'What is wrong with some of the posters on here - of course the woman should be judged!!! And very harshly too. Alcoholic or not, she made a sober choice to visit the pub over collecting her DC,'
I wonder if folks who post anything along the lines of the above, or those who call an woman who isn't even on here to defend herself 'disgusting', actually have any fucking clue whatsoever about addiction?
I am going to speak at a more macro level (given we do not actually know for sure that his woman is an alcoholic) and point a few facts - FACTS - out.
1: Alcoholic or not, she made a sober choice to visit the pub over collecting her DC - Again, I am NOT referring to the Mum in question as WE DO NOT KNOW HER, but I can assert very clearly that if someone is a alcoholic and in active addiction, then there genuinely is very little 'choice' involved by the time they hit the point where they start dicking around their (much loved) kids as by definition, THAT is where the disease of addiction is already winning
2: Alcoholic or not, she made a sober choice to visit the pub over collecting her DC - Again, I am NOT referring to the Mum in question as WE DO NOT KNOW HER, but I can assert very clearly that if someone is a alcoholic and in active RECOVERY (IE is XYZ days clean and sober) and they go to a pub to pick up again; then that relapse (relapse is what it's called when someone in recovery picks up again, be that alcohol or drugs - alcohol ironically being the biggest drug of the lot of the) ^BEGAN* a long time before she went into the pub and ordered the drink.
Relapse starts when the mental obsession takes over again, and whilst it's only a matter of time before they drink again (unless they hit a meeting or call a sponsor or something) as there are various further declines along the way, it really IS just pure BS to write anything like 'she made a sober choice to visit the pub over....' As by it's very definition, of course she didn't.
3: Alcoholism is way more common that it wouldns like some of you realise (comments like 'well she held down a job' etc). Many many alcoholics in active addiction are what is called a 'functioning alcoholic', and no, the image of someone on a park bench drinking a can of Stellar is so fucking wide of the mark that it;s just unreal.
4: Some AA (& NA too) meetings are 'open' - meaning ANYONE can attend them. I would genuinely suggest that a few folks on here go to a cpl of meetings before they carry on spouting some of the ill-informed and bilious stuff that has been posted here.