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Original poster

to thibk there's a lot of mansplaining going on at the moment?

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StealthPolarBear · 17/02/2016 09:58

On mn I mean. Just something I seem to be spotting more and more.
happy to be told I'm wrong in words of one syllable

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Lweji · 17/02/2016 16:01

We had a bit of mainsplaining the other day to a visitor from an African country who was head of an institution.
We, the two women there, were the only to notice and be quite alarmed by it. The two men who did it thought it was ok.

BTW, if it's North-South, or White-Black, what is it called? Is there such a thing as whitesplaining?

TaraCarter · 17/02/2016 16:05

I know she was being sarcastic, it's just a thing I wonder about. Like Felicity, presumably, I have seen so many people complaining about feminists wanting men to open doors. From what flower did they drag this bee to decorate their shared bonnet?!

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StealthPolarBear · 17/02/2016 16:05

Just leaping on to say that (I believe and hope) pannn and felicity were being sarcastic

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StealthPolarBear · 17/02/2016 16:06

Yes I don't particularly want a man to hold doors for me. If he's walking in front of me it'd be nice if he didn't let them slam in my face :o

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StealthPolarBear · 17/02/2016 16:08

I hate it when someone* holds a door open when I'm ages behind them I then feel the need to do that stupid non-run to show I'm making the effort to go through the door before they get sick of standing there. Just let it shut! Im perfectly capable of barging through.

*This issue is non gendered ime. And they are just trying to be nice.

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LilacSpunkMonkey · 17/02/2016 16:09

Isn't it just basic politeness to hold doors open for people? I do it and I've taught my kids (a girl and two boys) to do it. The impolite thing is when people sweep past my children as if they (the children) are standing there for fun and, as Tara says, don't say thank you. So rude.

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StealthPolarBear · 17/02/2016 16:12

Yes. Agree about children, it also irritates me when I get served in a shop ahead of a child who has been standing there before me. It's so rude.

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LordBrightside · 17/02/2016 16:13

"Today 15:28 LilacSpunkMonkey

'Objectification of women is rare'?

Page 3? Lads Mags? Catcalling, street harassment, sexual assault, rape?

Fucking hell. I thought MN was meant to be something of a safe haven for women to be open and discuss things without being told our issues are all inside our silly little heads but turns out I was wrong.

Seriously, Brightside, why are you on this website - you seem to have a seething hatred of women? What are you here to talk about? Why did you join?"

Oh dear.

No comment.

LilacSpunkMonkey · 17/02/2016 16:14

Quelle surprise.

Hmm
LordBrightside · 17/02/2016 16:15

I'm not answerable to you and that's that.

LilacSpunkMonkey · 17/02/2016 16:20

So, you expect the women (who make up the vast majority of this site) to bow to you because you think we're being sexist to you but you don't need to explain yourself?

Yeah, you're to be taken seriously, mate.

And that's that.

slug · 17/02/2016 16:23

No comment because, for once, you can't make one without looking like a willfully blind mansplainer?

TaraCarter · 17/02/2016 16:23

Brightside, this is a discussion thread. If you post it, it's quite normal for people to reply, just as they would in a real-life discussion. You need not take it as such an imposition.

Perhaps you would prefer to write letters to The Times, instead?

OhShutUpThomas · 17/02/2016 16:27

objectification exists, but it can only be exceptionally rare and would involve a psychotic condition.

Oh well. That's us told then Grin

Yep, no mansplaining here.....

OhShutUpThomas · 17/02/2016 16:28

I'm not answerable to you and that's that.

Did anyone else imagine him stamping his foot then? Grin

MitzyLeFrouf · 17/02/2016 16:28

Yes there was a definite Augustus Gloop foot stamp.

LilacSpunkMonkey · 17/02/2016 16:31

I thought he folded his arms and flipped his hair out of his eyes.

He just keeps proving the point of the thread really.

And I can answer my own question too. He's joined MN so he could educate the women and 'Lord' it over them. He thought we'd all sway in front of him like we were hypnotised and it hasn't quite worked out that way.

LordBrightside · 17/02/2016 16:31

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MatildaBeetham · 17/02/2016 16:32

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LilacSpunkMonkey · 17/02/2016 16:33

Please point out where I was abusive? Because I think you'll find I wasn't.

And why are you allowed to ask questions? Why should we answer to you?

It goes both ways, pal.

OhShutUpThomas · 17/02/2016 16:36

I'm allowed to express my opinion without being smeared as a "mansplainer".

Not quiiite.
You are allowed to express your opinion, of course.
But you're NOT allowed to control ours.

Anyone who doesn't like it will just need to live with it.

See above point.

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StealthPolarBear · 17/02/2016 16:36

Mails how did you handle it?

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StealthPolarBear · 17/02/2016 16:37

Matilda

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slug · 17/02/2016 16:38

Bless...they're so predictable

goodnightdarthvader1 · 17/02/2016 16:40

I'm not answerable to you and that's that.

He always says that when he can't think of a counter-argument. I think he joined because he's got daughters.

And no comment to THAT.

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