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to fall for a very old friend?

531 replies

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 27/02/2016 00:08

So I can't talk to my IRL friends about this as we are a close knit group and I'm worried about it going wrong. But I am in a bit of a pickle.

I recently met up with a man I have been friends with for years but for one reason or another, haven't seen for the last couple of years. We have been out for dinner and/or drinks about 5 times in the last couple of weeks, sometimes alone, sometimes with friends.

The time before last we were mistaken for a couple by a drunk old boy trying to make conversation. Neither of us corrected him - keen to escape - but I kind of glowed when he referred to me as 'your lady', to my friend. When we left I was suddenly overwhelmed with an urge to kiss him goodbye. (I bottled it and kissed his cheek. Unusual for us as we are both very reserved and a bit awkward.)

We ran into each other last night and had a drink. I had bailed on a very big fancy party, and he was surprised but pleased to see me. I went home at the end of the night and kept waking up in the night trying to make sense of it all.

We are around the same age, he is a little older, and both single. He is painfully shy (I think he has only had one serious girlfriend) and I have a (frankly undeserved) reputation as being a bit of a slapper. We share interests, can sit and talk all night, text almost every day. I don't want to jump him - he would run for the hills - but I can't shake the quiet realisation that I may be falling in love with my kind, shy, gentle friend.

Where do I go from here?

OP posts:
MehMehM3h · 08/03/2016 07:16

Also delurking to say yay! This thread has been great :) well done rain

IsItTimeForGinYet · 08/03/2016 07:27

So what plans for tonight?!?!

Ruralretreating · 08/03/2016 07:32

Just found this thread and love it! So happy it worked out for you OP

Goingtobeawesome · 08/03/2016 07:36
Grin

Taking things slow but annoyed about period Wink...

Have a lovely evening tonight!!

GiddyOnZackHunt · 08/03/2016 08:02

Awww :) That's all utterly lovely :)
So pleased for you!

Diddlydokey · 08/03/2016 08:46

Love a bit of sofa snogging! Enjoy more of the same this evening OP.

PommelandCantle · 08/03/2016 09:19

Oh yay GrinWine

Grapejuicerocks · 08/03/2016 09:43

So he was agonising over making a move too?

Ah how sweet!

So glad you texted that night when you had that Dutch courage inside you. Alcohol is a wonderful thing Grin

candykane25 · 08/03/2016 09:54

Very happy :)

ConkersDontScareSpiders · 08/03/2016 10:19

Oh get in OP!! Love it!!

Noneedtoworry · 08/03/2016 10:22

Hooray. Enjoy :)

Lotsofplanetshaveanorth · 08/03/2016 10:23

So lovely. My one that got away put his arm around me and I STILL did nothing. Even though I fancied him. He asked me out a week later. I accepted but managed to read the whole thing as friends only and again did nothing. Unsurprisingly he didn't ask again.

This is where I go all Cher

If I could turn back time....

Disclaimer ...totally adore DH ... But but but. It's so odd. I was making all kinds of funny choices back then and wasn't especially choosy. It seems strange with hindsight that he was one I was refusing. Like I wouldn't give myself permission to snog someone I actually liked. Just stood there like a lemon while someone I fancied had his arm around me.

Anyhow. Love your story op and will check back in. (Tuts at self)

Ps. What happened to the workmates a few weeks ago. That was another lovely thread.

sparkleface · 08/03/2016 10:59

Well this is just bloody lovely! WELL DONE OP AND NICE KIND MAN. WELL DONE!

WhoAteAllTheDinosaurs · 08/03/2016 11:46

Grin good work OP!

sillyoldfool · 08/03/2016 12:56

Aw, wonderful!

2016namechangecomingalong · 08/03/2016 13:33

SmileSmile

MaureenMLove · 08/03/2016 14:00

Ah lovely! I've read the whole of this thread this morning. So kept me entertained whilst sitting around on Jury Service!! I'd love to know what those text did say! Wink

And my favourite part was, 'I've sent the text', shortly followed by 'IVE SENT THE FUCKING TEXT!!' Brilliant!

Warms the cockles of me 'art!

Best of luck to you both. Despite being very happily married, there has been someone in my world, that it reminded me of and I have a feeling, if things had been different between me and DH, this very well could have been me!

Grinning like a loon in the jurors waiting room now!

colander1 · 08/03/2016 15:02

How lovely Grin I bet he went home with a massive grin on his face. Why am I so ridiculously pleased by two people I don't know?!

Threefaries · 08/03/2016 15:05

Awe, squeal. Reading this with pregnancy hormones Smile

oldlaundbooth · 08/03/2016 15:23

BADA BING!!

Very smooth, Rain!

'hours of snogs and anecdotes'

Nice Grin

LurkingQuietly · 08/03/2016 15:24

I NEVER post, but have to here. Simply wonderful. What a story. I am totally over invested and completely thrilled at the snogging!! Well done, OP!

Grapejuicerocks · 08/03/2016 16:46

The text back was a bit cagey but acknowledged that things could happen. It gave the op hope but didn't promise that things would definitely work out.

But hey - they've worked made out...

MrsJamin · 08/03/2016 17:03

Ah this has to be the most romantic mumsnet thread ever! Flowers of congratulations to you and I bet you can't wait until your period is over! Wink

LittleBlackTrilby · 08/03/2016 17:33

Ahhh this thread takes me back: sharing all of the little moments that you've each had, where you've been so ready to go for it, but couldn't find the courage. Grin

ifyoulikepinacolada · 08/03/2016 17:36

Yayyyyyy!!!!!!!!! Grin Grin Grin how exciting OP!

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