AIBU about my DP's sandwich making weirdness? This is serious shit.

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My DP made me a BLT last week. I asked for mayo, so he put mayo on one slice of bread, then butter on the other.

I didn't want butter, and thought it was weird that he considered that an integral part of sandwich making. I politely pointed this out and he said he wouldn't put butter in my sandwiches again unless I specifically requested it.

So, the other day he made me another BLT. No butter. Just mayo. All good you say? NO! Because he only put the mayo on one slice of the bread. So I had one dry slice of bread on one side of my sandwich. I went to get the mayo to add to the dry bread (because WTF?) and he now claims I am massive sandwich fascist and there's no difference between having sauce on one slice of bread rather than both.

I think he's a massive freak. Plus he always slightly toasts his bread before sandwich making. Which makes my unbuttered/unsauced slice EVEN DRIER!

Please tell me there's no one else out there this odd?

You can't make a BLT without lettuce!! L = lettuce. Pearl clutching moment there.

WHAT? no Dijon? tut.

Mayo is not a sauce IMO

"If the butter is too cold to spread properly "

I put a portion in a wee pot and soften it in the microwave for a few seconds. Can't have a sarnie wo butter on the bread.

Butter only goes in my sandwiches if it's a warm filling (bacon, chips, fish fingers)

No butter on any other sandwich. Might just be able to put up with it on a meat or cheese butty, but never put it on a tuna sandwich.

After 15 years you'd think DH would've learnt this by now.

Now i've got have a bloody sandwich!

Butter and mayo is disgusting and should be banned.

Putting spread on one side of the sandwich only is wrong.

I'm with you, OP. DH has strict instructions to never butter a sandwich unless that's the only spread going on it. And if the filling is a mayo one (egg/tuna), then no butter either. He, on the other hand, thinks butter should go on every single sandwich no matter what. And even worse, he uses plastic marg spread instead of actual butter. Although that might be to ensure I don't pinch his sarnie...

OP, would you like to meet my OH?

Only if you could stand watching him cut all the fat v..eerrrrrrrry carefully off the bacon though.

Mayo on one and butter on one wouldn't bother me, but a dry slice is just wrong!

DP eats sandwiches without butter, sauce or spread

Butter is essential, so YABU.

But only putting it on one slice is ridiculous, I'll give you that.

Personally I don't think mayo is meant to be spread on bread, like butter. It's a topping for the filling

YANBU. butter and mayo in sandwiches is wrong, it's either one or the other. and mayo-ing (or indeed, buttering) only one side is just weird and wrong - who wants a dry piece of bread in their sandwich?

But butter is essential, esp if you're not eating the sandwich straight away as it stops the bread going soggy, as Moving On said before

Frankly I'm stunned that anyone can think that butter on a sandwich is wrong.

OP, YABVU.

Butter is mandatory.

'Butter and mayo is disgusting and should be banned'

Yes! This! I the true spirit of AIBU I choose to only acknowledge the agreeable replies.

Though all you people telling me to make my own sandwich. Pshaw. Did I not mention my laziness?

I never have a dry slice (boak!) but if there's mayo there should be NO BUTTER. Mayo does the job of lubrication perfectly well on its own. See also: egg mayo sandwiches, tuna mayo sandwiches, prawn sandwiches.

Doggers - that sounds vile.

All you people who combine mayo and butter together should be rounded up and kept somewhere secure for your own safety.

Hmmmm, it sounds as if you're using mayo as a butter / spread replacement and not as an extra , you should specify this upfront to afford confusion.

I personally like a bit of spread on both sides of the bread and then the condiment added on one side. The spread acts as a barrier to stop mayo being absorbed into the bread and making the sandwich too dry.

It's the T I'm particular about. I hate hate hate when the tomato is next to the bread. Why would anyone do this? Show me one person who likes wet bread that falls apart in your hands. Bruschetta is different because it doesn't go on soft pappy British bread. Sturdy ciabatta style stuff can hold its own against a tomato.

It should be a BTL: bread, butter/mayo, bacon, tomato, lettuce, butter/mayo, bread. The bacon and lettuce act as a buffer.

Mayo is not sauce. This point is crucial.

LTB

I agree about the T completely, Sushi. Tomato next to bread is awful.

If someone is kind enough to make me a sandwich I eat it. If I don't like it I would make my own in future but I wouldnt have the cheek to complain.