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just asked someone too leave my house. as all they have done is insult my baby!

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Murphyslaw21 · 28/02/2016 11:18

I'm fuming. An old work colleague has moved near to me, we always got on OK although she always had a brush up her arse. Anyway we bumped into each other the other day and I suggested she comes round for a coffee. So our two babies can meet. They are both 9 months.

So she turned up, and was very patronising about my house. It's a bit of building site but lounge is lovly. But I got the oohh you were brave doing that colour scheme. It's duck egg blue. Anyway let it go.

So I'm feeding baby girl and she says oh can't she feed herself. So I said she has finger food but mostly just gets licked and thrown. So I feed her whilst she is playing with finger food. Oh MINE feeds herself. Next it's playing on floor. Mine sits up but falls over if left, colleague says oh MINE has been sitting by herself for at least two months. She is very advanced for her age. Then she has made a comment that it's strange to be in baby gro rather than clothes. So I said but she can roll around and play without it all getting skirted up. Oh MINE just screames if she is a baby gro. She likes clothes. Final straw was I'm making a drink and she says oh arnt her eyes close together. So I said no quiet abruptly. To be told maybe it's just because she has a large head!

I'm livid. So I fly in and said exact words " oh fuvk off. You've done nothing but insult my baby, did u come round just to make you feel that your baby is superior". She then said you never could take criticism,

So I lost it and said ( I feel a bit bad about this because her baby is really cute) take your ugly fucking kid and get out, go bitch to your husband ... Oh no you can't cause he is shacked up with his girlfriend. And no I see why.

Ok I feel a bit mean about ugly baby comment but I was livid. I'm fuming so fuming. There was so many digs and comments. Why why why I would never compare my baby to someone else's and I certainly never been so rude.

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Murphyslaw21 · 28/02/2016 14:38

Back again....

I picked up my baby and walked to front door opened front door. She was still sitting on floor and I walked upstairs. She left within about a minute.

No won't see her at work as not going back.

Don't fill bad at all about husband comment. She was awful too him. And fell pregnant to keep him. We see first hand how she was with him and it was embarrassing her own mum was unsurprised when he left. So no I don't feel bad about that comment at all.

I do still feel bad for baby comment. But no I don't think I will apologise.

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coffeetasteslikeshit · 28/02/2016 14:41

What's wrong with having a large head? My DS1 has/had a massive head. Obviously it's because he has to house a massive brain Grin

FuckYouJamieOliver · 28/02/2016 14:47

I too have Laura Ashley duck egg OP tis very tasteful Grin

figureofspeech · 28/02/2016 14:49

ilovesooty no I didn't say it's her fault that her husband left her for someone else. I meant that if she continues to be a nasty person she will not have any friends/partner etc. Her behaviour will prevent people from wanting to be close to her. The incident this morning with the OP is a perfect example.

MiscellaneousAssortment · 28/02/2016 14:50

Golly. The husband comment shows you completely lost it and that's what I'd be feeling bad about.

But I guess that was what she was playing, a game of baiting you to see how far she could go, and how badly you would behave if you snapped.

I'd be expecting alot of gossip now as youve given her a great story for her to peddle. Hopefully your social circles don't overlap too much!

DixieNormas · 28/02/2016 14:54

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handslikecowstits · 28/02/2016 14:55

You should have called her a carcass, OP. Grin

Jux · 28/02/2016 14:58

I don't blame you, op. She sounds ghastly. (Wish I had your guts though Grin )

BerylStreep · 28/02/2016 15:21

So many times I have kicked myself for not saying what I think. Not sure I would have gone as far, but well done on not putting up with shit contemplates hideous frenemy who I put up with for far too long

Whocansay · 28/02/2016 15:30

I applaud you and wish I was as brave. I am the queen of thinking of a witty comeback 5 minutes too late!

ovaryhill · 28/02/2016 15:32

Only once have I lost the plot like that and it wasn't child related and thankfully it was a stranger
I just felt a red mist descend and heard hoofbeats in my head!
I am so ashamed of what I said and it bothers me to this day, it was like being taken over by a demon!
I can sort of laugh about it sometimes because the insults were progressively more ridiculous but I feel really bad mostly

Owllady · 28/02/2016 15:36

Coffee, does your ds21 have eyes that are too close together though?

My hairy baby is fourteen. I'm sure he'll love me for sharing that gem Blush

WanderingTrolley1 · 28/02/2016 15:39

She sounds like a nasty piece of work, and you probably shouldn't have let fly at her, but she had it coming!

StillYummy · 28/02/2016 15:40

I think she had it coming. But you kinda loose the moral high ground when you spectacularly loose your shit :). Least you don't have to have her round again. My mum is always criticising my baby and it really really pulls my chain so I can see why you snapped.

whattimewillyoubeback · 28/02/2016 15:41

I remember those people too. There was one whose catchphrase was "well I'm glad to say I've never had that problem with DC!" It could be anything that my baby was doing, projectile vomiting, whinging and grizzling, not eating, feeding constantly, up all night....etc. Hers did none of these things. Now it makes me laugh, but at the time she made me feel incredibly unhappy.

liz70 · 28/02/2016 15:49

"My DS1 has/had a massive head."

DD3 has one of those wide at the top, flattened at the back type heads that they sell those helmets for, that it's claimed are caused by putting babies to sleep on their backs all the time. Only in DD3's case she's looked like that from birth. Grin She's still gorgeous, naturally. Grin

newyear16 · 28/02/2016 15:53

Good for you

LifeofI · 28/02/2016 15:53

i take it your friendship is over now lol

Whatdoidohelp · 28/02/2016 15:54

She wound you up and kept on going and going so no wonder you snapped!

MorrisZapp · 28/02/2016 15:57

Why of course.

NotCitrus · 28/02/2016 15:57

Just started giggling at your "However I would just like to add my baby does not have a big head" !

I only really met one competitive mum (hippier than thou...) Until we went somewhere where her baby was 5 mo and crawling and mine was about 9 mo and stationary - within a few minutes her smugness disappeared as she spent the entire afternoon chasing her child, while I sat back on sofas and had a lovely time!

keepsane16 · 28/02/2016 16:08

Yikes! Sounds like you were not friends to begin with? If you describe her as having a brush up her arse why invite her over? Yes, the kids get to meet but if you don't actually like your former colleague why would you want her around? This whole situation could have been avoided no? I don't want to sound judgemental, not my intention at all, I just feel myself that if I cannot stand the parents it's not worth the hassle unless the kids are older and already friends and you have to make the best of it for them. Glad you stuck up for yourself and showed her the door but definitely harsh calling her baby ugly even out of anger still these thing happen in the moment.

mumofthemonsters808 · 28/02/2016 16:25

I take my hat off to you OP.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 28/02/2016 16:34

Been sitting up since 2 months old. That's the biggest bull shit. Ive ever heard.
You're were not being unreasonable to throw her out, but you were being unreasonable in calling her baby ugly, but you know that anyway.abs she insulted your baby so some may call it tit for tat.

Murphyslaw21 · 28/02/2016 16:37

Keepsan we bumped into each other. And had not seen each other for probably 11 months or so. And we had a nice little chin wag in the shop. I thought it would be nice.

Unfortunately within minutes I realised I had made a mistake. Not going to ever happen again.

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