Thank you mumsnet but it's over

[ComeonSummer1]

Been a poster for the last 8 years and it's been good.

However recently things have changed.

Far too many adverts seem to pop and it's got too commercial.

Tonight there's a really nasty mil thread that consist of posters slagging off their mothers/mils for doing the ironing FFS.

Earlier posters defended a paedophile footballer.

Anyway time out and sadly end of an era for me.

I actually can't believe half the threads here as so ridiculous.

It's sad but the site isn't what it was.

[Sparklingbrook]

I wouldn't Ruby, imagine a really good friend posting for the first time and getting ripped to shreds.

[Happyrouter]

You can get Adblock for iPad, I have it installed now. You just install the app and then enable it in safari settings.

[Sparklingbrook]

I didn't find MN until my DC were 12 and 9 so I have very little experience of the baby stuff on here TBF. The bits I have seen have been a bit mixed.

I wouldn't tell them not to bother maybe to proceed with care then. Depends what help they were after.

[louise987]

Love the irony. You post on MN to say it's not worth your time anymore. Just leave and be done with it!

[thecatfromjapan]

It is very different. Post-Jeremy, I am far more cautious about posting on threads where it is not so clear whether the OP is very stupid or a troll - I now wonder whether the thread is set up to trawl for hits and hacking. Before that, I used to abide by the old mn guidelines that you engage politely to put forward positive information in the public domain.

And there are a lot of posters who seem unbelievably thick - with emphasis on unbelievable.

[thecatfromjapan]

And I have to say, I have a RL parenting problem, which I would really like to get advice for, but I have discounted posting on mn for it. I know I'd have to wade through a river of crap to get to the few brilliant and helpful posts - and I 'm just not up to doing the internet equivalent of the Shwshank Redemption at the moment. I'm psychologically vulnerable about this issue and the responses from a lot of posters would result in a kind of personality carnage.

[LoveBoursin]

No irony for me.
MN is good if you are in a righjt place. NOt the riht place to come if you are feeling weak for whatever reason.
Pg when it is all weel is good. Pg when thngs aren't that good, I would be careful.

That's my experience over 11years, 2 dcs and quite a few issues in between.

I used to love some of the discussions on here because some people had a lot of depth.
I've used MN to try and understand how British people act/react better (and now understand why some people got at me in RL)
There are a few subjects where I've ;l;learnt a lot (eg SN and especially AS).

[LoveBoursin]

No irony for me.
MN is good if you are in a righjt place. NOt the riht place to come if you are feeling weak for whatever reason.
Pg when it is all weel is good. Pg when thngs aren't that good, I would be careful.

That's my experience over 11years, 2 dcs and quite a few issues in between.

I used to love some of the discussions on here because some people had a lot of depth.
I've used MN to try and understand how British people act/react better (and now understand why some people got at me in RL)
There are a few subjects where I've ;l;learnt a lot (eg SN and especially AS).

[LoveBoursin]

Sorry posted too soon (and wo corrections)

But nowdays I'm on here because it's an easy read, doesn't require a lot of effort from me and that's the best I can manage (I'm ill atm, can't read anything more complex unfortunately).

[LoveBoursin]

And it posted itself twice

[LoveBoursin]

YY thecat people seem to forget that it's a real person on the side of the screen and can act llike bullies expecting the OP tp follow their direction because somehow they ARE right.

You can see that in the Relationship threads, parenting or even AIBU where people chose to focus on one bit of the OP and ignore everything else.

[thecatfromjapan]

That's it exactly, Boursin. And you have described how I engage with mn too. That's a change from how I engaged some years ago.

[Twinklestein]

[Birdsgottafly]

""The demographic of people is different and the subject of discussions ...""

For me, that's a good change.

When I joined it was very much a "Down South", Uni, Career, Mortgage and children late on, in life, forum.

Where I am, in Liverpool and the people that I have worked with, both paid and voluntary, life choices are very different, but just as valid.

