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giving a baby a biscuit

359 replies

Lolly1984 · 02/02/2016 14:43

My ds, 7 months came with me to a return to work chat, unofficial. Nice colleague said she'd look after him in office.
Come back to find hes had some banana and a shortcake biscuit.
Not a massive problem, but hes 7 months, and I'm not happy hes had something sweet. Hes also allergic to dairy so now I have a sad, spotty baby with tummy ache.
I didn't say anything coz she's the kind of person to get upset, crocodile tears, and tell everyone her mistake.
But now I'm home I'm fuming!
Aibu?! Who gives a baby a biscuit without checking with parent?!

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IoraRua · 02/02/2016 17:57

Jesus christ. All this over a biscuit.

BumWad · 02/02/2016 17:57

I feel you are being a little obtuse.

No change there then.

JapaneseSlipper · 02/02/2016 18:00

"My 9month old loves the odd malted milk or custard cream."
"My 3rd dd is now 10 months. She loves a good biscuit or slice of cake."

People who say this sort of thing - do you genuinely believe that people who restrict their children's sugar intake do so on the basis that they think their children won't like cake or biscuits?

Of course children like them. But the point is it is not good for them. There is a pretty small window in which their added sugar intake can be kept to pretty much zero. Why not make the most of it?

As for those mentioning the dripping, lard and fats included in diets of old. Nobody is saying children should not eat fat. In fact the guidelines insist that they are. It's sugar that we now know to avoid.

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 18:07

Evans I don't think that's true. I see your point but I don't think babies are always in their parents sight.

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 18:08

Why not make the most of it?

Because there's no harm in moderation.

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/02/2016 18:15

Because there's no harm in moderation

no there isn't. and moderation is the best way rather than denying yourselves food.

it's just in this instance the baby is only 7 months. weaning may well still be within very early days and if the family has a history of allergies people do wean, as I'm sure you know, very carefully and a biscuit contains alot of ingredients that make tracking a reaction more difficult

Starbores · 02/02/2016 18:19

She hardly gave her crack its a biscuit! Arrange childcare or look after your own child in future. Oh and your second comment makes you sound like a bitch, try not to pass your issues with food onto your child.

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 18:36

Giles I agree with that and if she objected on allergy grounds i can understand but it's the "I don't want my baby having anything sweet" crap that I think is stupid

I'd be more annoyed if someone gave my baby something after I'd told them not to tbh

kali110 · 02/02/2016 18:38

cats opinion of you has def changed. Did think you were a twat, but i think i may have been wrong after the latest threads we have both been on!

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 18:39

kali Grin

I'm a bit blunt so if people don't know me can come over as arsey but I'm fairly nice really Grin

Katenka · 02/02/2016 18:43

The issue is that most people (lucky bastards) haven't had to deal with allergies....or even think a parent would have mentioned it if they were leaving their child with them.

I can see how someone gave a baby a biscuit not thinking about allergies or the horror of a bit of sugar.

OP both me and my dd have food allergies. It was my job to make sure people who had care of dd were aware of allergies. She is older now so can speak up, but until that point it's the parents responsibilty.

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/02/2016 18:45

Yes cats agree with you there Smile

one biscuit is not going to create problems in a non allergic child and the reaction based on one biscuit is a bit OTT especially as it's not based on the allergy, as you said.

I do still think.that it's a bit weird though that people are unable to spend a few mins with a baby and not feed them. it's not necessarily a behaviour that ends after babyhood/toddler hood either. I think.peopel in general are obsessed with babies and children snacking and can't seem to think of what else to do with unexpected encounters other than pull out the cakes Grin

that's what I think is very odd behaviour and I do think giving babies food that the parent hasnt said they need is a very unreasonable for all the reasons stated and people should check first.

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 18:51

Giles I haven't come across that much, but mine is only 5 months so there's time!

Gileswithachainsaw · 02/02/2016 18:54

just wait. seriously.

people can't seem to help themselves.

Original poster
Lolly1984 · 02/02/2016 19:00

A lot of people have said, it's only biscuit not crack.... So I can be pissed off if someone offers him crack? Good, worth noting.

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NigelLikesSalad · 02/02/2016 19:02

My first thought reading that was 'would she have known what to do if baby had choked on the food'. I was hugely stressy about choking when DS was 7 months even though we were mostly BLW at that point, I'd have had a heart attack if someone had given him biscuits and o wasn't there to supervise. But he's a few months older now and it really was my PFB nerves driving me potty at that stage.

It's one biscuit, I wouldn't worry to much. At least she gave him banana to it balance out

Idefix · 02/02/2016 19:05

Cat the point is I didn't want my child to have that chocolate button at the time and that is the point really.

This no different to years later when my ds and dd were being offered alcopop drinks at a party when the were 15 and 13. Feel very glad that my dc didn't just accept the bottles and start slurping, but checked with me first.
Although I crept that the law is on my side with this one.

I don't have any issue about other parents being accepting of these kinds practices but they are not for me.

Idefix · 02/02/2016 19:06

Garrh accept not crept.

BlueJug · 02/02/2016 19:15

What was dairy?? Not the biscuit ad not the banana surely?

Idefix · 02/02/2016 19:23

Shortbread was all butter I am guessing.

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 19:44

Idefix that confirms that you're precious. You have the right to be!

Original poster
Lolly1984 · 02/02/2016 20:02

Yes biscuit was dairy. But he's over the worst of it now, still got a bit of a tummy ache I think and we've still got all the horrible poo to come!
I have learnt a valuable lesson today, FYI it's the first time I've ever left him with anyone apart from immediate family

OP posts:
kali110 · 02/02/2016 20:20

Next time arrange childcare and don't leave with the nice colleague who was only trying to help.

kali110 · 02/02/2016 20:21

cats it's def changed! I think yoi may have just been having an off day with your one thread as all other threads you've been on you've seemed very rational Smile

TheCatsMeow · 02/02/2016 20:28

Kali if you're on about the train one I was seriously pissed off when I wrote that!