AIBU - pants at night

[FinallyFreeFromItAll]

So reading the bedding thread there seems to be the suggestion that some people don't wear pants at night. This is seriously a pearl clutching moment for me.

So AIBU to ask - doesn't everybody wear pants at night, whether or not they sleep otherwise naked or wear PJ's? And wouldn't your sheets or PJ's need more frequent washing if you don't wear pants at night?

Some women have very little vaginal discharge, so sleeping naked or knickerless would not affect their pyjamas or bedding. But SOME women have a lot more. So if they slept knickerless the bedding/pyjamas would be affected (have quite a lot of marks on - and yes this includes sitting up on the bed. It's not silly. It's just a fact for a lot of women).

Some people sleep quite still under the duvet and their undercarriages do not come in contact with the bedding. But some twist and turn and wrap their legs around the duvet so their vajynkles do touch the bedding.

It's like the pantyliner/period threads, where no one can understand other peoples bodies are very different but still well within 'normal' realms.

If i slept pantless my arse crack and thighs would be very wet and uncomfortable and the bed would have marks on. And while it isn't radioactive or disgusting. It is uncomfortable and would mean more frequent laundry. Knickers and panty liners absorb it and make me more comfortable. I am not bothered about nudity tho, i happily walk round the house starkers. I just can't sleep like it any more.

I've asked this question before over on the dark side, How do naked people scratch their arse in the middle of the night without getting smelly fingers.

By keeping their arse clean.

I know, right? I'm always gobsmacked on threads like these that there are apparently grown adults who don't actually know that your arse isn't supposed to stink or that your vagina isn't supposed to spew so much gunk you ruin your bedsheets. Pants/no pants is the least of their problems, surely; sounds like half these people need to either learn how to shower properly or get themselves to a doctor pronto!

spiders

OH is usually boxer free under his PJ's though.

WTF - he might as well go to bed fully clothed

I don't have much more to add but just wanted to say I bloody love this thread.

rideme sounds v painful either way you poor love.

Whoever told me that sleeping nude is actually warmer than you think, I am actually going to give it a go tonight. DP might be in for a bit of a shock. I shall report back. Obvs a very serious experiment.

I sleep naked and as far as I can tell I don't seep and ooze all over my bed!

These people who sleep naked - how hot are your houses?! Do you keep the heating on at night? That's not very good for environment, health or your pocket.

You need to take off the judgy pants.
I sleep naked. My heating is never above 17 and is off from 10.30. I have my bedroom window open all year round and only a summer duvet.

Me too.

Naked.
Heating off.
Bedroom window open.

Yup, same here - sleep naked, light weight duvet, heating off at night. I really don't get cold.

Every time I re-enter this thread I'm always .....seeping, oozing, poo pellets

Knickers always, mostly on there own or occasionally under pj's.

I will often wear a top, but in the summer tend not too.

My mum always taught me you're not supposed to wear pants under a nightie and she knows everything.

More prosaically, pants or no pants are a useful non verbal signal to an interested partner whether or not a shag marital communion is on the cards.

Naked always. Same for DH.

So the non verbal signals are clear here

Me and DH don't do non verbal signals at all and would both really hate it if we did. We say quite clearly when we would like a shag.

I wear pjs without pants. I find it more comfy

I used to sleep naked but I'm breastfeeding at the moment and it feels weird to wear a bra and no bottoms.

Normally wear DH's boxers rather than my pants tho cos my underwear tends to give me a wedgie if I wear them overnight.

Summer = knickers and vest top. Bedtime knickers are cotton boy shorts, don't wear lacy daytime knickers to bed. Always clean on

Winter = PJ bottoms and top. Usually no knickers except during my period when it's pants and a pantliner under the PJ bottoms. Change PJ bottoms every couple of days if not wearing any knickers underneath which does add to the washing.

Or at the moment while I'm pregnant and on the delightful progesterone pessaries (aka fanjo bullets). I've had to bulk buy pantliners to avoid ruining all my undies with white oily goop. As Always have stopped making unscented ones my pants now all smell like a glade plug in. Boak.

Erm and re how do knicker wearers cope with sex, does no one else have a shag towel? Whip out from under the bed / behind the sofa, then no one has to sleep in the wet patch or face incriminating spunk stains on the couch.

That is so grim. No. No shag towel here. We use condoms usually and just go to the bathroom after.

Do you just put the same shag towel back and keep re-using it all crusty and stained? Do you have them dotted all round the house? I take it you don't have toddlers/young dc?

Why would anybody want a sh*g towel?
That is just strange
So you don't have spontaneous sex then? If you have to whip the towel out first.

People's sex lives are strange. Nothing shocks me any more.

Do any of the pants wearers also have dogs and cats? because I'm wondering how you are coping with dogs and cats and all their bodily fluids, paws which have been in strange places, been licked, farting etc... to then have said animals coming into the house jumping on the bed or the sofa

Serioulsy, you will ALWAYS be in contact with some sort of body fluids. This 'I want to avoid unwanted contact with any body fluids from people of my own family! at any cost' is a lost battle.

Yep the shag towel is just grim....

Shag towel goes straight into the wash obvs. If you don't use condoms then I'd rather get a towel messy than the sheets I'm gonna sleep on personally

Towels are in the bedroom and if you're so minded outside the bedroom then it's not terribly difficult to get a towel. If you're using condoms it's presumably not terribly much more difficult to get a clean towel as it is to get a condom.

No children yet. I mention putting a towel down on the sofa given others had talked up thread about naked bums on sofas. I dunno if they put a towel down if they're starkers on their sofa at any point, but I certainly do on the odd occasion that presents itself.

Shag towel sounds like a good idea.

bananafish81

You've given me a giggly with the sh*g towel.

I not judging if a sh*g towel floats you boat go for it, but my husband would think I was raving mad if I suggested this not that I would want to in the moment of wanting sex with my husband I couldn't care less about the bed or sofa

Yup each to their own!

Learned through bitter experience of incriminating stain on his sofa back in the day. Funnily enough didn't notice it at the time as you're not really thinking 'I must tidy up' post shag. Or at least I'm not! Wasn't my sofa so I wasn't that fussed haha. Put a towel down and you can make as much less as you like!