To categorically refuse to allow the cat in the bedrooms

[Evelight]

We just got a cat about 10 days ago. First time, finally giving in to near-constant demands for a pet. However I discussed this before, ON ONE CONDITION that the bedroom doors are ALWAYS closed and the cat is NEVER allowed in.

The first night she did meow outside our doors, not too loudly, not enough to wake you up if you're fast asleep. She has been good more or less since, though getting up to pee has become something of a nerve-wracking activity.

She is visibly happy to see us in the morning.

I am now under a constant pressure campaign to let her in the rooms.

My reasons: I don't want (so much) cat hair in our beds and clothes, your aunt got bronchitis which two specialists said was exacerbated from sleeping with a (very hairy Persian) cat, I had two bouts of bronchitis over the past two yrs, right now I am just done a bout of antibiotics for a blocked sinus/ear channel.

Their reason: she's sad and you're evil.

Cats are a law unto themselves. The sooner you learn that, that happier everyone will be. [lighthearted]

the happier!

It's your personal choice, if you're
Not happy with it being in your bedroom then YANBU.i however love my cat sleeping on my
Bed, best part of being a cat owner IMO!

I love snuggling in bed with my cats, but we've had to ban them at night as the new Ragdoll kept waking us up for cuddles. He either smooshed his face into your hand to wake you up, or tickled you awake with his floofiness, so he had to go.

I value a good nights sleep as does my dd so we both exile the cat at night. Feel a bit mean about it though as she loves to sleep with me

The sooner you allow the cat to do exactly as he pleases, the happier your life will be.

Our cats are currently on my bed and DH (cat phobic when I met him) is feeding them yoghurt from our breakfast bowls.

They don't sleep in the bedrooms as we annoy them but if you want to shut your out prepare for them to dig your carpet up and howl. Kids will let the cat out every time your back is turned.

Regardless of other peoples preference to let cats into bedrooms, You got a cat on the one condition it was not allowed into bedrooms.

Perhaps reminding your children of this condition with the a hint that cat will go, if condition previously agreed to not met, and see how they react?

I say this as a cat lover. currently have five in-house cats, who are not allowed to go outside, to protect our native species.

I wouldn't let a cat in my house let alone bedroom

We let dogs visit but only downstairs.

I have got 3 cats (2 are 7 month old sisters), they love sleeping in our beds!

Last night, my dd was feeling ill so slept next to me, one of the kittens curled up with her paws on dd's head, trying to calm her down.

But really I think it's just personal choice where you allow your cats to go.

No cats in bedrooms here.

They know the rules. They're not allowed on the sofas, the dinning room table or on the work tops either.

Ours are allowed in most rooms during the day (I mostly work from home but if we're not there all bedrooms are shut off) but at night they have the hallway and landing only - no access to bedrooms. They both have a habit of being sick and there's no way I'm dealing with changing bedding at 3am.

Cats that aren't allowed on the work tops do a special dance on them when you are out of the house.

Our cat sleeps on beds all day and all night.

Ours aren't allowed on worktops either so the kitchen door is usually shut - even though they know the rules, they're not stupid and would be up on the worktops behind our backs otherwise!

ROFL. The only people I know IRL who don't are either people that have OCD, are weird about anything natural eg "eeek! Don't eat blackberries from the garden! You don't know where they've been!" etc, or are just soulless clean freaks.

I don't know any farmers that let cats in the bedrooms, I don't know any farmers that are clean freaks or weird about nature either

WileHallion odfod i am not unhygienic just because i allow my cats to sleep on my bed!

My cats also don't keep me up at night, they're generally asleep in their spots before me!
The one sleeps at the bottom by me and rarely moves and the other sleeps on the floor but will come and sleep next to me/on me halfway through the night and we stay that way till morning and dh gets up for work. They know what time he gets up so it's quiet til then ( occassionally 15 minutes before as they maybe hungyry or want to go outside).

ergo my dh only has to get up and the one jumps in his spot

Lol at anyone who thinks they have "trained" their cat not to go on work surfaces etc. They might never do it in front of you. But they do do it.

