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to fall for a very old friend?

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ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 27/02/2016 00:08

So I can't talk to my IRL friends about this as we are a close knit group and I'm worried about it going wrong. But I am in a bit of a pickle.

I recently met up with a man I have been friends with for years but for one reason or another, haven't seen for the last couple of years. We have been out for dinner and/or drinks about 5 times in the last couple of weeks, sometimes alone, sometimes with friends.

The time before last we were mistaken for a couple by a drunk old boy trying to make conversation. Neither of us corrected him - keen to escape - but I kind of glowed when he referred to me as 'your lady', to my friend. When we left I was suddenly overwhelmed with an urge to kiss him goodbye. (I bottled it and kissed his cheek. Unusual for us as we are both very reserved and a bit awkward.)

We ran into each other last night and had a drink. I had bailed on a very big fancy party, and he was surprised but pleased to see me. I went home at the end of the night and kept waking up in the night trying to make sense of it all.

We are around the same age, he is a little older, and both single. He is painfully shy (I think he has only had one serious girlfriend) and I have a (frankly undeserved) reputation as being a bit of a slapper. We share interests, can sit and talk all night, text almost every day. I don't want to jump him - he would run for the hills - but I can't shake the quiet realisation that I may be falling in love with my kind, shy, gentle friend.

Where do I go from here?

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Mrsnippycat · 08/03/2016 17:54

lotsofplanets are you me?? I could have written your post.

OP, I am utterly delighted for you! Well done!

Lotsofplanetshaveanorth · 08/03/2016 19:28

Waves to mrsnippycat...:)

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 08/03/2016 19:32

One of the perks of having been friends for years is not having to pretend...currently walking over to his with a hot water bottle hugged to my stomach coz cramps. I can't act sexy or cool or clever. He's known me at my worst...but excuse me while I squeeze into my leather pants and give him me at my best too 😉

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ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 08/03/2016 19:34

Bagsy the Mumsnet confession in me wedding speech. 👒

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MagpieCursedTea · 08/03/2016 20:39

Aww (I think I might have started every post on this thread with that) I genuinely believe the best relationships have their basis in friendship. Have a lovely night!

Grapejuicerocks · 08/03/2016 20:41

Ooh yes. We want all of the credit.

colander1 · 08/03/2016 20:41

Have a great evening - I'm sure he will take your mind off the cramps Wink

NotNowPike · 08/03/2016 20:56

The thread that just keeps giving ......
Love it

SagaNorensLeatherTrousers · 08/03/2016 21:24

Are leather pants a thing? Confused

usual · 08/03/2016 21:27

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SagaNorensLeatherTrousers · 08/03/2016 21:28

Yeah, leather knickers I'm wondering? Do you know, usual? Grin

usual · 08/03/2016 21:31

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SagaNorensLeatherTrousers · 08/03/2016 21:35

Didn't know if I was just living a v sheltered life or what Grin

Hushabyelullaby · 08/03/2016 21:36

oh this is such a happy, feel good thread. Have a lovely night OP.

GiddyOnZackHunt · 08/03/2016 21:52

Perhaps leather knickers are an update on the rubber (were they rubber or plastic? They were see through anyway) knickers you used to put over a baby's nappy in the 60s. But now in leather with elasticated leg holes for those very heavy AF days...

Or they could be trousers but we need to have something to Witter about while Rain's playing tonsil hockey. Grin

MagpieCursedTea · 08/03/2016 22:05

I just assumed she meant leather trousers. Where I'm from a lot of people call trousers pants.

ThatsNotMyRabbit · 08/03/2016 23:21

I love this thread!

BoyFromTheBigBadCity · 09/03/2016 00:01

Fantastic!

Was it the insect thing?

Updates!

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 09/03/2016 00:53

TROUSERS.

OMG LEATHER PANTS NO. Not yet anyway Grin

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ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 09/03/2016 00:54

And whoop whoop whoop! Grin

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ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 09/03/2016 00:58

I'M SO FUCKING HAPPY.

And this period can fuck off now jeez for all the taking it slow I'm not sure how much tentative bottom-of-back stroking I can take without fucking molesting the poor bugger... Grin

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Ludoole · 09/03/2016 02:07

Rain Im so happy for you too!!
Have a happy end of period WinkGrin

Justthethreeofus · 09/03/2016 02:19

Just read the whole thread when I really should be asleep.....so lovely. I hope it all works out. Good luck. Flowers

Valentine2 · 09/03/2016 03:19

I have never read a thread through all the twenty pages. I am so sleepy but could not stop. You remind me of me and DH. Gave me butterflies. And I am not having periods so better say good luck and go!!! ;). Good luck for a happy ever after !

stealtheatingtunnocks · 09/03/2016 13:26

Delighted.

Molest him anyway.