I never realised that people who earned min wage were so looked down upon and pitied. Most people that I know are happy to be working, because jobs are few and far between.

Paid bar at a Wedding, not happy to give money as a gift, angst about attending events, no contact until weeks after giving birth, never experienced it in RL, when I've brought up threads to others, they're often in disbelief.

Style and beauty has explained why people from the London areas never seem to look what we would describe as "dressed", even at Weddings.

The site's quality of posts, has risen, since I lurked in 2010, posters are more knowledgeable, you still get the odd stupid question/answer, but not as much when the answer to everything was "get a car/hire a cleaner/doula".

You need a break every now and again, though.

[stopfuckingshoutingatme]

And I have to say, I have a RL parenting problem, which I would really like to get advice for, but I have discounted posting on mn for it. I know I'd have to wade through a river of crap to get to the few brilliant and helpful posts

TRUE DAT

there are some proper vindictive cunts on here. and some really lovely sweet people

the problem is for someone vulnerable, 1 one shitty comment hurts them more than the 9 nice ones benefit them

[daffodilsandbooks]

The same faces always appear on 'it isn't as it was' and there are a minority of vocal posters about this issue who agree with one another.

I think it's just life; things don't stagnate, they change. I've been here on and off since 2009 and it's much the same I think.

[TrueBlu]

I've been a mumsnetter for 8 years and think if anything it's slighter 'nicer' than before, whether that good or bad depends I guess. There is less flaming and a wider variety of views/opinions as the demographic seems to have shifted slightly.

[Deletetheheat]

I've been a member since 2006.

I really don't get the 'Mumsnet has changed' stuff.

Yes it's bigger, yes more ads - that I get. Otherwise it's just ridiculous rose coloured specs. There was always nasty MIL threads and always people with dodgy opinions.

There was ALWAYS bun fights and personal attacks on AIBU!

I find threads like this so boring and ridiculous. It's an internet site! So fucking what!

[FenellaFieldmouse]

I too have been a member for 8 years and I have to say that when I first joined I was torn up, ridiculed and basically bullied by a group of posters who ruled the roost.
But then there was the thread by a mother who's child had died. The support, the love and the understanding was amazing.
Tiktok spent hours talking people through breastfeeding problems.
I found a great group of fellow pushchair obsessives enthusiasists.
There was poo on a poofe and blind dates by the penguin pool.
MN has good and bad and always has.

[ExConstance]

I've noticed some very entrenched views and a serious decline in spelling and grammar. One thing ( as the mother of two sons) that particularly alarms me is the hostility shown to mothers in law by many posters. At the moment there is the ironing thread and another where in - laws are not trusted to cook after a four and a half month old baby for a few hours while the parents are at a wedding. Surely if your DH is lovely it is a testament to his parents skills?

[TinklyLittleLaugh]

Personally I think Mumsnet has become
More aggressive
Less intelligent
Less funny
But less cliquey

It's kind of like when your slightly dodgy neighbours crash your party.

[BunnyTyler]

I've been here about 3 years I think, only just came back recently after about a 6 or 7 month break.

I would recommend MN to other people, I like it.
My kids are 10 & 13 now, so I don't tend to comment on the parenting topics - I usually stick to things in active.

I've learned loads from MN over the time I've been here, because there is such a diverse membership - access to a huge cross section of society.
I've definitely had my mindset broadened even though I thought I was pretty broad minded in the first place.

[TrueBlu]

More aggressive
Less intelligent
Less funny
But less cliquey

I would say less aggressive
Less intelligent
Just as funny
Less cliquey

[MrsJorahMormont]

The problem is that AIBU and Chat have become the main go to boards and all the interesting niche boards are half hidden and ignored. If you just use the active threads box a lot (like newbies would) they'll never even discover half the other boards because AIBU is always the main one.

[BitOutOfPractice]

I think making a big announcement on MN that you're having some time away from MN is a sure fire indication that you need some time away from MN