AIBU about my DP's sandwich making weirdness? This is serious shit.

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My DP made me a BLT last week. I asked for mayo, so he put mayo on one slice of bread, then butter on the other.

I didn't want butter, and thought it was weird that he considered that an integral part of sandwich making. I politely pointed this out and he said he wouldn't put butter in my sandwiches again unless I specifically requested it.

So, the other day he made me another BLT. No butter. Just mayo. All good you say? NO! Because he only put the mayo on one slice of the bread. So I had one dry slice of bread on one side of my sandwich. I went to get the mayo to add to the dry bread (because WTF?) and he now claims I am massive sandwich fascist and there's no difference between having sauce on one slice of bread rather than both.

I think he's a massive freak. Plus he always slightly toasts his bread before sandwich making. Which makes my unbuttered/unsauced slice EVEN DRIER!

Please tell me there's no one else out there this odd?

My Mum told me off for this a few weeks ago. I have always done butter the bottom slice then filling then other slice. Had no idea ive been doing it wrong all these years.

Oh please, donajimena. I make all his dinners, and don't do weird shit when I do. A correctly made sandwich is the least he owes me. He does make good tea though.

When I first met DH he used to make himself the most awful sandwiches (because he was being super stingy). He'd get 2 rounds of dry bread put two slices of chorizo and two slices of cucumber between them (so it was mostly dry bread and almost no filling) and eat it. Bleurgh.

I think the way mayonnaise has ingratiated itself as THE default option for sandwiches these days is abominable. Hate the stuff. Good old fashioned butter on both slices all the way here.

Down with mayo.

StepAway and you still married him

Sandwiches are a minefield. I cannot abide mayonnaise in general and butter has no place on sandwiches. The solution is cream cheese.

Unfortunately my husband has a heavy hand with the CC which is almost as bad as butter or mayo, and he's always trying to secretly convert me to mayo because he thinks my mayo aversion is an affectation.

I make my own sandwiches.

If I buy a sandwich at work I have to ask for butter and I get an evil death stare off the cafeteria staff otherwise it's just dry ham with a slice of ham etc in.

I've worked there 7 years and it's the same staff giving me that glare every week...

*dry bread

Butter is an integral part of general sandwich making and for that YABU.

YANBU. Club sandwich is toasted bread. BLT most definitely is not. And WTF is he doing putting butter on a BLT? Butter is for crisp sandwiches. Mayo for all other sandwiches

Well said PuppyMonkey. Mayo has no place in a sandwich, or even anywhere in my kitchen! And butter ALWAYS goes on both slices, whatever the filling!!

Don't get me started on work sandwiches with their shitty marge and their vinegary cheap catering mayonnaise. Fuckers.

Krampus: the sandwich-making problem wasn't a dealbreaker really. In any case, I have since converted him to the benefits of butter and enough filling in a sandwich (as you might imagine, this wasn't hard, as my sandwiches were so self-evidently superior to his).

If only I could persuade him that toast is only toast if the bread changes colour. Otherwise it's vaguely warm bread.

Butter is a crucial part of a sandwich, unless the sandwich contains nutella or peanut butter. In the case of a BLT, I would also probably put some mayo on each slice then lots of bacon, lettuce and tomato.

Oh yes, my DP also believes that bread becomes toast as long as it's been within 1 foot of the toaster. Anymore than that and he seems to think it's dangerously carcinogenic.

So many people who eat mayo and butter together.

Nope you're the weird one. I have butter on both slices and mayo on one

I am with you OP. You don't have butter on the bread when you have a BLT. Each side of bread should also have mayo on.

sigh I have a dry-slice DH here as well. And nearly every day it's ham, cheese, butter on one slice and a dry slice. So dry. If I remember/have time I try and add mayo myself before I leave for work.

It so lovely that he makes us all a sandwich for work/school every day and I am being very ungrateful but honestly, is a bit of mayo or coleslaw or tomato too much to ask?? He will also vary the menu occasionally with tuna...and cheese. Which somehow, inexplicably, makes the tuna sandwich drier than it would be on its own!!

Oh please, donajimena. I make all his dinners, and don't do weird shit when I do.
This is where you are going wrong.

Be clear what you want. If he insists on doing the opposite, you have the means to successful negotiation.

Mayo does the job of lubrication perfectly well on its own. See also: egg mayo sandwiches, tuna mayo sandwiches, prawn sandwiches.

All those sandwiches have butter when I make them.

Are you from the states? I am originally and I can still remember vomiting a bit into my mouth when I first had buttery sandwiches. I was quite little but I know that butter was wrong and mayo was right.

See the way I look at it the butter seals the bread surface, thus stopping the bread going soggy from the L & T. Having sealed the bread surface you can add the mayo however you choose because it wont soak into the bread.

Buttering only one slice of the bread is rather letting the side down. Gavel.

of course butter is an integral part of a sandwhich!!!

YABU.

Also, Mayo is a sauce / condiment, not a spread. Like Ketchup.

YABU because it is wrong to have no butter on your sandwich.