Thank you mumsnet but it's over

[ComeonSummer1]

Been a poster for the last 8 years and it's been good.

However recently things have changed.

Far too many adverts seem to pop and it's got too commercial.

Tonight there's a really nasty mil thread that consist of posters slagging off their mothers/mils for doing the ironing FFS.

Earlier posters defended a paedophile footballer.

Anyway time out and sadly end of an era for me.

I actually can't believe half the threads here as so ridiculous.

It's sad but the site isn't what it was.

[Homeriliad]

Not defending the footballer obviously, but the girl was 15, so he is not a paedophile. /pedant

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

No he isn't a peodophile.

I feel the same OP, but I can't tear myself away quite yet.

[WorraLiberty]

I actually prefer Mumsnet now to when I first joined 5 years ago.

Back then, it was fairly common for some regular posters to decide they didn't like a thread and deliberately take it off topic.

Often, if someone argued/debated over a feminist issue, suddenly lots of posters would arrive to shout that person down until they gave up - like a weird call to prayer

There were more self appointed thread monitors who used to add nothing to a thread, other than "What is your AIBU"? or they'd decide no-one was allowed to type "LOL" because they didn't like it.

On the whole I think it's a better place, although still too many self appointed grammar/spelling monitors, making themselves look like twats.

[fourkids]

thecatfromjapan, I wouldn't post about a real problem either (by 'real' I mean something important rather than something made up), although I might offer my thoughts to other people.

This is a shame because I have a serious and ongoing situation which I really don't know how to handle, and there is anther poster on a thread who has been through exactly the same thing, handled it admirably, and come out the other side. I suspect she is even local to me from something she has said. But there is no way I am baring my soul for the people who have absolutely no experience or understanding of the situation to tear me to ribbons. So all I can do is take encouragement from reading her posts. And that is valuable in itself.

I think there are fundamentally two reasons why I wouldn't. I can't for the life of me work out why anyone wants to be so nasty to anyone else, but clearly some people revel in making other people unhappy. I do not want to be the butt of that.

But I also don't get why people can't have a discussion or debate where people just share their opinions on the understanding that we will all have differing ones (opinions) and sometimes we will change our views, of our own volition, from seeing other people's posts and thoughts. But instead (in RL too) people seem to be desperate that other people should agree with them because they are convinced they are 'right' and therefore anyone who disagrees is wrong.

However, I love MN because I love the light-hearted posts, plus I am fascinated by some of our differing opinions, views, habits etc. I love how many people clean the shower in the nude...and how many think it's weird, and the diversity of loo brush use or otherwise etc.

[LoisWilkersonsLastNerve]

worra I know what you mean, there used to be a lot of 'head girl' types who are thankfully now lost in the mire. There are posters from more walks of life now. I know that's brought issues but on the whole I thinks its a good thing.

[JugglingFromHereToThere]

I've been here for years, pretty much all through my DC's childhoods. God it's been a life-line at times when punched in the stomach by a sudden family bereavement, or just last summer getting DD through her GCSE's - so nice to create a little community of Y11ers and get to know and support one another.
I've learnt so much too, and it's been so interesting.
What a fab group of warm, wise, and witty women
I think it has changed a bit over the years but not sure exactly how ... I think I have noticed a slight increased commercialisation.
Sometimes I find the blog posts mildly annoying as just slightly superficial or predictable. Not always of course

[Cruntie]

Oh god, it's not as good as the old days.

All those thick people posting. Some of them might even be poor, or uneducated. Disgusting.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

The calls to prayer still happen. 100% sure of that

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

I know many poor or uneducated people and people of all different intelligence levels.

They don't spout ignorant views.

To say that complaining MN isn't as good because it has ignorant views on is objecting to poor or uneducated people posting is just showing your own prejudice tbh.

[BillSykesDog]

Ignorant people with ignorant views. When people say that they normally just mean 'Anybody who doesn't agree with me'.

[LoisWilkersonsLastNerve]

I can't be bothered with this inference that mumsnet has been spoilt by 'those pesky working class posters'.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

I don't think people do infer that very often. People object to it but I don't see it happening much.

[TheoriginalLEM]

mnet isn't what it was gor me. i think itspartly because i have seen every permutation of parking/coffee shop/ear peircing/benefit/daily mail bashing/ltb angst that there isover the years. I no longer give a fuck about the sahm/wohm debate and whether people feed little rinaya quinoa flavour pom bears.

I do still find support on the mn boards though.

I am busier than I was and therefore have less time but i don't find i get so involved in threads.

I do think it isme that has changed and feel no need to flounce, however i can see it being a slow fizzle.

[bananafish]

I've been here for 8 or 9 years and I think the site has changed a lot, but that's the nature of the internet, isn't it?

The typical user demographic of mumsnet has widened out, it used to be very London centric, AB1s, professional, educated, (possibly too cliquey, tbh,) but I loved that, because that was my tribe, as it were.

But it's bigger now, wider audience and has a different slant, and that's just how it is.
I don't think AIBU has done the site any favours. I dislike the tone there, immensely; all that hideous "straight talking", which is just an excuse to behave badly, and it leaks into other areas of the place. There are other boards that are quite grim as well, but it's just about making liberal use of the hide function.

And there are lovely parts to mumsnet as well. And I've had some really kind words over the years, that I

Also, depends how you use the site. I've always been quite casual and intermittent. If you are heavily involved, as you can tell some people are, then it's a very different user experience.

[bananafish]

cherish - oops missing word

[thecatfromjapan]

To be clear: 'unbelievably thick' = troll.

[thecatfromjapan]

fourkids

[Sparklingbrook]

There are a lot of posters that seem to have agendas now. They seem to think everyone needs to be 'called out' and lectured and educated.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

One persons agenda is another's fighting for inclusion for their kids.

[Sparklingbrook]

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

I would seriously far rather have people who feel strongly about stuff posting than those who leap in just to bitchplop in AIBU. People generally have serious reasons if they feel pretty passionate about something I think.

Don't need to be confused. .it's OK to disagree and discuss this surely :)

[DeoGratias]

Sometimes there are issues some of us feel very strongly ove r- say Scottish independence or whether we support Labour ot the Tories or in or out of the EU and sometimes people have strong views on a topic - for many of sex with a huge great 15 year old girls is nothing like as bad as fucking a 3 year old. That does not mean we don't understand the other party's view point.

When we won the election (hurray) I was very mindful of how upset Labour supporters were and those of us who voted the Tories in tried very hard not to be unkind to the losers.

[BillSykesDog]

Yes Fanjo, but your posts do seem to be saying that you only want people with strong opinions to post if you approve of and agree with those opinions.

[Sparklingbrook]

I am only confused because children being included is not on my list of topics where people seem to have agendas.

Hiding threads and whole topics works well on the whole for me.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Yes..sometimes people are very entrenched in their ways and not through lack of understanding the other party viewpoint, I agree.