Dog shit on your shoes is your own problem?

[JustAnotherYellowBelly]

Hoping you ladies will help strengthen my resolve...
Bit of background:
Moved back in with DM at the end of last year in lots of debt no necessarily of my making (twatty ex). Me, 2 DDogs.
'D'p stays over roughly 6 out of 7 nights, pays no rent etc. I feed him, buy him stuff, pay for fuel (last week his £10 petrol cost me £50 as the bank ate his money - I didn't moan as he's on a 0 hours contract but he hasn't paid me back like he said he would... But anyway)
This morning DM thought that DDDog had a mouse so she called DP to go check. On his way to the end of the garden he stepped in dog poo. He came back to bed and told me I would be the one cleaning it off his shoe as they're my dogs.
I was still half asleep and laughed and said fuck off. I would never ever usually speak to him like this but he woke me up.
AIBU to not do it? They're his trainers. If they were his work shoes I would help him (which means I would end up doing it).
So who's BU?

Breaking up doesn't have to be about abuse though. You can dump someone for any reason- you got bored, you don't fancy him anymore, you don't have enough in common, you're too busy. Where there are no children to take into account, you have absolutely no obligation to stay in a relationship that you do not want to be in, and no obligation to explain yourself either.

*Because you think he's not that bad.

Just want to add that you possibly think these things and that actually there are loving men out there that don't 'put their feet down' or want to control women. They treat you well like a partner on equal terms and are just nice and easy to get along with.

Seriously? Wise up and throw him out. What a dick

I'll tell him to leave, he'll ask why, he'll say it was a joke and I'm unreasonable. I'll feel bad . He'll be nice for a while and it begins again

So just don't get into that discussion. Throw his things out, change the locks, text him to say it's over, block all texts and calls from him. If he comes to the house, don't answer the door to him. If he catches you somewhere else and tries to discuss it, refuse to get into a discussion with him and just tell him the relationship is well and truly over.

She does get it and she understands as she had a 17 year abusive relationship. One day she just left. But I feel... A crybaby? as this is nowhere near what she put up with

Please don't tell me you have stayed with him solely because he's not quite as bad as your mother's abuser and you feel it's feeble to complain. I cannot believe that you set the bar as low as that.

I ended a "relationship" simply because he wasn't putting enough effort in and would go weeks without communicating with me in any form and it wasn't making me happy.

Being single is awesome, get rid and within a month you'll feel stronger and happier.

You get one life don't waste it with an arse.

This must be a wind up but if it's real he sounds like a waste of space and your relationship sounds shit.

oh and another thing to remember OP - you don't need a reason to end a relationship.

It doesn't have to be terrible.

It doesn't have to even be a bit bad.

You can just end a relationship because you don't want to be in a relationship with that person anymore.

You do not need to justify ending your relationship if you don't want to be in it anymore. You are not a 'crybaby' - a man has no right to a relationship with you.

You possibly have been taught from watching your mum put up with abuse for 17 years that you stick at relationships until it becomes unbearable, but other people just leave when they are bored - you aren't married, don't have kids and have no shared assets, and don't have a joint tenancy to sort out, if you would be happier being single, there's no reason to be with him.

I once ended a relationship because I didn't like a man's voice. He was a lovely guy, kind, generous, quite good in bed. Really shit voice. Couldn't get past it.

OP it's fine to end any relationship for any reason you so wish. If you want to and it's easier, just tell him you simply don't love him. When he asks why, just say you don't know but you are 100% sure you don't love him.. Repeat.

Where does 'D'P stay on the 7th night?

Please tell us you NEVER leave him alone with your dogs?

I should imagine, even if you do, your mother would prefer him not to be there nearly all week? Tell him your mum wants him out, and then when he's out, end the relationship by text (leaving his things outside his mother's place).

You are being very unfair to your mum and those dogs... For what?

HackerFucker, OP has said he stays at his mum's. It must be a nice life when you can make other women pay for all your board and lodging and give you cash into the bargain when you claim the bank has eaten your card.

This guy is the shit on your shoe. Chuck him out. Life will be more pleasant.

He really is a waste of an awful lot of space

Yeah, ditto the last 4 pages. You don't have to justify dumping him. Not being happy is reason enough.

When you think about it, it's pretty extraordinary. This man is spending out not one penny on the basics of daily life because he has three women giving him a roof over his head, food, heat, light, TV, and hot water and, I have absolutely no doubt, doing his washing as well. Everything he earns is his to spend on whatever he pleases. And he can still con his girlfriend into giving him more money!

How old are you op?

Is this a wind up thread or what?

Laurie Don't be such a nasty bitch.