Playdate DCs haven't been picked up. Should I drop them off?

[Recordmirror]

So a mum from my DCs school asked me to have her two DCs today as her two are the same age/in the same class as my two youngest.
The DCs have been here a couple of times before but usually I arrange this with their dad and he picks them up.
But he is away on business and so their mum asked me to take them today as a favour whilst she is in work.

I've had them since 9 this morning. She was supposed to pick them up at 6:30. I called her at 7 and 7:30 and 8 and 8:15 but she's not replying. I have text her a number of times and nothing.

My DCs should be in bed. Her eldest isn't bothered but her youngest is getting upset saying that she should be in bed. I haven't told them that their mum should have picked them up by now.

Should I go round to theirs? I don't want to worry the DCs if their mum isn't there when we get there. But I would like to know where she is. So would I be unreasonable to go round there?

[NerrSnerr]

Oh and the vast majority of people with mental health problems and can do look after their children very well. (And there is no evidence this lady has psychiatric issues from this thread- leaving your kids for a night doesn't equate to being mentally unwell automatically)

[NerrSnerr]

Typo 'give up his job', I'm too lazy to work abroad.

It really isn't as simple as him just being able to stay at home. It depends on his industry, there might not be jobs without travel or for a big pay cut. Many people don't have the finances to just quit a job or the transferable skills to get a similar paying job in a different industry.

[Sometimesithinkimbonkers]

Nerr if you want the job then yes!

If your wife has mental health problems then you don't disappear to another county and leave her in charge of children. My BIL does this regularly and someone else has to pick up the pieces.

[chocomochi]

Well done OP You deserve more than that for looking after the DCs.

Glad you found the mum and hope DCs aren't too upset over this incident.

[BitOutOfPractice]

Yes I'm using the app!

Thanks for explaining

[slebmum1]

Poor kids. Hope the mum gets some support.

[imwithspud]

I find when a post reaches 1k I can still post on it if I'm using the app. If I'm using mn on a browser I can't though. Maybe it's a glitch with the app.

[BrumpyGollocks]

Are you all posting from the app?
The app posts after 1000.

[BitOutOfPractice]

1016 now and I can still post. How is that possible? Is it because of deletions?

[BitOutOfPractice]

I'm just amazed that this thread got to 1012 posts!

[NerrSnerr]

Yes it's clearly the dad's fault for going to work. Should he give us his job then?

[Sometimesithinkimbonkers]

This whole situation is shocking. If the mum has previous the it's wrong of the dad to leave her alone with the DC.

[TryMeOutTiger]

Eek

[ReginaBlitz]

Yes the op is amazing for putting 2 kids bed and taking them school. When will people learn.

[Becca1818]

I know this sounds terrible (and bear with me) although her behaviour is inexcusable at least she left her children with someone who would care for them and didn't just abandon them alone at home as a previous poster has said.
I hope the whole family get the support it needs and children have no lasting effects

[sharonthewaspandthewineywall]

Have the doubters actually reported this thread?

[Groovee]

Glad they have found mum and that dad is coming home.

[torthecatlady]

This is really sad. Presumably mum has a problem if she has previous on this sort of thing. Hopefully she can get the help she needs. Thanks for updating up OP.

[PansOnFire]

Thank you for the update OP, I think you've done a great job of letting us know the outcome without giving too much away. You sound like a really thoughtful person, and you've probably shown the 2 children kindness they will always remember.

What's with the troll hunters, why bother posting at all? Just don't read and become involved with the thread if you don't believe it.

Well done OP, I truly hope the mother gets the help she needs but more importantly the children get the support they need to cope with this.

[BitOutOfPractice]

Omg. Shocking. Those poor kids

[JeanGenie23]

Those poor children, I'm sure their dad won't want to leave them with mum again in a hurry. Hopefully she gets some help. The way you describe the eldest's cool behaviour makes me wonder if this has happened before?!

[BrumpyGollocks]

Well done Op,this has happened to me in the past but luckily I knew the persons family so could contact the grandparents who collected Dc.

The person also had form for leaving her DC & it went on for years in spite of ss involvement.

[howsyermammy]

This was my mum. Except my mum didn't have the decency to organise a babysitter. She just left us to it. I remember being 6 and getting myself out the door for school.

[ExplodingCarrots]

Wannabe I think OP said a 'friends' pub ..so lock in I guess?

[Sagethyme]

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