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to fall for a very old friend?

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ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 27/02/2016 00:08

So I can't talk to my IRL friends about this as we are a close knit group and I'm worried about it going wrong. But I am in a bit of a pickle.

I recently met up with a man I have been friends with for years but for one reason or another, haven't seen for the last couple of years. We have been out for dinner and/or drinks about 5 times in the last couple of weeks, sometimes alone, sometimes with friends.

The time before last we were mistaken for a couple by a drunk old boy trying to make conversation. Neither of us corrected him - keen to escape - but I kind of glowed when he referred to me as 'your lady', to my friend. When we left I was suddenly overwhelmed with an urge to kiss him goodbye. (I bottled it and kissed his cheek. Unusual for us as we are both very reserved and a bit awkward.)

We ran into each other last night and had a drink. I had bailed on a very big fancy party, and he was surprised but pleased to see me. I went home at the end of the night and kept waking up in the night trying to make sense of it all.

We are around the same age, he is a little older, and both single. He is painfully shy (I think he has only had one serious girlfriend) and I have a (frankly undeserved) reputation as being a bit of a slapper. We share interests, can sit and talk all night, text almost every day. I don't want to jump him - he would run for the hills - but I can't shake the quiet realisation that I may be falling in love with my kind, shy, gentle friend.

Where do I go from here?

OP posts:
Excited101 · 07/03/2016 20:21

This is so cute! Go you op!

stumblymonkey · 07/03/2016 20:27

Oooh....if you can be assed to prep a butternut squash from scratch it must be luff!

I bought one last week and it's still in the kitchen silently mocking me.

BoyFromTheBigBadCity · 07/03/2016 20:43

I've panic bought a butternut squash before. How does it happen?

Chin up, tits out, and bug smile OP Grin

BoyFromTheBigBadCity · 07/03/2016 20:44

Big! Not bug, don't pretend to be an insect.

FinallyFreeFromItAll · 07/03/2016 21:11

Chin up, tits out, and bug smile OP Grin
Big! Not bug, don't pretend to be an insect

Grin that made me giggle. I was wondering what a bug smile was!

Hope alls going well op

quietbatperson · 07/03/2016 21:13

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WonderingAspie · 07/03/2016 21:34

Damn I've only just found this thread and have no idea what he replied!

candykane25 · 07/03/2016 22:46

Ssh... Do you reckon they are snogging on the sofa?

Grapejuicerocks · 07/03/2016 23:16

It's a good sign she's not updating. Too busy and too in lurve to drag herself away from him - hopefully.

How did the butternut squash go down? forget that, just give us the juicy details

GiddyOnZackHunt · 07/03/2016 23:33

Oh I do hope there's teeth clashing and giggling and snogging on the sofa :) We spent a lot of time finding it all quite mad. I still have "Me and Fred Bloggs. Who'd have thought it?" moments :)

oldlaundbooth · 08/03/2016 00:57

Certainly a good sign OP hasn't come back for updates.

if you have leftover butternut squash you can make a great soup with it. Onion, the squash, chicken stock, tinned toms, coconut milk too if you like it

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 08/03/2016 01:00

WELL THAT WENT WELL.

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ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 08/03/2016 01:03

Half an hour of awkwardness followed by 4 hours of snogs and anecdotes of all the times we nearly made a move but didnt think the other was interested. Taking things super slowly, if making out like teenagers for hours can be described as super slowly.

THANKYOU MUMSNET. YOU BEAUTIES.

Grin
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Friendlystories · 08/03/2016 01:06

Delurking to say YAY!!!! So happy for you OP Grin

lborgia · 08/03/2016 01:08

I've lurked all week but hooray! Fabulous Grin. I am smiling from ear to ear. ..but probably not as much as you! Cake That cake is for me, you've got a new boyfriend. ..

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 08/03/2016 01:13

Didn't even need the fucking scoundrel squash.
Damn my heavy period to hell.
Seeing him tomorrow. Agreed to go slow. Literally feel like a teenager. Hands rummaging under shirts and snogging on the sofa and lots of giggling at our ridiculous selves.
I would never have gone for it if not for all your advice and encouragement. Am still very bruised from last relationships but going gently into this one and both know if it starts to not feel right we can be honest - a no obligation thing. But god after all my agonising curling up in his arms felt like coming home.
I'll stop now because I sound totally vom.
Grin

OP posts:
lborgia · 08/03/2016 01:20

Vom away, sounds blissful. Maybe you need some sleep though ?! Flowers

AGirlCalledJohnny · 08/03/2016 01:30

This is so cool. Yay! You should be proud of yourself, you took a shot and your bravery paid off. Job's a good un Rain

squaretoes · 08/03/2016 01:35

Delurking to say, YAY!! Oh I am so pleased for you OP. It sounds like a brilliant evening, you rock!!

IsItTimeForGinYet · 08/03/2016 03:25

Yay! Your update makes it worth waking up at silly o'clock for no apparent reason!

ThisRainWasOnceTheSea · 08/03/2016 04:01

isittime

It's always time for gin. Just had a large one to knock myself out as I am having trouble sleeping for some reason!!

I haz a happy Grin

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BitOutOfPractice · 08/03/2016 04:50

Awwww!

GandT2 · 08/03/2016 06:41

This update has made me a well up a little bit - what a lovely thread. As you say op, slowly does it but I'm very happy for you. Smile

Wigeon · 08/03/2016 06:43

Awww! Agree with AGirlCalledJohnny - be proud of yourself for taking the risk, and so glad it paid off. So he has been trying and failing to make a move too all this time?!

OSETmum · 08/03/2016 07:09

😍 ooh you're both so lucky!

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