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AIBU to take what I paid for from cheating partner without discussion

459 replies

Earworm · 25/03/2016 16:09

My partner recently told me that he didn't feel invested in our relationship. I suggested that I move out for a short period to give us both some headspace. I suspected there was someone else involved and asked him, but he denied it. I found FB messages and photos that had been sent to him from this girl, and he still denied it. 4 days after I left (at this point we hadn't actually split up) I found out that he had gone out with the girl and slept with her. We went to a counselling session and he said he was committed to working things out, but he refused to cut contact with her, so I moved out permanently. I've arranged to move into an unfurnished flat.

His flat was a shell when I moved in. I bought a whole new freestanding kitchen to replace the 2 cupboards he had, got the bathroom tiled, had a shower fitted and got new lights fitted. I replaced his broken bed frame, we sold his sofa (he got the money) and bought a new one which I 'm still paying for. I lifted all the laminate in the living room and carried it down 3 flights myself and replaced it with carpet.

He's gone away this weekend with this new girl and when he comes back, he'll have relatives with him to stay as they have a family funeral. I feel like a heartless bitch to go in and take the sofa, the bed frame and a couple of the kitchen units. He'll have an armchair to sit on and a mattress to sleep on. And he also owes me £1500 for a credit card.

OP posts:
bibbitybobbityyhat · 28/03/2016 21:14

Stay strong and don't wobble op. You have been just bloody perfect so far!

nilbyname · 28/03/2016 21:15

He's a knobby mcknob head and that's all on him!

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 28/03/2016 21:16

Block and delete the tool.

ouryve · 28/03/2016 21:19

So you left him his dummy to spit out, then?

Poor diddums.

flanjabelle · 28/03/2016 21:21

Block. Delete. Laugh.

YouTheCat · 28/03/2016 21:22

What an idiot!

IPokeBadgers · 28/03/2016 21:22

Do not engage. Your best revenge is letting him work himself into a froth without giving him the pleasure of getting a reaction out of you :-)

ThatsNotMyRabbit · 28/03/2016 21:28

Hah what's happening op?

Waltermittythesequel · 28/03/2016 21:30

Did he literally text "you're a total shitbag"??

Your response should be "where's my money?"

AlisonWunderland · 28/03/2016 21:35

Don't reply but don't block him so that we can laugh at his rants.

Just what did he expect?
He gets to keep your furniture, your £1500 and your pride? No siree!

CantAffordtoLive · 28/03/2016 21:36

You are not, not in the eyes of any reasonable person. In the eyes of a cocklodger, you are the biggest total shitbag ever!! lol... A badge to wear with pride OP! Because you didn't roll over and let him shit all over you! Well done woman! :)

Tiredemma · 28/03/2016 21:36

Play him Rihanna 'Bitch better have my money' on a loop

cranberryx · 28/03/2016 21:44

"If I'm a shit bag, I dread to think what YOU are.

I have taken MY belongings. I have proof of purchase and we are not married. Think about it in the eyes of the law dumbass."

And block his number.

Btw OP, you're hilarious and I am glad you were brave enough to go back. I don't know if I would have been. He is an arsehole.

Stuffythedragon · 28/03/2016 21:51

Good for you OP! I have been in a similar potion and the only thing I left with was my sad face! Wish I had the balls to take everything that was mine (practically everything in that bloody house)

Well done. Delete, block and enjoy your cocklodger free life Smile

Aussiemum78 · 28/03/2016 22:02

Guess his new woman isn't ready to pay half his mortgage and renovate his home yet?

He might have to horror pay for himself for awhile.

starry0ne · 28/03/2016 22:15

Just to point out if he wants a shit he needs to by toilet roll..

You are as far from a shit bag...You could of acted on a lot of things on this thread...You have held your head up high.

Well Done Op

TiverMeShimbers · 28/03/2016 22:17

You are awesome and what you have done is not at all shitbagish.

He is a dick.

Unicow · 28/03/2016 22:19

So you are a shitbag? Good job you took all the loo roll...Wink

magoria · 28/03/2016 22:20

A shit bag eh and there you were telling us you couldn't shit on demand...

StableYard · 28/03/2016 22:25

Did you take kichen stuff eg saucepans, cutlery etc? What about the fridge and freezer?

suzannecaravaggio · 28/03/2016 22:28

nice work Earworm!

Really it is a kindness to leave his place exactly in the (sorry) state it was before you moved in with him, that way he can put you behind him and move on with his life

ExpandingRoundTheMiddle · 28/03/2016 22:29

You have taken what is yours. It isn't reasonable for him or any of his family to expect you to continue to bankroll him. He's bloody lucky you're not going after a share of the flat. Don't fall for any of the grieving family stuff. He's made it so that's nobe of your business now. Maybe the new gf can put them up.

nicenewdusters · 28/03/2016 22:29

Not a nice text for you to receive Earworm. But I think we can say that's a result !

Shitbag Earworm 1 - Micropenis Wank Throne a.k.a Johnny No Bog Roll 0

Duckdeamon · 28/03/2016 22:32

He's so clearly the shitbag. You're well shot of him.

Fyaral · 28/03/2016 22:32

You have the moral high ground. You are totally in the right.

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