Not to want the 4 strange teenagers in my home this weekend?

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DSS lives a long way away, but is visiting this weekend as the team he manages has a fixture in our town. He rang DH this morning to ask if 4 team members could stay with us too, as their accommodation has fallen through. I wasn't keen as I don't know any of them and don't really want 4 teenage boys in my home. I contacted a work colleague who lets her flat through Air BnB and she agreed a good rate. Sent the details to DSS. He has now texted to say can they all stay here anyway, as it would be cheaper. It's three nights. AIBU to say no?

I'm glad you relented in the end.

OK your DSS is taking the mickey slightly, he is after all a teenager, but surely it's nice to be able to do something like this for him.

Quite right though - you aren't running a B&B so your young DCs are perfectly at liberty to get up when they want and to want to see their DSS when they do.

You're doing a fair bit of sucking up on this occasion and whilst I think it's the right thing for you to have them, your DSS can cope with being woken up fairly early.

DSS isn't a teenager, he's 24!

OP, I don't think YABU at all and I agree that your DH is being a spineless twunt!

Yes Always they get to keep the money.
I'm not sure I'm "letting" the DCs wake people up, they get up early as children do. Actually I'm up with them, have given them breakfast and am reading to them, (put a stop to the loudness outside the door) and everyone else is in bed so I don't think there's much to complain about. Also the competition isn't a physical sport.

I wouldn't! One night maybe but 3 fuck that!.

Omg, now the op is being criticised for letting the dc that live in the house make noise in their own home! As though she should be providing a quiet guest house! I understand the lads are probably very respectful, pleasant etc and I don't think they are to blame here. Op isn't feeling on top of the world so isn't feeling up to having guests, op has a family to consider who should be able to enjoy the weekend relaxing in their own home, the op and her dh would probably have appreciated some time with Dss in the spirit of him coming to see them not just using them as a crash pad. He has behaved really poorly here.

The whole thing is an utter piss-take of biblical proportions.

I can just hear the DSS before he announced their arrival: "don't worry lads, we'll get to keep the accommodation allowance as we can all go and stay with my Dad!" Their accommodation having fallen through is a complete fiction and everyone knows it. The asking for a lift from the station was the icing on the cake. The DSS is utterly ruthless and completely without shame.

I'd be very, very angry with both DSS and the wimpy, spineless excuse for a husband.

haha yes it's very funny she's getting a hard time over her own kids living in the house as per normal and disturbing the cheeky sponging feckers!

your dh better tell his ds that on no account can he ever fucking do this again!! it's just not on. and dss had better leave a really nice bottle of wine and some flowers and clean all their shit up too. and grovel and be generally very arse licky.

Thanks for the supportive messages. The young men have been fine, generally polite and friendly to DCs. It's actually rather nice having them here, and I feel loads better after a good sleep last night.
Totally agree with the last two posts, except DH is genuinely not usually spineless at all, just where DSS is concerned. I do think when the dust has settled from this weekend I need to talk him through the cycle that happens, it's not good for any of us.

Cross posted with eddie - no chance of a gratitude present from DSS I think, it wouldn't really occur to him.

Gawd, I remember when mine were 3-years-old. LOL at keeping them quiet for guests. They get up early and are not quiet about it. My son has ASD and still has broken volume control.

Sweet. Fucking. Jaysus. Whilst sleeping, DSS has lashed out his elbow and caught the other young man in bed with him in the face. His nose looks possibly broken. DH has taken the two to A & E, with taxi money to return. I have just been scrubbing blood out of the carpet. All of the boys are totally focussed on whether the young man will be ok to play tomorrow, and utterly pissed off with DSS - it's a total accident and he's mortified. Thank God DCs didn't wake up.

If they were friends yes.
Freeloaders no.

Oh no! I hope he's okay.
And I hope the blood comes out of the carpet

I would not like to be DSS when the parents get a look at what the coach did to their sons nose, that is NOT going to go down well!

Next you may well have 4 lovely teenage house guests and no DSS!

DH gave them taxi money? !!!!!!?

I missed that!

FFS! So they dont pay for their stay, trouser the allowance and he pays for their taxi?! No wonder he loves staying with you OP!

The carpet is fine I think. The bathroom was like a horror film. I felt sorry for the poor boy, he's only 18 and his nose is definitely broken, not a great time to arrive at A&E on a Saturday night either. Yes they didn't have any cash and DH wanted to go home so he gave them £20 - not a problem, there's not really any other way to get back. Now my cold seems to have returned and I can't breathe to get back to sleep.
Happy Mothers Day!

I wouldn't mind 1 night, but not 3. I wouldn't guilt trip about it either, these are grown adults! Your DSS will still see his friends, and between 4 of them surely they have accommodation money. They'll just have to use it won't they

Youve done a lot of dripfeeding in earlier half of thread tho, adding in DCs, au pair, theft etc.. if you say what your situation is in the 1st place it helps re. getting balanced opinions. Also makes me wonder if you have the room for 4 adults to stay

5 additional adults not 4. They are in a double bed, double air mattress and single air mattress in DC2's room while DC2 is in with DC1. We do put them in together when we have guests to create a spare room, but it means they tend to wake earlier than when they're separate. The sleeping arrangements are clearly problematic given last night's incident.
They came back about 3.30 - not bad for A&E on a Saturday. The nose is apparently not broken and not much more to be done until the swelling goes down. He was advised to go back in 3 days, so will get it looked at when he's back home. The nose made him snore incredibly so the others look like they've had a bad night.
The young man with the nose came to apologise for the bathroom and bedsheets (I hadn't seen the bedsheets, they were a sight to behold. Now on boil wash), poor boy. His nose looks very painful. They have to leave by 8.30 this morning to get to the competition and have all had a rough night so I have put TV on for DCs and am being served coffee in bed by DH, also knackered. Once they're gone we are having special MD breakfast.

Eek what a nightmare.

Anyone else itching to know what the 'competition' is?

I was bring vague deliberately ! Let's just say it's more geek than athlete.

Ah, I think you did the right thing letting them stay. He may be a young man but your Dh is his father and given the nose situation with one of them it's good that you and Dh were around.

But I speak as someone who regularly has 4/5 extra 18 year olds in the house to stay, usually when there's a party nearby. It's fine by me because we do have room and where they sleep is a basement room far away from me and Dh. If they stay up until 4am it won't wake me. So it is easy for me not to mind.

I think there's nothing wrong with being kind if you can (and can afford to be in terms of your own family etc)

But I am a pushover sap, I know

i bet it's chess

It might make them think twice next time they try to save money by all crashing in someone else's room. Hopefully will make your DH think too.