To have a word with the school about birthday treats?

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Ds is in reception. On their birthday, kids are allowed to bring in treats to dish out to classmates at the end of the day. The other day, ds came out with a piece of cake, a chocolate biscuit and a lolly.

Now, I'm more than happy for ds to have the odd treat, but I do like to choose what and when he has them. That said, it does seem pretty churlish to whip them away when all his classmates are tucking in, and I couldn't quite face the resulting tantrum on the way home. Ds ate them all, but was on a sugar high for the rest of the evening which made bedtime a bit of a nightmare.

Would it be unreasonable to talk to the school about types / amounts of treats allowed? Some people just bring in a box of celebrations or similar and each child takes one, which I have no problem with. Or should I just confiscate as much as possible from him in the playground and deal with the tantrum?

Get them to ban tuck while you're at it, completely unnecessary.

You'll be my hero op!

Oh ffs some parents need to learn to deal with their precious little so and so's behaviour and stop sucking the fun out of other childrens lives. If I found out a parent complained about a few treats on a birthday, I'd be wondering why they can't manage their child's behaviour. How utterly ridiculous and yes op I'd say it to your face.

Ban everything. Only another 6/7 years til High School then they can buy whatever they want on the walk there and back.

I don't see anything wrong with spreading the treats out over a couple of days, as long as they're brushing and flossing every night.

I'm not a huge fan and my dcs get very few sweets, but I wouldn't complain to the school. My dd is in reception and knows that she is not to open anything until we're home then it is either eaten with or in place of her after school snack, or after dinner, and generally has to be shared with her brothers. Mostly because I can't take the trauma when she inevitably rips open the mini Haribo and they all tumble into the ground in the playground. It's always been my rule so no tantrums, she gets them eventually. I'm much more mean over the ginormous sweetie cones that are the fashion in lieu of party bags around here, they take weeks to get through!

Seems to be a lot of confusion on this thread about what 'healthy' is. Healthy eating is not about banning sweets as a treat or keeping them out of sight of your pfb at all times. By all means, prevent your own dc from learning how to eat junk in moderation, but don't pretend your way is healthy or better.

I never understand why people get their knickers in a twist about this. Its no different to going to a party and having a slice of cake and I've never seen anyone want to ban that.
If people don't want their child to eat it then that's up to them to manage. DS2 has a nut/peanut allergy so usually he can't eat the cake as we can't be sure of the ingredients. Sometimes he gets a bit annoyed at the unfairness of it but it's all forgotten in a few minutes.

Only another 6/7 years til High School

I was going to point this out, too. Always amuses me how precious we all get about controlling our young children's intake of healthy/crap food, and then it all goes right out of the window once they get to secondary school.

One of my children has a medical condition which makes eating sweets and cake problematic. It really brings home to me how much we associate sugar with "fun". I don't think it has to be that way. We had a fantastic Christmas this year at home without any cake, sweets, chocolate etc. I just wish we could move about from this concept that you have to eat crap to have a good time.

Why is homemade cake worse than shop cake?

How very sad for you usual

Where's the other half usual?

Or should I just confiscate as much as possible from him in the playground and deal with the tantrum? You are the parent. You set the rules, explain the rules and ensure he follow the rules. Tantrums and all.

Why is homemade cake worse than shop cake?

Because people on MN like to be all superior about the perceived lack of hygiene in everyone else's kitchens. I sometimes wonder if they ever go out to eat at friends' houses, or secretly tip their meal in the bin when the hostess isn't looking.

And your point is?

'I just wish we could move about from this concept that you have to eat crap to have a good time.'

Sweets, chocolate and cake are not 'crap'. It's food. It's too bad your kids cannot eat it, but that doesn't mean it's crap.

I have to admit I wish it wasn't a thing. DD is in a year of 60 and it seems like twice a week she comes out clutching yet another mini bag of haribo. It causes problems because she wants them before dinner, I don't want her to (enough problems getting her to eat as it is)

Yes it's my job as a parent to deal with it - I just wish I didn't have to quite so often!

When did it become a thing, anyway? Nobody took sweets into school back in the 80s

Expat sorry but sweets are crap. There's no nutritional value at all and they are terrible for your teeth. Yes, a few every now and then isn't going to hurt too much, but they are crap.

Cakes and chocolate, not quite so bad, but basically still crap. Food is something that you can eat and digest - doesn't mean that it can't be bad for you.

So if I make the effort to bake a lovely homemade chocolate cake after I get home from work in the evening so DD can treat her friends in honour of her birthday then most of it will be thrown away because the parents will be concerned about how clean my oven is? Fuck that then, they can have some shitty bins with coloured icing from tescos in that case.

Buns, not bins obvs.