I am another crazy cat lady, but they aren't allowed in bedrooms ever since the Great Base-Jumping off the Wardrobe incident of 2011. It was definitely not fun to be woken very abruptly in the middle of the night by two 5kg lumps firing themselves like cannonballs directly into my flabby belly.

So YANBU in my opinion, let the DCs have cat in with them if they want but they will probably soon get fed up of nightly mad antics too.

YANBU Our cat isn't allowed upstairs - we kept the stairgate up even when dd no longer needed it. In fact we don't let her (the cat, not dd) in the hall now because we've just had it decorated and she'd use our lovely new oak newel post as a scratching post (she's trashed the carpet on the bottom stair already).

We don't let her upstairs because;

1. hair - you only have to stroke her and a cloud of hair rises

2. she will scratch anything made of wood or carpet

3. whenever she catches and eats a critter she pukes up for a few days afterwards. I am unwilling to search round upstairs for a pile of puke under a bed etc.

I grew up with cats and none of them did the above and so I rather liked the idea of having one. We only have this one because she's a stray and to be honest, she's put me off having cats really.

Ignore the mewing, they give up eventually.

Oh and I agree about the work surfaces. Our cat stays in the kitchen at night (when our extension is built she'll go in there) and I've never SEEN her on the work surfaces but the first thing I do in the morning (after checking for puke) is anti-bac everywhere because I assume she goes on them. Cats are sneaky, if we accidently leave a door open she'll sneak through it when she thinks we're not looking.

Ours used to sleep on the foot of our bed but they'd scrap with each other and make a racket. So they are not allowed in our bedroom overnight. The bottom of the door drags on the carpet so they can't get the door open, even if they tried jumping fruitlessly at the door handle. They learned very quickly they had to sleep elsewhere. Fortunately there are plenty of cosy spots to choose from. And I put throws on the pillows during the day to minimise the hairs (the cats', but mine is worse tbh) and the likelihood of a cat bottom sitting on the pillow. Our beds are by windows or in window bays so it's quite likely.

You would hate me then! I sleep in the spare room, my baby on one side, my cat on the other!

People were also confused when I wasn't "doing anything" about the cat when I was pregnant.

YABCompletelyU - Clearly you don't know your place in relation to the cat yet. Hint You're below it

But I'm a crazy person who sleeps with a cat in my bed sometimes, and always with one on it. I've slept with a cat on my bed since I was young though so feel bereft without one taking up a good 2/3rds of the bed despite being tiny. Never been ill due to it, even with a dodgy chest. Caught loads of germs from fellow humans, though One of my fondest memories is of my first cat waking me up with a bop to the nose. I had another oldie sleeping on my pillow for 3 days when I had been in hospital. She never did it before or after and I'm sure she knew there was something wrong as I said, crazy cat lady

If you don't want a cat on your bed that's your decision, but I think you should let your DC chose what they want to do with regards to their own bedrooms.

Our cat is shut in the kitchen/dining room at night because she likes to come and lick us at 4am if we dont, but she is not banned during the day and is allowed up to lick the person who is still in bed when one of us gets up

We used to have the cats in the bedroom and on the bed with us at night. Both DH and I liked having 4 or 5 furry dictators commandeering the bed (We have 11 cats).

When DD was born, we banned cats from the bedrooms for her safety. It's bliss. No more fear of horking on the duvet, no fur on our pillows, no killing of bed greeblings at 4am. We actually get a decent night sleep.

Moglets all adapted pretty happily - they all have their own spots in the lounge and office and usually settle down after supper to bed. Cats are creatures of routine. If you set up a routine like no cats in the bedrooms ever, they soon learn that it's not allowed and settle - and I say that as someone who has several very elderly cats who had slept on my bed all their lives and had to make the change.