Goady fuckers on threads...

[Lambrini]

Aibu to think there's always one?

Constructive criticism, great, advice, brilliant, strong opinions, also great for getting a new perspective on situations.... But, goady fuckers, a different kettle of fish entirely, example...

Op - DD's rabbit died last week, she's very sad.

I'm not sure whether to get another rabbit when she's ready or perhaps a Guinea pig instead?

Goader - It sounds to me like you're not particularly good at looking after animals. In fact I'd say you probably shouldn't be allowed to have pets. I feel sorry for your DD.

pinkflowerbluesky Enjoying someone else's drama on MN? Perish the thought.

Thanks for the clarification.

for you pink.

OP: i'm looking for an alternative to skinny jeans. I'm size 12-14. Any ideas?

GF: i would not been seen dead in SKINNY jeans if i was as fat as you.

The thing is I know if a thread is long running or it's an established poster or a particularly distressing subject it's different but some of the wailing about trolls is insane!

People write a paragraph giving some generic 'ltb and claim benefits and get counselling', the thread emerges to be made up and some people act as if their trust in human nature is shattered forevermore!

pink I think the damage is real, though. It creates a climate of mistrust. And the long-running ones are the worst.

I posted on a thread that disappeared today. As I wrote, I was thinking my way into another person and (sounds silly) caring.

The thread disappeared. Presumably, it was all fiction.

I did feel as though something had been stolen - stupid though that sounds.

Which is why we are always warned to give no more than we can afford.

Women, traditionally, are the emotional caregivers, the ones who do the emotional work. It's devalued - we scarcely have a language to recognise it's value or discuss it as work.

I don't think we should easily dismiss what it is that trolls 'steal'.

Oh I totally agree and don't want to sound dismissive of the damage that can be done.

But I think some people are aware of that damage and claim to be more affected than they are in order to further stick the boot in.

Back to thread, though.

GF-ing is weird.

And I need another picture of a GP - or a rabbit playing an oboe.

That's really interesting, Cat. I can see your argument.

Would it feel like any consolation to you to think that maybe a lurker (by which I just mean someone who reads but does not post) in a similar situation to the thread that you're contributing to may draw strength from the discussion, even though in fact you're giving advice to a poster who is not what they seem.

Surely trolls can't steal evidence of kindness, which is one of MN's great assets? Or even well-expressed good advice? (unless the thread disappears, of course...)

Usual, then report. It's miserable being genuine and torn to shreds because someone's decided you're a troll.

mrssteptoe. That is lovely and true as well.

Thank you for saying that.

Trolls

This thread has reminded me why I like Mumsnet- thank you. I have hung around for years, but rarely post these days because it just seems to have got so goady and just mean - which is never nice.

GFs hunt in packs. You only need one to start and then the rest pile in.