just asked someone too leave my house. as all they have done is insult my baby!

[Murphyslaw21]

I'm fuming. An old work colleague has moved near to me, we always got on OK although she always had a brush up her arse. Anyway we bumped into each other the other day and I suggested she comes round for a coffee. So our two babies can meet. They are both 9 months.

So she turned up, and was very patronising about my house. It's a bit of building site but lounge is lovly. But I got the oohh you were brave doing that colour scheme. It's duck egg blue. Anyway let it go.

So I'm feeding baby girl and she says oh can't she feed herself. So I said she has finger food but mostly just gets licked and thrown. So I feed her whilst she is playing with finger food. Oh MINE feeds herself. Next it's playing on floor. Mine sits up but falls over if left, colleague says oh MINE has been sitting by herself for at least two months. She is very advanced for her age. Then she has made a comment that it's strange to be in baby gro rather than clothes. So I said but she can roll around and play without it all getting skirted up. Oh MINE just screames if she is a baby gro. She likes clothes. Final straw was I'm making a drink and she says oh arnt her eyes close together. So I said no quiet abruptly. To be told maybe it's just because she has a large head!

I'm livid. So I fly in and said exact words " oh fuvk off. You've done nothing but insult my baby, did u come round just to make you feel that your baby is superior". She then said you never could take criticism,

So I lost it and said ( I feel a bit bad about this because her baby is really cute) take your ugly fucking kid and get out, go bitch to your husband ... Oh no you can't cause he is shacked up with his girlfriend. And no I see why.

Ok I feel a bit mean about ugly baby comment but I was livid. I'm fuming so fuming. There was so many digs and comments. Why why why I would never compare my baby to someone else's and I certainly never been so rude.

The ugly baby bit was unnecessary (I love babies!). The rest... i think she deserved it. She sounds a bit of a knob.
Having said that, are you likely to see her around, does she live near you? If she does, i'd think of ways to make it bearable for both of you. Otherwise, i would just forget about her.

Tbh I think it's a good thing when people who do the subtle nasty barb thing get hit with a really nasty comment, because that's effectively what they are doing but they're so nasty and cowardly that they say it in a way that gives them excuses.

People like this are poison OP. Just forget about it now.

Yeah course you did

usual I found the big head, close eyes made me laugh...owllady has just finished me off now. I will be breaking down with mirth all day.

Wow. I'm a bit gobsmacked. Did this really, genuinely happen?

If so, little bit more thought required on your part on how you handle difficult people. Calling her baby ugly??? That would be immature coming from a 12 year old.

Oh, I've just remembered what my very best friend said when she saw pfb "ooooh, I can see right up his nose" which was a comment on his extremely upturned nose.

Although I think you were a bit OTT I think you were right to cut the legs from beneath her, if she wants to dish it out she should be prepared for what she gets back. Your actions might have just spared someone else from her constant bitchy comments and make her think twice before she goes around insulting someone else in their own home. Sometimes it's better to cut to the chase than saying nothing and enabling such bitchy behaviour.

Oooo, you are classy hun 💁🏼

Still, most babies are quite ugly and untalented when you come to think about it 😜

Well, it might make her think twice in future! If she's going to insist on spouting nasty crap to people she can expect some back, surely.

Calling her baby ugly was a knee jerk reaction, the other person said her babies eyes were too close together and her head was big...

I don't know why people get so upset here when someone calls a baby a name in a post , the baby won't know unless someone reads it out to them. This is a place where we can rant and say things we can't in RL

Can i ask what happened after you said your piece? Was she gobsmacked? Did she pack up and go? I need to know to complete the scene in my head

You are well within your rights to ask someone to leave your house because she annoys you.

Insulting a baby is not "criticism". It's not as though you could magically improve your baby's ability to sit up, or whatever. Sounds like a horrible person.

Insulting her baby was unreasonable, but hopefully the baby is still too little to understand what you said.

Oh dear. She was definitely out of order, her comments which came across as trying to be superior may have come from insecurity. However, I think what you said to her when you asked her to leave was exceptionally nasty.

Is she a former old work colleague or are you going to have to work with her in the future?
Either way, you're last comment was completely uncalled for and cruel rather than pithy.

What ridiculous behaviour and more so yours OP

Probably not your finest hour ....

On the basis this is true, are you sure you weren't being very over sensitive? Obviously you have written the story in the context you believe you heard it in, but I have a nine month old baby and think it is quite normal to discuss what your child can and can't do. You just need to laugh off over competitive mums. Believe me, her child may sit up and eat by herself but your child will do other things that her child can't yet because that is just how it is.

The way you spoke to her was a massive overreaction and really rude. I hope you intend to set a better example to your daughter once she is a bit older and is able to understand and copy your actions.

Have you thought of contacting Jeremy and asking if he has any vacancies for his show?

I banned my health visitor for less. Agree, telling her to leave was a great idea. You might want to rerun that with a cleaner ending, for future reference.

I can well see this happening, I remember the good old days of manic mummys fondly. Never failed to bring out my inner 5 year old when the baby top trumps started.

I think I would have lost it at 'Oh well you could never take a criticism'.

I think YWNBU to throw her out of the house.
I also think that most people who have had the same exact words in their head that you actually said to her.
But you lost the moral high ground by saying so.

I wouild jut move on. With a bit of luck, you won't have to do anything with her ever again.

I've nearly weed laughing!

Not the moral high ground response so I have no idea why it made me laugh!

I love the handbag and machete analogy.

owl

You sound quite well matched