To think a teenage girl sharing a room with a 6 year old boy isn't fair?

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AIBU to think this isn't really fair? Or is it?

Depends. You need to give more info.

Are they siblings?

Is it permanent or short term?

Yes, siblings on a permanent basis.

There's a difference between fair and necessary. Do they need to share, due to space? In which case it really sucks but oh well. Or is there a spare room she could have, but isn't allowed? In which case it is very unfair.

Totally agree with honeysuckle

Sometimes life is unfair.

Fair isn't a right. I presume there are reasons, they are sharing.

If there are no other rooms then why shouldnt they share? Ideal situation - own rooms if they want it. However we dont live in an ideal world.

The other option I'd personally look into if it was my family is three boys sharing, or two younger boys sharing, eldest boy and girl having their own room and a sofa bed downstairs.

I get what you're saying but I'd have been a bit mortified to have shared a room with a younger brother at that age.

What's your connection to them, lights?

Relative :)

Does the relative mind?

so there are 3 boys? how many bedrooms?

Three bedrooms. Yes, three boys and there are actually two girls but one has moved out so just one living there.

Maybe the girl doesn't want to have her bedroom in the living room.

Maybe the parents don't want to have to go to bed so their dd can get some sleep.

I go to bed far later than dd. She would be knackered for school if she had to wait til I went to bed.

Fact is, it's non of your business. It's not ideal, nor is it the end of the world.

My DDs a teenager. I don't think she'd mind one bit.

But it sounds lite it's nothing to do with you.

You have no idea, perhaps she wants to share with him. None of your business unless either/both of the DC express unhappiness and specifically ask for your help.

Personally I would have the three boys in the biggest room, girl in the smallest room and parents in the other one. However it's up to them.

I had to share with my half brother who was 9 years younger than me when I visited my dads EOW. It didn't kill me. Not ideal, but they couldn't magic up another bedroom, could they?

How does she feel about it? That's all that matters really.

Curren I meant the parents.

Maybe they don't want to, but she doesn't want to share her room with her brother but she has to.

It is my business when two relatives are very unhappy but I know in Mumsnet land you can never comment on other people's business, even when it's impacting on the happiness of people you love.

Lottie, bit of a difference between EOW and every single day.

Unfortunately sometimes relatives are unhappy but there's nothing you can do about it.

Not ideal, but that's life.

3 kids in one room isn't particularly any better- nor is using the lounge as a bedroom.

Not everyone has the money or space to give their kids a bedroom each.

No, but moaning on here can be therapeutic:)

I wouldn't think many people have room for a 6 bed house, but I feel the situation could be managed a bit better.

Threads in AIBU about family are rarely therapeutic. But hey. it's early.

Not for you, clearly.