Aibu to think people who rather a child stay in care than be adopted by gays

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Aibu to think people who would rather a child stay in foster care rather than be adopted by gays have real issues are there hatred of gays is more important than a child's well being

Following on from this idiot judge to was quite rightly removed for allowing his personal feeling on gay adoption rather than applying the law

Listing to the bbc London and so many people Felt a child was better off in care

As an adopter myself this is not a issue of gay vs straight couple it's a issue of gay vs a life in care with many moves

And tbh if straight parents were that fab the children wouldn't be in care all the children we fostered came from straight parents

I just wonder if these people could aculoy look a child in the face and say there is a gay couple who wants you but I think it best yu stay in care for your natrual born with a straight face

Also they don't factor in for some children who have been abused by say men two women would be ideal for that child ect

Nicely put as always Kew

Well I thought it was more reasonable teen than my first thought of suggesting to those (including aforementioned judge) that if everyone who disagrees with gay/black/single/disabled/insert own sweeping generalisation of choice adopters should get off their arse and adopt and then all those fluffy ickle children could have fluffy ickle parents and live happily ever after inside a daisy chain garland.

The normal response is "Oh I would but... I don't have a spare room/my husband won't let me/one day I plan to (that day being 30 February 2017).

Like none of us have even moved houses/left partners because we wanted to have our child so badly

kewcumber nails it.

Which sounds a bit deviant on a Monday afternoon. ...

No, sounds like a fairly standard Monday pointy

I mean I do get that people are entitled to their opinion n'all but I'm also entitled to ridicule that opinion when I'm in a bad mood and am dealing with shit that said judge probably would run away screaming from.

As a single adopter I'd obviously have point deducted for being "different" and subjecting my child to that but how many points do I get for choosing to have sex with men [ironic desperate smile emoticon]

The thing is though - this magistrate is of course entitled to his opinion, but he is not entitled to bring it into his work. Not when the actual evidence contradicts his opinion in every direction, not when he is supposed to be acting in the best interests of children who have already had it tough in their lives.

If your beliefs and opinions do not allow you to do your work to the required standards, you need to piss off and do something else. That applies to GPs who refuse to prescribe contraception, registrars and marriage counsellors who refuse to interact with gay couples and pharmacists who refuse to prescribed the MOAP. Do the job you signed up to do or fuck off.

Just coming to see exactly the same thing MrsDV
An utter cunt. And a miserable joyless one.

I'm glad I didn't see that, I'd have thrown something at the telly. He's the kind that gives Christians a bad name.

And of course there are studies showing the exact opposite of what he's saying, so we do know. He just doesn't want to know. Utter twat.

Here is the actual research.

America, 2010, study found no evidence that children raised by same-sex parents fared any worse than other children on a range of behavioural, educational, emotional or social outcomes

Australia, 2013. On measures of general health and family cohesion children aged 5 to 17 years with same-sex attracted parents had significantly better scores when compared to Australian children from all other backgrounds and family contexts. For all other health measures there were no statistically significant differences.

Scotland, 2009, Fairtlough found that accounts of experiences of gay or lesbian parenting were predominantly positive

American Academy of Paediatrics - gay parents are as good as straight ones

Children of lesbian parents may do better than their peers

25 year long study finds children of lesbian parents do better

The children of lesbian parents outscore their peers on academic and social tests, according to results from the longest-running study of same-sex families

I'm going with liar.

I'm imagining that either

a) he has read no research at all but imagines that he knows the "right" answer because God, or

b) he has read the single study which says that the children of gay parents do worse, which was universally slammed for being atrociously skewed (the author, who was open about it being a religious text rather than actual science, compared the children of happy monogamous heterosexuals with the children of opposite-sex parents where one parent had a homosexual affair - i.e. parents where at least one was engaging in deceit and the family unit was breaking down - and then blamed the ensuing family misery on the homosexuality rather than the affair.)

It's not exactly rare to get bigoted magistrates / judges though is it!? They are hardly known for being progressive thinkers, though hardly surprising given the Public school old boys club thing.

... and there was me thinking buggery was practically a requirement for public school types.

Yes. Buggery doesn't count if there's a respectable wife to keep up appearances. Or if it was larking around in the showers

I was amused by the men (most had wives) on a recent program I saw who used male and 'top only' MTFT prostitutes, yet every one of them had an excuse for why they were actually straight as a poker it was both funny and sad that there was such denial / repression.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-kent-48694066

He lost his case. Another nail in the coffin of free speech.