Playdate DCs haven't been picked up. Should I drop them off?

[Recordmirror]

So a mum from my DCs school asked me to have her two DCs today as her two are the same age/in the same class as my two youngest.
The DCs have been here a couple of times before but usually I arrange this with their dad and he picks them up.
But he is away on business and so their mum asked me to take them today as a favour whilst she is in work.

I've had them since 9 this morning. She was supposed to pick them up at 6:30. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and 8 and 8:15 but she's not replying. I have text her a number of times and nothing.

My DCs should be in bed. Her eldest isn't bothered but her youngest is getting upset saying that she should be in bed. I haven't told them that their mum should have picked them up by now.

Should I go round to theirs? I don't want to worry the DCs if their mum isn't there when we get there. But I would like to know where she is. So would I be unreasonable to go round there?

[Perfectlypurple]

ollie I don't see where you got 'everyone's ok with the fact their mother just ran off then' . And with the school providing school uniform would mean they are aware surely.

[Stumbletrip40]

yes, if your OH isn't safe to leave your children with, then you do have to not travel while the issue gets sorted, she clearly can't cope. You're not allowed to leave your children with someone you know to not be competent. Life sucks but yes, the DH shouldn't be leaving her on her own with the DC if she needs support.

[LaLaLaaaa]

Glad that she's safe. Hopefully she can get the support she needs.

Well done OP for the way you handled it. Big for you tonight

[tangerinesarenottheonlyfruit]

Recordmirror well done for handling the situation so well.

There must be more going on that the mother just wanted a night out and couldn't be bothered to tell anyone. Sounds like she needs some help.

Still, very unfair to drag you into it.

I understand you don't want to post identifying details so not expecting you to answer this - I'm just thinking out loud really.

[RumbleMum]

Thank God OP - you have been amazing. Have you had any sleep? How were the children this morning?

[PastaLaFeasta]

Presumably she's got a very serious alcohol problem. The Dad won't be risking more business trips anytime soon (hopefully) and they'll get some support from SS. Poor kids. The mum must be in a horrendous state to forget her kids like that.

[DropYourSword]

Yeah, nice work troll hunters. Maybe you could just stop. whats to say this isn't true, other people have experienced this too. The OP isn't a bloody scriptwriter for your favourite soap. This place really gives me the shits.

[dinkystinky]

Thanks for the update OP - more for you. I'm glad the dad got in touch and the mum was found - and wasnt found in more sinister circumstances. I should imagine she will be extremely shamefaced today - and that she will have a lot of bridges to mend, not least with her children, under lots of watchful eyes. Her children were extremely lucky to be looked after by you yesterday and last night.

[NeedACleverNN]

At least she's been found so you can reassure the youngest.

Hopefully she will get the help she obviously requires now

[Beth2511]

My mum is an alcoholic and I was told under no uncertain circumstances by social services that to leave my DD with her I would be deemed to be failing to protect my child and therefore basically in big shit with SS. Father needs to be there 100% for the kids or they will have social services intervention.

[AnotherTimeMaybe]

Fucking hell! I'd love to see what that Mother's Day card will say from the DCs
Feel sorry for them and for dad who has to deal with it!
OP for the 47,001 time you're an angel!

[wheelofapps]

Goodness.
Poor kids.
Lucky they had you.
Hope School / their Dad is able to put some mechanisms into place to prevent repeat of this and Mum gets the support she needs.

[Stumbletrip40]

also when Op started this, she just thought the cheeky mum was taking the mickey a bit, not that this'd turn into compromising the privacy of a family now referred to SS - Op, you can report your own thread to have it pulled if you're concerned about the privacy implications.

[weeblueberry]

OP must have got bored with the saga. The end seems hastily written

Or, you know, she can't put much in case she's outed given the update?

Assuming the situation is genuine (which I think it is) she probably didn't expect to get 40 pages of responses...

[Recordmirror]

The DCs were upset this morning as their mum hadn't come for them. The eldest was fine when they got to school but the youngest was clingy (which is fair enough of course) and didn't want to go in at first but settled with the teachers eventually.

[wannaBe]

Given that alcohol laws mean that pubs close at 11 on a Sunday night, where was she after 11 PM then? .

[FellOutOfBedTwice]

I kind of thought it might be something like this, just because it didn't seem like she had she had her childcare massively sorted as she was leaving them with you and you didn't appear to be that close (no reflection on you OP- you're a saint!)

I hope the kids are okay, poor loves.

[Sagethyme]

And almost pufttt!

[Crazycatladynumber2]

The pub 😳...and on a school night too.

[eddielizzard]

for your amazing support.

i hope she gets the help she needs and that this has been a serious wakeup call. those poor kids.

[Frazzled2207]

How awful but at least the dad is sorting it out.
Hats off to the OP for dealing brilliantly with a horrendous situation.

[Sagethyme]

And
The END

[ExplodingCarrots]

Wannabe I think OP said a 'friends' pub ..so lock in I guess?