to thibk there's a lot of mansplaining going on at the moment?

[StealthPolarBear]

On mn I mean. Just something I seem to be spotting more and more.
happy to be told I'm wrong in words of one syllable

"You just enjoy coming onto these threads and telling women we're wrong,"

Not at all. I offer a view, and if it is contrary to others that's tough. The notion that I'm telling people they are wrong is your flawed interpretation for which I am not responsible not accountable.

I think the thread must surely have educated anyone who doesn't think mansplaining is a real thing that they are very, very wrong.

Unfortunately there are Brightsides everywhere.

I think it is because men are used to being Heard and women are conditioned to Listen Politely.

Oh don't talk to me about politics, you've lost me there I'm afraid.

But I do so love fluffy kittens.

I think it is because men are used to being Heard and women are conditioned to Listen Politely

This 1000 times

I quite assure you, my genitals are not raised.

I'll take your word for it

Oh I remember that Matilda!

Bored now. ANYWAY

My favourite mansplaining story is about a highly intelligent and academic woman who went to a party and met a professor, who started droning on and on at her about this very interesting book he'd read - I can't recall the subject area but it was pretty specialised - and the woman realised he was talking about the book she actually wrote a few years ago.

"Oh," she said. "I wrote that book."
"No, no," he insisted. "It was a really in-depth study of [subject]. "

She tried to insist a few more times that she really did write the book, but he wouldn't entertain the idea at all.

"no need for any awkward reflection or self awareness. "

Correct. I'm not responsible for the behaviour of other people in the past or present just because I share a common gender with them.

The last course I went on had a bloke continually interrupting the woman running it to re explain her last point, with his own non relevant examples.

It was so tedious.

I was sitting at lunch with my two business partners and we were discussing prenatal testing (can't remember why). They launch into a lengthy exposition about amniocentesis including explaining to me how it feels. I have had two amnios. They, on the other hand, are men.

Love them but they are also a couple of mansplaining plonkers sometimes.

"bloke continually interrupting the woman running it to re explain her last point, with his own non relevant examples."

I was at a course and a woman did that. It didn't even occur to me or strike me as significant that the person boring us was female.

It's probably fairly common, Matilda. :)

A practical example: I sent 2 press releases to a running blog about 18 months apart. Lazily, I did very little apart from change place names and the names of the people quoted. Slack, I know ...

Anyhow, the first release quoting men got a warm good luck message.

The second one quoted women and received, from the same fellow, an explanation of what a parkrun is, a review of the course: he'd checked the maps for us and wondered if we'd realised it was next to water (we can recognise rivers thanks ).

He ended with a regretful note saying we probably wouldn't get the numbers for it to be a success

Mansplaining right there.

I was 'mansplained at' last Remembrance Day. I'd walked the children (from school) over to the church and was getting them lined up before joining my DH, who was in conversation with a bloke from the village. I said hello and he preceded to tell me all about DHs medals, how important they were and how proud of him I should be "because he put his life on the line for our safety." I said "I know, but..." and he told me that I would never understand the sacrifices he made, how damaging war was and how lucky I was that he had returned.

The look on his face when I removed my outdoor coat, showing my own medals attached to my suit lapel...

Ha that's brilliant ExLtEveDallas!

Laughing at the man explaining how an amniocentesis "feels"!

I think men do it to share free information. The joing in with 'yes that's like...' Or 'I SE, but don't you think' etc then demonstrates your knowledge back and a willingness to share, silence is a signal that you know less than he has assumed, so you have to speak up and say 'oh yes, I'm an architect so I get what you mean' or whatever..

Its even worse when men know that women are positioned as disadvantaged and excluded, as this pressures them to compensate to try to get women up to speed generously.. The two messages, that women have lower privilege n knowledge and experience can't be resolved with the simultaneous assumption that women by default might know more.

agree op. I have made 2 comments on 2 different threads today responding to men giving male oriented anti women advice to women. Perhaps some men are hoping to use mn for as a dating site?!

Lanark2

I don't know. I have had exchanges with men of the type that like to mainsplain, of the sort:
He: This happened like this (from having heard)
Me: No, it actually happened in a different way. I was there.
He: It happened like I said.
Me: Noooooo. I was there. And it happened in a different way. I know. Because I was there.

Sigh.

my fav mansplaining example was the male primary school teacher who held forth to a staffroom full of middle aged female primary teachers on the topic of-MENSTRUATION!

I've got one from my DH, who is the most amazing, feminist, fair and level-headed man you'd ever meet, when we were dating:

Me: Oh, the Cote d'Azur! (pronounced correctly, as I've studied French for 7 years, which my DH knew)
Him: Yes, that means "Ivory Coast". "Coast of Ivory".
Me:

I gave him quite a ribbing about that. Still to this day no idea what he was thinking.

Eve that's brilliant. Did he have the grace to say anything?

When I was dating DH we went to Crete. Gazing across a night time sea towards distant twinkling lights he said: 'That's the coast of Africa.'

I said that the guide book said it was a small island that used to be a leper colony.