What happened to the thread where kids hadn't been picked up?

[Shouldknowbetter2015]

This is the first chance I've had to check since this morning & i can't find it. Hoping there was a happy ending???

goodnight did you report it? Another explanation could be that the OP was knackered and couldn't be arsed writing a detailed update If it was me, I'd probably feel the same.

Ah, thank you. I too wondered what had happened as I've had no signal all day.

No I know Maryz, I was agreeing with you! I think I need to work on my written sarcasm!

I was eye rolling at all the posters wittering on about how it was the husband's fault for buggering off on his business trip. Twats.

Hello everyone! Glad you found the thread, and thanks to those who were supportive and whatnot on there. We've already deleted some posts from this thread, however, and we would be REALLY grateful if it didn't go the way of the last on the HQ workload front. If it sounds like we're begging, it's because we are. No trollhunting, no discussion of trollhunting, nothing of that kidney if you please...
Thanks all.

Yes I'm. not sure what the dad was supposed to do.

if he gave up work he'd have to go on jsa if the mum.is working and they would expect him to look for work.

even if he was a single dad he'd have to look fir work as soon as youngest hit 5. quitting would have got him no where and they'd have one working person drinking half the earnings.

Oops, sorry Stroke. Your sarcasm was too gentle for me!

My trolldar has gotten pretty good over the years and I'm pretty sure that one was genuine.

Really feel for the kids, esp the 4 year old.

However I really don't think the OP deserves the Best Person Ever Nobel Prize that everyone seems to want to bestow on her though - I mean, isn't it exactly what we all would have done? Put the kids to bed, sit with them, calm them down, try to reassure them, try to find the parents? Etc?

Hi Helen

Sorry I mentioned troll-dar. I promise I won't do it again, miss.

YetAnotherHelen for some reason kidney made me laugh.

I'm not entirely sure why people think the mother has a problem/needs help. As far as I can see, the mother left the kids with the OP who she knew would look after them and then decided to take some child free time for herself after work. Maybe people on MN have not come across people who use other people for childcare in this way - they ask you to have the child for two hours or something and then show up seven hours later. I know someone exactly like this in real life. She doesn't need help, she is just a nasty woman who takes advantage of other people.

No problem Ellen I shall try and be more robust in my sarcastic responses to make sure people don't think I'm a knob!!

Yes I'm. not sure what the dad was supposed to do.

How about

A - not going on a business trip and leaving his children in the care of a woman who has form for abandoning them

Or, if doing what any good parent would do was too hard for him because of his penis

B - making absolutely 100% sure that he was contactable at all times in case the very foreseeable happened and whatever non bepenised schmuck had been tricked into minding his children was trying to get in touch with him.

OK, so addiction is an illness. Granted. But at the point where that mother decided to leave work and go for a drink without first contacting the OP to see if that was ok she crossed a line. She made a sober choice to abandon her children. She probably also knew that due to her addiction she'd have trouble tearing herself away once in the pub and she chose to go anyway.

When I read that she'd been in the pub I was disgusted. Those poor kids. And if that makes me judgey then so be it. Consider my budget pants hoisted.

I also agree that the OP acted in really the only way she could given the situation. But I think people are praising her for keeping so calm and for trying not to out the family .... Where a lot of people would have understandably got really angry and had a good old vent on here!

Also, troll hunting .... Yawn

And where do they live while he's home alone bringing in no money following the mum.about just incase she chooses the second he goes to.the bathroom to.bugger off out the door.

she's a grown woman. she holds down a job ffs. not unreasonable. to assume shed be able to step up for a couple of days and at least drink.at home instead.

I saw a post almost identical to the one posted last week.

Budget pants .... [Grin] .... Judgey pants.

Also ..... Man hating ...... Yawn

A - not going on a business trip and leaving his children in the care of a woman who has form for abandoning them
How exactly is he supposed to manage that? In the real world, you can't just say 'No I'm not going on that business trip', and expect to keep your job. You can discuss dates, but outright refusing to travel, will see you lose most jobs pretty quickly.

B - making absolutely 100% sure that he was contactable at all times in case the very foreseeable happened and whatever non bepenised schmuck had been tricked into minding his children was trying to get in touch with him.
And how exactly is this his fault? Plenty of men et screwed over when it comes to custody arrangements, and it is not possible for anybody to be contactable 100% of the time, particularly when travelling.

Or, if doing what any good parent would do was too hard for him because of his penis

You're usually one of the first posters I see to challenge sexism directed at females. You absolute hypocrite.

Only on mumsnet can a mother dump her kids on someone for a few hours, think 'fuck this I'm off to the pub' and leave them there all night without so much as a fucking text and it is STILL the mans fault.

Bathtime where do you get the information that the mother in this story "has form for this", I can see nothing in any of the OP's posts that even hints at that.

Why does the fact that there was a similar post once matter?

Surely if anything that points away from it being a troll not towards?