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to fall for a very old friend?

531 replies

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 27/02/2016 00:08

So I can't talk to my IRL friends about this as we are a close knit group and I'm worried about it going wrong. But I am in a bit of a pickle.

I recently met up with a man I have been friends with for years but for one reason or another, haven't seen for the last couple of years. We have been out for dinner and/or drinks about 5 times in the last couple of weeks, sometimes alone, sometimes with friends.

The time before last we were mistaken for a couple by a drunk old boy trying to make conversation. Neither of us corrected him - keen to escape - but I kind of glowed when he referred to me as 'your lady', to my friend. When we left I was suddenly overwhelmed with an urge to kiss him goodbye. (I bottled it and kissed his cheek. Unusual for us as we are both very reserved and a bit awkward.)

We ran into each other last night and had a drink. I had bailed on a very big fancy party, and he was surprised but pleased to see me. I went home at the end of the night and kept waking up in the night trying to make sense of it all.

We are around the same age, he is a little older, and both single. He is painfully shy (I think he has only had one serious girlfriend) and I have a (frankly undeserved) reputation as being a bit of a slapper. We share interests, can sit and talk all night, text almost every day. I don't want to jump him - he would run for the hills - but I can't shake the quiet realisation that I may be falling in love with my kind, shy, gentle friend.

Where do I go from here?

OP posts:
bornwithaplasticspoon · 09/03/2016 14:36

Just do it in the shower Grin

MardyBra · 09/03/2016 17:52

Aaw! Loving the happy ending.

Link to this thread in the wedding invitations?

Grapejuicerocks · 09/03/2016 18:04

The waiting is making it even more exciting.

Yippee!

GiddyOnZackHunt · 10/03/2016 00:24

Am still Grin for you.
Do we need to talk contraception :)

lborgia · 10/03/2016 01:58

Giddy I thought of that but didn't feel I should ask! but yes, at least this gives you a chance to get organised Grin

MillionToOneChances · 10/03/2016 16:04

Half an hour of awkwardness followed by 4 hours of snogs and anecdotes of all the times we nearly made a move but didnt think the other was interested. Taking things super slowly, if making out like teenagers for hours can be described as super slowly.

Yay! Now if your heavy period would just bugger off... Grin

Hushabyelullaby · 11/03/2016 08:55

When's your period likely to bugger off? Do u have a 5 day or 7+ day af? nosey cow here with super personal questions

babyjane1 · 11/03/2016 10:10

Awaiting next instalment!!!

colander1 · 12/03/2016 09:03

Ooh I hope things are going well and you just haven't had time to update us nosy old lot...

MrsJamin · 13/03/2016 06:50

Come on rain, your period must be over now! When are you seeing him next?

travellinglighter · 13/03/2016 07:37

The bit before you got together sounds just like every potential relationship I've ever had. Good for you, brave girl. Wish I was brave.

girlinacoma · 13/03/2016 15:05

Update please SmileGrin

MillionToOneChances · 14/03/2016 22:09

Pretty please? Blush

babyjane1 · 15/03/2016 10:27

Pretty pretty please!!!

Hushabyelullaby · 15/03/2016 14:08

with a cherry on top!

Iambubbles86 · 15/03/2016 23:40

Hmm I Dont know if the no update is a good or bad thing

GiddyOnZackHunt · 16/03/2016 00:08

I fritted her with talk of DTD Grin
Or maybe we all got a bit soap opera. I'd be very happy if rain gave us a :) or :(
And then we all agreed to sit quietly.

Diddlydokey · 16/03/2016 13:34

It has probably gone off of her 'threads I'm on' page and she's forgotten about us!

bluebellforest · 17/03/2016 13:30

Oh boo, still no update.

babyjane1 · 22/03/2016 19:34

I'm gutted not to know how this worked out, hope it was real!!

prettywhiteguitar · 22/03/2016 19:54

This is so sweet !! I'm so happy for you, sounds lovely

Thegirlthatwanted2begod · 22/03/2016 20:19

We need an update OP!

HerbieRidesAgain · 22/03/2016 20:25

Really hope it has worked out. I spent ages reading this thread but didn't comment and then couldn't find it to see if there was an update so could really do with a proper update OP Wink

NotAQueef · 24/03/2016 13:04

delurking for an update! Wink

oliviaclottedcream · 24/03/2016 16:23

How lovely OP. Just relax and see what happens. If he just wont make a move. Grab his hand pull him towards you and snog his face off.

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