Maybe you should have left the light bulbs but smeared them with fish paste first? Grin

icelollycraving · 28/03/2016 22:48

Well he's not very bright...

OhSoGraceful · 28/03/2016 22:51

Not many shops open at this time on a bank holiday, he might not even realise how much furniture is gone until it gets light!

SanityClause · 28/03/2016 22:51

Did you take the light bulb out of the fittings, or did you just take all the spare ones?

Either way, nicely played!

ExpandingRoundTheMiddle · 28/03/2016 22:53

Aww poir love. It must be difficult for him when his bad behaviour comes round to bite him on the arse.Grin

ArmfulOfRoses · 28/03/2016 22:53

I bet you can't wait to broach the 1.5k he owes you!

luciole15 · 28/03/2016 22:55

Good work OP! Easter Wink Think you deserve WineStarChocolateFlowersHalo

Branleuse · 28/03/2016 22:58
Grin
nicenewdusters · 28/03/2016 23:11

Hope you took all the candles and the matches Earworm, how lovely to think of him stumbling around in the dark ! Still, not too much furniture to trip over, eh ?

lottielou7 · 28/03/2016 23:11

Good for you OP!

ThedementedPenguin · 28/03/2016 23:15

Good for you. Im sure you're glad to get your stuff back

Skittlesss · 28/03/2016 23:41

Yayyyyyy, fab update, good on you!!!

SauvignonPlonker · 28/03/2016 23:42

This thread has made me laugh! Well done OP.

Love the term "wank throne". Love the idea of fish-pasting lightbulbs & wasabi sex toys Grin

EveryoneElsie · 28/03/2016 23:52

Considering you paid half the mortgage and lent him £1,5000 he got off very lightly.

Here; [bigshinytrophy]

EveryoneElsie · 28/03/2016 23:53

spot who has a new keyboard...

cees · 28/03/2016 23:58

This thread is brilliant

Hissy · 29/03/2016 00:06

Maybe his phone has a torch...

Unless of course you "moved" the charger... ;)

Alpies · 29/03/2016 00:16

If you lived together as man and wife, irrespective of whether u were married or not and the fact that you paid half the mortgage, you could potentially claim an interest in the property (assuming he owned it). I would speak to a solicitor asap.

Bananatroopers · 29/03/2016 00:35

I'd love to here his side

Any man who suggested any retribution would be called a lot psycho.

AcrossthePond55 · 29/03/2016 00:55

I'm sorry, OP, but I'm really enjoying this. I just picture the wanker clutching his chest, back of hand to forehead, knees buckling as he sobs "No, no, not the LIGHTBULBS!! Anything but that!"

Is he afraid of the dark, perhaps?

GiddyOnZackHunt · 29/03/2016 01:21

Bwah hah at Easter Sunday light bulb purchase :)

GiddyOnZackHunt · 29/03/2016 01:30

It was Monday. Not Sunday and now it's TuesdayBlush
Having my routine disrupted plays havoc...

SouthWesterlyWinds · 29/03/2016 09:46

Wait until he goes for a poo...