Shoes off house rule

[BettyBi0]

So we have a shoes off rule in our house. Mainly because of the grubby London streets and dog poo everywhere locally plus a floor licking toddler.

Every time my parents visit I have to ask them to take their shoes off. EVERY Fing TIME! They act like its such a massive imposition.

AIBU or would you just shut up and put up?

Everyone who lives here - shoes off

If they don't live here - their choice, I feel really rude asking guests to take their shoes off.

YABU I don't understand why people do this. It makes me feel awkward as I either don't wear socks and have to display my (recovering from) fungal infected toes, or if I do wear socks, they are usually odd socks with holes in and a bit bobbly and there we all are padding around like we are in a spa.

Especially if it is a formal setting of some sort where there's going to be a meeting to discuss financial or house matters - like your mortgage broker, or someone coming to survey the house. Are you going to ask them to take their shoes off too? So you all sit round the table and talk about interest rates, or pad around the house without shoes on like you are at some kind of sleepover?

Also lots of people's confidence is helped by the shoes they wear. They make them taller, are part of their outfit etc.

YANBU! And for people who say you shouldn't ask, I think it's rude for people to step into your house with shoes on. I always assume a shoes off rule unless a householder says 'don't worry about your shoes!' when they see me taking them off.

My Mum has a pair of slippers that live here.

YANBU. Your house, your rules.

We have a no shoe rule here. If people don't like it, they are under no obligation to stay.

Shoes off here too! And people generally tend to take their shoes off, can't remember ever having to ask someone to do it.

To those of you who like keeping your shoes on, why is this? (Genuine question, I'm from a shoes off country so have never gotten my head around why people want to keep them on.)

I think it is rude to expect guests to take shoes off.
Some people may find it difficult to bend to take shoes off and put them back on, particularly if there isn't a seat at the door.

YANBU, shoes in the house is icky. We wouldn't ask adult guests but mostly they notice and just take them off anyway. Though like OP our parents are the exceptions and just can't be arsed. I find it rude.

YANBU. This really grinds my gears. My aunt just this afternoon came upstairs in her shoes! And into dd's bedroom. But at that point it's too fucking late....

Mrstiggy I'm always in shoes. I have indoor shoes on at home all the time. I feel really miserable if my feet are cold. I think it's rude to ask people to take it off if they feel awkward to display their feet or feeling cold.
I would rather clean my floor than make someone do that.

Yanbu.
I always take mine off at people's houses as I presume they want me to.

I don't ask people to at mine though because I cringe at them sitting there in their socks or bare feet (no idea why, weird I know) and I don't take mine off when a guest comes unless I'm in for the day or it's family.

I have a disability that affect my feet and can't walk/be out of pain without shoes that fit me properly - they go on in the morning when I get up and stay on till bedtime- and slippers just don't cut it.

If I had to take my shoes off in your house I'd just not come in. You'd be free to wipe the so.es to get the dirt off if it helped but I couldn't sit in your house without shoes - my specially selected shoes - on my feet!

It's very unwelcoming to ask guests to take their shoes off. If they do without being asked, fine. If your family are used to it, also fine. But unless guests shoes are visibly caked in mud, it seems rude to imply that their shoes are too filthy to be allowed into your home.

YABVVVVU

It is a massive imposition and I think it's very rude and unwelcoming.

I hate shoes off. I'm short, no shoes makes me feel fat, short, frumpy.
I never manage to find matching socks either, and some of mine even have the odd hole in - why should I have to show that to you?

I also get cramp if I don't enclose my feet in some form of footwear.

If you must impose this on your guests I would suggest you keep some form of heeled slipper that they could wear instead.

Get a doormat!

To the shoes on brigade don't you feel rude? Would you take them off if muddy? Would you wear shoes on carpets?

Excluding weegiemum.

But shoes are filthy.

Puts kettle on and gets comfy to watch the inevitable bun fight.

YANBU

No shoes on here, either. Or well, I don't mind shoes downstairs that much (no carpets), but anyone wanting to go upstairs has to take their shoes off. It's not carpet love. I hate carpets but am stuck with them because of my weird British DH!

What about verrucas???? athlete's foot? I'd take my chances with the shoes I think....

That depends really how long they are staying. We have a shoes off household for family and long term visitors. Others who only come for dinner/coffee can leave the shoes on, and I simply clean before letting the baby loose on the floor again.
So if they only come, walk from door to sofa and out again - fine, I can manage. If they stay for a few days, I certainly wouldn't want them getting the entire house dirty.

This always divides the masses! I think YABU IMO, I thinkinto rude to practically say your carpets are too good for your guests dirty feet. It's just not very welcoming.

I also hate "your house your rules" gub, it makes it sound like you can be as unreasonable as you like to other humans and impose any rules no matter how ridiculous, just because they're in "your" property