AIBU about my DP's sandwich making weirdness? This is serious shit.

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My DP made me a BLT last week. I asked for mayo, so he put mayo on one slice of bread, then butter on the other.

I didn't want butter, and thought it was weird that he considered that an integral part of sandwich making. I politely pointed this out and he said he wouldn't put butter in my sandwiches again unless I specifically requested it.

So, the other day he made me another BLT. No butter. Just mayo. All good you say? NO! Because he only put the mayo on one slice of the bread. So I had one dry slice of bread on one side of my sandwich. I went to get the mayo to add to the dry bread (because WTF?) and he now claims I am massive sandwich fascist and there's no difference between having sauce on one slice of bread rather than both.

I think he's a massive freak. Plus he always slightly toasts his bread before sandwich making. Which makes my unbuttered/unsauced slice EVEN DRIER!

Please tell me there's no one else out there this odd?

i'm definitely a butter OR mayo person.

BLT should be butter.

Club sandwich is a mayo job.

"DH would butter a wrap and this is NEVER acceptable"

Scoopy I agree, that behaviour is shocking!

Butter both slices right to the edge, stingy buttering is the worst.

Then mayo or whatever, then the filling/s then a drizzle more mayo, and tiny smear of red pesto on the top slice. Then squish down. Cut into 4 squares. Cup of tea on the side. No lettuce.

Creme fraiche in a wrap, then grated cheese, then ham, tomato and salt and pepper. Diet Coke on the side. Not tea. Tea is only for sandwiches.

How do you people not know this stuff? Is surely learnt at your mother's knee. #sandwich laws

Dp does this. He only butters one side and also lightly toasts stales up the bread.

OP, Your Dh's sandwiches sound just fine to me, but I've been living in the US where sandwiches are a whole other level of odd. Butter needs to be requested and mayo is on the filling not the bread. So now if it comes between two slices of bread, or stuffed in a roll or some form of bread I eat it.

i am the sandwich maker .....dh never puts anything nice in

I like butter, on both slices, a selection of multiple fillings

cheese and ham
ham and pickle and cheese
marmite and philly
salad and ham
coleslaw and ham and beetroot
chicken

mayo may be dobbled in amongst the fillings to bind it together
or dip
or soured cream

If dh makes a sandwich it will be bread, butter (on both sides) and a single slice of filling....even if it is that vile wafer thin ham

and the worst of it is ...i can hardly bear to type this.... he cuts them into rectangles

Butter is for toast not sandwiches! I do have a big thing for mayo, it goes on very generously in my sandwiches.

Ah, this thread has reminded me of that lovely AA Milne poem:

The King asked the Queen
And the Queen asked the Dairymaid,
"could we have some butter for the Royal slice of bread."

Bread needs Butter. The King says so.

Dry bread is just wrong, and butter in a BLT is too greasy. (And BLT is an anagram of LBT. )

Butter is fine and has its place.

However that place is not in a BLT, or a ham sandwich, or a sandwich with any kind of cold meat actually. For these I would use mustard and mayo - not hot mustard but a grainy German style. BLT in particular has to have mayo because of the L&T. But there is no mustard in a BLT, ever. I like my BLT toasted, with mayo on both slices.

Tuna salad and egg salad sandwiches don't need any more mayo and they should always be made with toast. No butter necessary.

I only like butter in aged cheddar sandwiches. It never goes with mayo or mustard or relish or any other dressing. It's great on toast with or without marmite/jam/honey. It never goes with peanut butter or any other nut butter, but it's acceptable with 'butters' that are more jam-like such as apple butter, but only if soft. Lumps of butter with apple butter are horrible surprises.

Peanut butter and raspberry jam is a nice children's lunch food. PB with Nutella is for kids aged 2 to 92 as they say. No butter needed.

I am probably doing sandwiches all wrong. I don't eat meat but, if I was making something like a BLT, I would probably mayo both sides of the bread and not bother with butter.

I am the main 'cook' in my household but once when I was feeling under the weather, t'other half offered to make me a wrap and;

-Didn't microwave the wrap first, so it was all hard and turgid and unravelled as soon as it had been put on the plate
-Filled it with a (veggie)sausage, no sauce , no salad no spread
-AND A RAW MUSHROOM!!!

I will never forget it and never accept to not make my own sandwich

Thank you Adrift

Forgetmenotblue I like your thinking but my mother has probably never seen a wrap in her life. Floury buns (baps) all the way during my childhood, usually fillwed with corned beef (and beetroot if we were lucky).

In fact the wraps or soft floury baps are my sandwich casing of choice. Much better than doorstep bread sandwich that I need a flip-top head to eat or an untoasted cold ciabatta that takes several hours to chew (glares at DH).

mathanxiety Will you marry me? I'll make sandwiches just as you like them.

PinkPjamas WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK?! Was he high?

Butter only if there is a dry filling eg naice ham or cheddar cheese.

With any kind of sauce or coleslaw no butter. No butter on a cheese toastie. No butter with cream cheese.

On toast only no butter if topping is peanut butter or beans/spaghetti hoops.

Hope that's made it clearer.

Is this post really worth 117 replies? You don't like his sandwich making, do your own. DH buttes bread with bacon in it, yuk, grease, grease, grease, I say put my bacon on One side and I will make my own.

Well, it's a fun topic so it's been deemed worthy . It also helps foreigners like me decipher the British mind and prevents situations like when I presented my DP with an open bacon sarnie.

Sandwich Laws

Hot Sandwiches
Either
Butter or
Mayonnaise

neither is compulsory but they are NEVER to be combined.

Cold Sandwiches
One of the following:
Mayonnaise
Salad cream
Cream cheese

One of these is compulsory but they are NEVER to be combined. Butter is not to be used unless it is in an Exception Sandwich.

exceptions to the Cold Sandwich Law are (aka Exception Sandwiches)
Jam sandwiches
Marmite sandwiches
Marmalade sandwiches
Peanut butter sandwiches
Honey sandwiches

SPREAD/MARGARINE IS ILLEGAL IN ALL SANDWICHES

there is no exception to this law.

The right way to do a BLT is to toast the bread, no butter, chop up the B, L and T and mix them into a filling with the mayo and serve between the toast slices.

Butter has no place in a BLT if the bacon is hot.

If it is cold, it is OK.

Butter should never appear in a sausage sandwich, hot or cold.

All other sandwiches require butter.

DP says this is faddy and arbitrary. Simple creature.

YANBU.

My oh doesn't butter bread because he 'can't'

The only ones that do not require butter are peanut butter sandwiches and nutella sandwiches.

No butter on sandwiches for me, either hot or cold. I have butter on toast but it has to be melted so I can't see it. If I see butter on bread I get the heebie geebies.

That all seems reasonable Judy!

Penny - What fresh hell is that?