to thibk there's a lot of mansplaining going on at the moment?

[StealthPolarBear]

On mn I mean. Just something I seem to be spotting more and more.
happy to be told I'm wrong in words of one syllable

Lweji I'm a bit confused. Your last two posts after mine seem to indicate that you've taken offence to what I said when I was in fact agreeing with you

Sorry, you are right. I confused you with another pp.

Reinforcing your post for chilled, then.

chilledwarmth No you won't get a reputation as an "unhinged feminist harpy" because you won't have behaved in such a way, you'll have been acting reasonably, as it is reasonable to expect that you don't get interrupted on stuff especially when you are leading the talk/subject matter expert.

You're living in a fantasy world. A woman will very much be labelled as an unhinged feminist harpy, a bitch, a ballbreaker, or any number of really derogatory terms for behaving reasonably. But you just carry on thinking this isn't a problem, whereas talking about mansplaining is heinous.

goodnight

I did enjoy that thread, will have to go and read the ending

Re the "lack of Sexism Ds1 has got something on his facbook today it says something like "its a fucked up world when a girl is more embarrassed to run for the bus than she is after fucking 3 boys in 1 night" followed by lots of laughing faces

I just said to him that i cant belive that its 2016 and people still have those attitudes...no sexism to see here

goodnight

Although i still love the bashing tits on a keyboard line

Lweji, phew, misunderstanding cleared :)

Rufus, that line is gold.

goodnight

He has a ford focus ....lord love him

" he would have thought the same thing if he was a woman."
And you know this how?

Good example happening to me right now.

I've put a wanted ad on a Facebook farming page as I'm looking for a roller for the horses field.
I've had many replies, ranging from 'I can do it for you, pm me for a quote love,' to various reasons why that type of roller won't suit my land, or machinery, to explanations of how best to do it once I find one.

It's unbelievable. If my husband had posted, he'd have had useful replies from people selling rollers.

I'd post a screenshot but don't want to out myself.

That sucks, Thomas :(

"Well, you don't be sexist first, then we won't have to coin a phrase for your sexist behaviour." love it. DEAL, OK GUYS? GUYS? WHERE'D EVERYBODY GO?

Also PMSL (nearly) at "The notion that I'm telling people they are wrong is your flawed interpretation." :o :o :o

Yes, such lack of self awareness. It's amazing.

This is something I have experienced a great deal. Normally from bosses and family. I have stopped seeing an aunt because of this and quit jobs before.
I agree about academics. I surprise they don't bore themselves, so stuck in their insular bubbles.

Pal I know. Your flawed interpretation: "you're wrong". Almost literally means the same thing. SMH.

stuck on the M25 yesterday I was amazed to find myself listening to 2 men, on the radio, one being presenter and the other the 'expert' discussing what it was like for a woman to have perinatal depression.

Always imagined mansplaning was some kind of woodwork thing

When a mansplainer is directing his spurt of male 'knowledge' at a particular female ,he is being aggressive towards her for a reason. So when it next happens to me ,my question will be why me? Just realised that the menstruation mansplainer was staring hard at me when he was verbally ejaculating. He followed this up with large drawings of dix&balls on my classroom windows. This was a primary school and he and the principal were pals.How long did it take for that penny to drop? Years.

Fascinating thread, and for me turned some unknown unknowns into known unknowns. Like the 'nice guy.' What is that?

Can someone mansplain/womansplain/auntsplain that when as a single dad I ask other mothers about aspects of child rearing (like, is my pre-teen daughter normal in being an effing pain) they simply say my children are marvellous etc etc and they don't know how I cope. Which irritates me enormously. I just want to swap experiences to have some idea whether the kids are psychotic/normal when I find them bloody annoying or doing something stupid. (The menfolk only want to talk about football, which I can't abide, so I don't bother asking them anything child related. Sexist, I know.)

Galdos

I'm afraid women can be sexist too. And sexist as in males are to be commended for doing parenting things.
I'm sure you're just as crap as women. :)

The "Nice Guy" thing (note capitals; some authorities use TM) is where a man is socialised to believe that the price of access to a woman's body is to be nice.

The Nice Guy isn't necessarily actually nice, but he's capable of doing things he understands to be Nice such as buying flowers, taking someone out for dinner, only dating one woman at a time, and so on. He performs these acts on the assumption that in doing so he is earning access to the woman's body.

If access is later denied, the Nice Guy is indignant and angry. As he sees it, the woman is in breach of the contract because he isn't getting any return for his investment.

He then whines and whinges (mainly online but also IRL) that "being nice gets you nowhere" and he designates the woman in question a "prick tease".

Thanks for a name that explains what i was trying to figure out on the 'OK ladies' thread , where a male pp has switched tactics and is doing the 'nice guy' thing. Maybe he thinks MN has dating site stamped on it ?

Thanks for the explanations. I am much better informed! Good to know that everyone's crap at child rearing, and it isn't just me ...

My cousin ended up with a nice guy, she was kept in the relationship as he kept reminding her all the nice things he had done for her. Friends and relatives would tell her how lucky she was as he was so nice, she couldn't possibly dump him as it might hurt his feelings.

He was a nasty, manipulative user.