name shortening at nursery

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Please tell me if I am being PFB about this.

My dd is 18 months and has been at nursery from 9 months. When she started we told the nursery what shortening of her name we use (there are a few options). After a while I noticed that some nursery staff were using a different shortening so I asked the key worker if they could use the specific shortening we use. But I have noticed that some staff continue to use that other shortening, including the room supervisor. It sounds quite different to the shortening we use. It's a bit like her being called Catherine, at home being called Cathy and at nursery being called Katy. So what they are calling her there really sounds a lot different to what we call her at home.

I don't want to come across as a crazy PFB parent but I want to say something again to the staff. My DP thinks there is no need to say anything.

AIBU?

I have a 7 letter name that really doesn't lend itself to being shortened, and it pisses me off when people try. I ALWAYS correct them. It's rude to call anyone a name other than the one they've introduced themselves by.

At nursery, infants and juniors I was asked what dd's name was. She has a Gaelic name and if you look at it very confusing how to pronounce. All teachers were very happy that we didn't ask them to put her full first name on books etc. Have told dd there are so many letters in her name she gets to choose herself when she's a bit older. The only people to say her name correctly are me, dp and dd. And only sometimes

When my son started at nursery, we filled out specific forms. One of which was "by which name is the child to be known as?". We expressed our preference, only to catch the nursery teachers out time and time again. And repeatedly, I would correct them.

Fast forward to starting school. We filled out the near same forms and specifically requested for our son to be called by his full name. And now we find ourselves in the same scenario - correcting his teachers repeatedly as they all fail to understand our basic request...yet again.

Quite right. This is rudeness and laziness on every teacher's part. My son was Christened with a certain name. Please do me the common decency to address him by it...in full.

No, you're NBU, OP.

I've spent my entire 40 years going by the abbreviation to my middle name. I love my middle name, but it is the biggest PITA with banks, doctors and the like and "what's your real name" is a permanent question.

I believe Dad added my first name in on a whim on the way to the registry office.

No probs with my middle name, its abbreviation or the familiar (Abigail, Abby and Abs) but I beseech you to consider official shizzle with forms. First name is lovely too, it's in the ordering.

Still considering shelling out to officially move it around given the hours of my life this has taken...

And of course they should go by the name you identify

YANBU. While she is small, it's for you to decide what she is called. When she is older, it will be her decision.

We don't shorten dd's name and neither do her teachers. Her friends do, and that's fine, because it's done affectionately and dd is happy with it. Thankfully, they have chosen shortened versions which I like, over and above the one which I dislike, but I fully accept that it would be out of my control had they chosen the other!

Mindys now your son is at school don't you think it is up to him? They would be doing him the courtesy or discourtesy now, not you - what is your son's opinion?

I know my youngest, who would have started school last September if her were in the UK, has his own opinions which are distinct from mine, just as they should be... He also already has a nickname he is happy with, given to him by his friends (which started when a friend with a speech delay started to say his name slightly incorrectly, but DC3 was incredibly proud because his is the only name the friend says at all aside from his own!)

4 is when it becomes the child's business not the parents IMO - parents of course back up child if the child is having problems getting listened to...

YANBU. I have an unusual 1st name but its only 3 syllables. There is an English name that could seem quite similar, only 2 syllables - but, its not my name. I didnt like my name being mispronounced/changed when I was younger, I don't like it now and will always correct people. Its not hard to pronounce at all. I like the name I have. Whats so hard about using either full name or nickname, but being consistent with the nickname?

You can't make them though, can you?

Well bottom line, a nursery is a business and pissing off customers makes them take their money else where and isn't something nurseries are keen on.

So yes, I think OP can. I bet the manager and owner can too.

Well after repeatedly asking them to call her by her correct name I would start calling each one of the staff by a bizarre version of their names too including in notes to nursery etc. see how they like it

I would speak up about it!

YANBU. I have a long-ish 4 syllable name (e.g. Elizabeth) and a 1 syllable nickname I often use (e.g. Liz) It doesn't stop people allocating the fairly common 2 syllable nickname (e.g. Lizzy) despite me never using it or being known as it

DS is a two syllable, with a shortened version available which is a name in its own right (e.g. Jacob), I'm hoping people don't abbreviate his unless he wants them to!