Aibu to think people who rather a child stay in care than be adopted by gays

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Aibu to think people who would rather a child stay in foster care rather than be adopted by gays have real issues are there hatred of gays is more important than a child's well being

Following on from this idiot judge to was quite rightly removed for allowing his personal feeling on gay adoption rather than applying the law

Listing to the bbc London and so many people Felt a child was better off in care

As an adopter myself this is not a issue of gay vs straight couple it's a issue of gay vs a life in care with many moves

And tbh if straight parents were that fab the children wouldn't be in care all the children we fostered came from straight parents

I just wonder if these people could aculoy look a child in the face and say there is a gay couple who wants you but I think it best yu stay in care for your natrual born with a straight face

Also they don't factor in for some children who have been abused by say men two women would be ideal for that child ect

Of course gay people should be able to adopt.

Gay couples and single gay people can have children in other ways such as sperm donation, co-parenting or surrogacy. There's no good reason to exclude them from being considered as adoptive parents like anyone else.

Radio programmes do tend to select the most 'response-garnering' people to go on air, though. I think it's where trolls-without-the-internet might be likely to be found.

The bbc is particularly good at encouraging/ giving air tine to people with crazy views

The magistrate has been on the family bench for FIFTEEN YEARS. In that time I doubt he has ever seen a case of neglect or abuse from a same sex family. So he spends FIFTEEN YEARS dealing with the worst of what opposite sex couples can inflict on their children and still manages to conclude that gay parents would be a problem.

There are not enough palms for my face.

I think it is abhorrent that gay couples can adopt

What are your reason for thinking this, Ebony?

Ebony; you're confusing the right to have an opinion with the right to have that opinion taken seriously.

Your view can be both a valid opinion (which you are perfectly entitled to hold) and wrong at the same time.

Ebony you don't say why gay people shouldn't be allowed to adopt?
So you think children should be left in care rather than go to a loving same sex home?

I'm not left-wing but I am strongly opposed to this magistrate's position. You don't have to be left-wing to despise bigotry, or to challenge those who practise it.

People who phone in to vent on the radio are idiots, it's because nobody else wants to listen to them.

It isn't that children are either left in care or adopted by gay couples. More couples, gay or straight, single people should be encouraged to adopt so that there is a choice to match all the different children with different needs with the best parents.

It's funny because in my family growing up, the most functional relationship to role model was my lesbian aunt and her partner!

They never adopted because it wasn't accepted then and fertility technologies didn't really exist either. I always thought that it was such a shame because they'd have been great parents. Still, I benefitted as did my aunt's (now) wife's nieces and nephews!

Ebony, you can hold any feelings you like, as long as they don't result in a child being left to rot in a miserable care home instead of getting the chance to be part of a loving family.

It's only 'deviant' in the sense that it's a minority sexual orientation. Sexuality doesn't mean tiddly squat with respect to parenting. Not wanting to paraphrase Marco Rubio but here goes : I'm not saying that because it's politically correct, I'm saying because it's correct.

People who type their views on public forums are no different to those who phone up radio shows TheSinkingFeeling...Except maybe they are more accountable for their opinions and cannot hide so completely behind anonymity!

Ebony - Read my earlier post on why sometimes a gay couple may clearly be a better choice.

Plus, what children need is permanence and a sense of belonging. The exact make up of the family is less important. Gay couples when being assessed will be checked that they can show 'traditional' couples and opposite genders as a models for families as well as themselves.

I can only assume you hold your views from a position of ignorance of the issues of children in care and adoption.

TeenAndTweenTo assume makes an ass of you and me....or specifically you!

I have first-hand personal experience of fostering/adoption.

I do not believe it is natural or normal and do not like the way the left have succeeded in inserting pro-homosexual attitudes in our culture.

The left? There are plenty of right-wing people who are gay or non-homophobic.

Why don't you think it's "normal" to be gay? Just because something isn't in the majority doesn't make it "not normal".

It's not against nature, because nature produces gay people as well as straight people.

Ebony I think your views are revolting.

Ebony, your views are bigoted and revolting.

I can't believe people still feel this way in this day and age. My parents faced huge uproar when they adopted me and my brothers. A black couple adopting a set of Japanese triplets was almost punishable by death 20 odd years ago! Never mind the fact me and my brothers have had an incredible up bringing by two loving parents who's skin colour I've never even really taken notice of. I really can't see how that's any different to a hay couple adopting.

What about non whites adopting Ebony, is that bad too? Because your views about gays are just as revolting.

It makes me really sad that there are still bigots out there like you, it really does.