My family have posted photos of my baby all over Facebook without permission... AIBU to ask them to take them off?

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My daughter is 3 months old and we've decided not to post any photo's of her on Facebook publicly. She can make her own mind up when she's older. I went home this weekend to see my Mum and my Auntie and cousins who have children and regularly put up photos. Today they've posted loads of photos of my baby over Facebook. I'm really angry and I know that they just don't get it! Imagine applying for a job (as she will in years to come) and your potential employer can google photos of you growing up. At least we had the power of choice when we decided as adults to join FB. I still don't think we know the power of the internet fully. Sorry I'm ranting but AIBU? Am I thinking way too much about this? (I'm quite sleep deprived so apologies if I'm not coming across clearly, and for any bad grammar/spelling! Also this is my first ever post so please be gentle)

I'm in a similar situation but it's my partners family that have posted photos of my baby boy whilst in their care and I am furious not tagged in the photos nor was either of us asked or informed I don't expect to be asked nor am I saying they can't post photos it's just polite to tag myself or my partner in the photos or send a quick text saying they've done it, there could be a reason they're unaware of not to and it's just polite and unfortunately there are people in this world that use Facebook wrongly.
Also there are laws against this kind of thing in schools and children's clubs you can't even video your own child in a play at school for exactly this reason to protect the child. It's not his family I have the problem with its the freaks and criminals seeking these photos but they don't understand that but I'm sticking to my guns why wouldn't they want me see my beautiful baby having a good time with them I'm only asking to be tagged in photo

Yanbu. Your baby, your choice. I know several people who refused to have their children photos on fb. I respect their decision as does all their family and friends. Talk to your family about this

A bit. Can I ask why you don't want photos of her online ? Would you be happy if only certain people could see them (which you can set up on FB) ?

Your baby your views. And my daughter in law has the same views. But how would an employer know to search under grandparents or aunts name?
I'm a grandparent to another grandchild, and her parents are totally okay with photos. This unbalance leaves me feeling as if I'm playing favorite.

No, YANBU op. They should have asked. I always ask permission from parents if a photo I'm posting includes their child. It's a common courtesy. I would just contact them and ask them to remove them and explain why. Most people will understand your reasoning.

YANBU. I hate that every single moment of one set of dc's lives is all over FB, from scan to now. Another set removed themselves off FB (the mum, I mean) and gets very cross when her SIL posts pics of the mum's kids when she's asked her not to.

You should have told them first, tho, OP. They aren't psychic.

YANBU. I've posted tons of pictures of my kids on FB and don't feel the same as you do about it but that's not the point - she's your child, it's your decision.

YNBU - I feel exactly the same about my son and have warned on numerous occasions family members about it. It's your baby, your decision. If I didn't use fb to contact a lot of my friends (and I'm a right nosy cow) I'd come off it. There are social media apps that can let you share photos of DC without them having to be on fb and they're totally private we have one ready, if someone tries to post on fb/instagram/twitter from the app I get a notification to approve it.

Your reasoning about future employers seems a little strange to me, but that's besides the point. I have lots of friends and family with children and I wouldn't dream of putting up photos of the kids without asking first. Some of my friends would be fine with it, but others I know definitely don't want any photos of their children online. I respect their wishes and it's not up to me to decide otherwise. YANBU.

YANBU - your child, your choice. My friend asked his family & friends not post any photos of his son, it's a very reasonable request. Personally, I love posting photos of my kids but I think Facebook is going to be a future cringe worthy thing for our kids... a bit like your mum showing off your baby photos to a new boyfriend or girlfriend.

I think you could just ask them not to put photos in Facebook in the future.
I do think it's highly unlikely an employer is going to be interested in someone's childhood photos, even if they managed to a) track down the Facebook page and b) they were set to public. I put pictures of my children on FB from time to time but put them as friends only (although I think a few are more visible if a friend has put them on her page and then tagged me in them). How Googleable/searchable you are will also depend on how common your name is.

I have a friend who is often writing stuff about her DD on Facebook. The sort of thing people might post on Mumsnet about, for example DD is struggling to make friends at high school and concerned about her weight. I would probably be more embarrassed to know that my mum had been discussing me on Facebook and that the posts could still be visible years later than that there were a few photos of me at the beach as a toddler.

I know someone who put photos of her grandchild up on FB before the parents had (mum was very poorly after delivery, but baby was fine). In fact they hadn't even had a chance to tell their friends and family that baby had arrived before the grandmother had posted the photos and tagged them. I can see why they were upset, but I think the OP needs to calm down about it affecting job prospects. Have a quiet word with the family and ask that they are taken down or that no more are posted in future. (Also unless baby has their own FB page they can't be tagged and nobody will be able to trace them in the future).

Y'all realise this post was from February?