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just asked someone too leave my house. as all they have done is insult my baby!

340 replies

Murphyslaw21 · 28/02/2016 11:18

I'm fuming. An old work colleague has moved near to me, we always got on OK although she always had a brush up her arse. Anyway we bumped into each other the other day and I suggested she comes round for a coffee. So our two babies can meet. They are both 9 months.

So she turned up, and was very patronising about my house. It's a bit of building site but lounge is lovly. But I got the oohh you were brave doing that colour scheme. It's duck egg blue. Anyway let it go.

So I'm feeding baby girl and she says oh can't she feed herself. So I said she has finger food but mostly just gets licked and thrown. So I feed her whilst she is playing with finger food. Oh MINE feeds herself. Next it's playing on floor. Mine sits up but falls over if left, colleague says oh MINE has been sitting by herself for at least two months. She is very advanced for her age. Then she has made a comment that it's strange to be in baby gro rather than clothes. So I said but she can roll around and play without it all getting skirted up. Oh MINE just screames if she is a baby gro. She likes clothes. Final straw was I'm making a drink and she says oh arnt her eyes close together. So I said no quiet abruptly. To be told maybe it's just because she has a large head!

I'm livid. So I fly in and said exact words " oh fuvk off. You've done nothing but insult my baby, did u come round just to make you feel that your baby is superior". She then said you never could take criticism,

So I lost it and said ( I feel a bit bad about this because her baby is really cute) take your ugly fucking kid and get out, go bitch to your husband ... Oh no you can't cause he is shacked up with his girlfriend. And no I see why.

Ok I feel a bit mean about ugly baby comment but I was livid. I'm fuming so fuming. There was so many digs and comments. Why why why I would never compare my baby to someone else's and I certainly never been so rude.

OP posts:
MrsCampbellBlack · 28/02/2016 12:10

I swear half the threads I have posted on this weekend have been deleted. Is it because it is a leap year?

MrsDeVere · 28/02/2016 12:11

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averylongtimeago · 28/02/2016 12:12

Lots of people play these types of games, competitive parenting is annoying as are pa comments about your home, but as adults we learn to ignore, move on then avoid ......you are an adult are you not?

rereads OP perhaps not.

BertieBotts · 28/02/2016 12:13

WTAF? Confused

I think she was just trying to make conversation and is a bit clueless. You had the right to throw her out but to make horrible nasty comments is uncalled for.

myusernamewastaken · 28/02/2016 12:13

I feel more sorry for the op because she keeps being 'hunned' on here !!!!

Zariyah · 28/02/2016 12:14

YANBU. Ur bubz ur roolz hun xx

SouthWesterlyWinds · 28/02/2016 12:18

You basically pulled out a machete when a handbag would have done

😂😂😂

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 28/02/2016 12:19

I'm almost certain this isn't real but I don't care - it made me smirk!

Never mind the moral high ground, you did what everyone always wishes they could - came back with the perfect back-answer at the right time.

Grin
RonniePickering · 28/02/2016 12:20

Jesus tonight. She sounds like a nobber who talks too much and you sound like a nasty bastard.

I'd have probably launched you through your own window if you'd said it to me.

NoahVale · 28/02/2016 12:21

you cah.

she doesn't sound too bad, just probably nervous, all a bit pfb, and you are both new mothers.
but yes, on the whole it is a funny thread

elfycat · 28/02/2016 12:22

OP you're getting a hard time. Rightly so because you did take it a bit too far.

But only a bit. It's easy to say that calling a baby ugly is too much - but what was the eyes-close-together/ big head thing? A compliment? No she started with the insults and you exploded.

Next time try to say something more subtle (a hint mind) a minute before you go off like a bomb. Maintain a hint of control.

But 9 month old babies? . You'll be tired beyond belief and hanging on by a thread. A fraying thread which just snapped. You're probably feeling remorseful - learn and move on (It gets better, honestly).

Anomite · 28/02/2016 12:23

delete
Are you the work colleague?? please please please be!

Branleuse · 28/02/2016 12:23

you lost the moral high ground a bit but who cares, she was asking for it

Jackie0 · 28/02/2016 12:24

You're as bad as each other

GooseberryRoolz · 28/02/2016 12:29

How are you going to avoid baby groups, nursery socials and playgrounds for the next 15 years OP?

Or will you just scream personal insults like a fishwife every single time the competitive parenting thing happens?

RaskolnikovsGarret · 28/02/2016 12:29

I would never dare to do this myself, so am in awe. Despite being chronically sensible, reserved, non-confrontational and wimpish myself, I totally endorse your actions.

WitchWay · 28/02/2016 12:30

he funniest bit for me was her PFB preferring clothes to babygros - Grin

Complete bitch, glad you chucked her out - shame about the personal digs but hey ho - she started it!

WhoaCadburys · 28/02/2016 12:30

Wow, you both sound quite charming

SevenOfNineTrue · 28/02/2016 12:30

We've all over reacted when faced with someone competitive where there is no way on earth you could outdo them on any subject or someone has hurt us with their words and actions in our home.

Never see her again and leave it at that.

ShowMeTheWonder · 28/02/2016 12:31

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ghostyslovesheep · 28/02/2016 12:32

so she is alone with her baby after her partner walked out - did it occur to you that she may be trying to make herself feel better by comparing

that doesn't make it right but sometimes you have to consider why people behave badly - she's probably feeling like she's doing a shit job on her own - her house may well be a tip and she's barely managed to dress herself never mind her baby

It's fine to be pissed off but there are ways of dealing with it without behaving like a guttersnipe

GooseberryRoolz · 28/02/2016 12:33

Guttersnipe's a great word.

StableYard · 28/02/2016 12:34

Personally - I think good on your OP. If she can't take it don't dish it out.

DiscoGlitter · 28/02/2016 12:35

So I lost it and said ( I feel a bit bad about this because her baby is really cute) take your ugly fucking kid and get out, go bitch to your husband ... Oh no you can't cause he is shacked up with his girlfriend. And no I see why.

Really? Christ on a bike. Massive over-reaction, much?! Grin
Honestly, she sounds like a royal pain in the arse, but you sound worse, like something off a Jeremy Kyle episode!
Some people are like that. Have you not heard of competitive parenting? You know the type, there's always one whose baby was running marathons by the age of one, singing nursery rhymes in mandarin whilst playing an accompanying piano by the age of two.
You just roll your eyes, and limit seeing her. Not fly off into a blinding rage in a "get art me 'ouse!" Hmm

coconutpie · 28/02/2016 12:39

Ha ha handbag v machete!

OP, not U until the comments you made about her baby being ugly and her husband. You lost any moral high ground there.

Is delete the work colleague?!

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