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just asked someone too leave my house. as all they have done is insult my baby!

340 replies

Murphyslaw21 · 28/02/2016 11:18

I'm fuming. An old work colleague has moved near to me, we always got on OK although she always had a brush up her arse. Anyway we bumped into each other the other day and I suggested she comes round for a coffee. So our two babies can meet. They are both 9 months.

So she turned up, and was very patronising about my house. It's a bit of building site but lounge is lovly. But I got the oohh you were brave doing that colour scheme. It's duck egg blue. Anyway let it go.

So I'm feeding baby girl and she says oh can't she feed herself. So I said she has finger food but mostly just gets licked and thrown. So I feed her whilst she is playing with finger food. Oh MINE feeds herself. Next it's playing on floor. Mine sits up but falls over if left, colleague says oh MINE has been sitting by herself for at least two months. She is very advanced for her age. Then she has made a comment that it's strange to be in baby gro rather than clothes. So I said but she can roll around and play without it all getting skirted up. Oh MINE just screames if she is a baby gro. She likes clothes. Final straw was I'm making a drink and she says oh arnt her eyes close together. So I said no quiet abruptly. To be told maybe it's just because she has a large head!

I'm livid. So I fly in and said exact words " oh fuvk off. You've done nothing but insult my baby, did u come round just to make you feel that your baby is superior". She then said you never could take criticism,

So I lost it and said ( I feel a bit bad about this because her baby is really cute) take your ugly fucking kid and get out, go bitch to your husband ... Oh no you can't cause he is shacked up with his girlfriend. And no I see why.

Ok I feel a bit mean about ugly baby comment but I was livid. I'm fuming so fuming. There was so many digs and comments. Why why why I would never compare my baby to someone else's and I certainly never been so rude.

OP posts:
Hennifer · 28/02/2016 13:56

It sounds like she was playing a game, goading you, trying to make you lose it - which you did quite spectacularly.

I think what you said was pretty bad, but she's got you to do what she wanted now, and will probably tell everyone how awful you are.

Just avoid her permanently.

HermioneWeasley · 28/02/2016 13:58

*Murphys" do you have to see her/work with her again?

If not, relax and bask in the glow of a massive, but very funny, overreaction. I bet all of us have at least one time in our lives where we wish we'd had the courage to do what you just did!

StiickEmUp · 28/02/2016 14:00
Hmm
hmcAsWas · 28/02/2016 14:01

Wow, don't mess with you eh, Murphyslaw?

amazingtracy · 28/02/2016 14:01

My 9 month old is using chopsticks. Her eyes are so far apart they are over her ears.

I would love to meet up for a play date.

JamesBlonde1 · 28/02/2016 14:02

That was funny, you made me chuckle. She should have been a bit more diplomatic about what her child could do and the eye comment was out of order. How rude of her! I don't blame you snapping. Mothers are rightfully so, protective of their little ones.

Toria2014 · 28/02/2016 14:05

Ha ha! This is hilarious! Well done for pulling the evil cow up, how dare she insult your baby. I would never dream of saying anything bad about someone's baby no matter how ugly they may or may not be. Its just not the done thing. Maybe she'll think twice next time and keep her nasty gob shut!

candykane25 · 28/02/2016 14:07

The fact that she said that you could never take any criticism opened the floodgates IMO. Why should you be criticised in your own home? By a guest you have kindly invited? It's like she was actively trying to wind you up.
How rude to think it is ok to criticise you, your home and your baby. You were trying to be friendly and benefit the kids by enabling a play date.
All you need to do is apologise for the ugly baby bit and tell her the truth that in fact her baby is cute. Explain that your have a personality clash and have different values and its best if you don't mix again.

OnlyLovers · 28/02/2016 14:08

I think she got what was coming to her, tbh. I feel very relaxed about your comments about her baby; provoke someone enough and they will probably say something not very nice.

Screw her.

Sparklingbrook · 28/02/2016 14:11

Oh, so no apology now?

HermioneWeasley · 28/02/2016 14:12

I don't get what the issue is with calling the baby ugly - the mother won't believe it and the baby won't understand it. Hardly crime of the century.

ToomuchChocolatemeansBootcamp · 28/02/2016 14:16

Well done OP!! She def had it coming. The baby won't understand the comment and she was insufferably rude about yours in your own home. I wish more people would tell narcissistic/spiteful/rude people that their behaviour and comments are unacceptable.

MaudGonneMad · 28/02/2016 14:18

Twas pretty spiteful to tell the woman that it was her own fault her husband left her...

Baby comments were swings and roundabouts, but that was spiteful IMO.

CheesyNachos · 28/02/2016 14:18

I wish I could blow up and tell people where to shove their little digs too. looks at aunt

You might have way way gone too far, but to be honest you were right to call her on it.

escapedfrommordor · 28/02/2016 14:21

I feel like none of this happened. You're bored.

Billben · 28/02/2016 14:21

Good for you OP. How dare she. Don't feel quilty about anything you've said to her cos she won't.

Arfarfanarf · 28/02/2016 14:22

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MaudGonneMad · 28/02/2016 14:22

Definitely don't feel quilty, OP Grin

EweAreHere · 28/02/2016 14:25

Well..... frankly, I don't blame you. And her baby won't care one way or the other what you called it, just the mean woman you invited into your home trying to be nice. And she was rude and condescending and insulting as a thanks. She rather had it coming. Maybe it will help her remember to be nicer to others in future.

Deep breaths and move on. xx

Ickythumpsmum · 28/02/2016 14:26

Brilliant, wish I was more like you. I'd have sat there going, 'oh I quite like duck egg, would you like some tea?'

PaulAnkaTheDog · 28/02/2016 14:29

The comment about the colour scheme wasn't necessarily nasty. The comparing the babies is what a lot of annoying mums do. The eyes comment is just mental.

Tbh though, you're just as bad as her. Whilst her comments could be passed off as someone saying things and not really thinking about what they were saying, you deliberately went for the worst thing you could think of, just to hurt her as much as possible. That's just plain nasty.

Sparklingbrook · 28/02/2016 14:30

I think duck egg blue can seem very cold but i wouldn't say anything. Grin

specialsubject · 28/02/2016 14:32

sounds like four infants in the room - of which only two have the excuse that they actually are infants.

keep away from each other, that will keep the noise down. Or...

WaitrosePigeon · 28/02/2016 14:32

Cripes!

LoisEinhorn · 28/02/2016 14:34

Good for you, I don't blame you for losing it!

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