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to be having a bit of a sense of humour failure over this?

330 replies

Ellybellyboo · 31/01/2016 11:11

Sorry, this might be a bit long winded

I like 'creative' stuff - sewing, drawing, photography, etc - general art-ery fart-ery. The attic of our house had been converted to a huge room when we moved here so I use it as a kind of studio.

A few weeks ago I had a big birthday and DH arranged a surprise birthday party. I had been really clear that I absolutely did not want a party, I'm quite introverted and just didn't want a big hoo-ha.

He arranged one anyway. I was a bit miffed but grinned and bared it, and actually had an OK night.

In the weeks since, I've discovered that some of our friends had been up in my studio and played some oh so hilarious practical jokes. There was absolutely no need for them to go up there, there's no toilet or anything up there and the door at the bottom of the stairs was shut.

Nothing has been broken or damaged, but silly stuff like a cock and balls drawn onto every page of a sketch book, a huge quilt I've been making and had pinned out ready to be quilted has had all the pins removed, all my drawers and storage had been rearranged.

A couple of years ago I saved up and bought myself a DSLR camera. It wasn't cheap so I'm a bit precious about it. Yesterday we went out for a day out so thought I'd take my camera. Turned it on to find about a million photos of bare arses and I'm not very happy about it

It just feels a bit disrespectful, they shouldn't have been upstairs in the first place and I don't like that they've been messing with my stuff. The more time goes on and the more of this shit I find, the less impressed I am. The whole camera thing is the final straw and I'm having a bit of a sense of humour failure

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NoCapes · 31/01/2016 11:31

If you know who it is I would definitely have to say something to them and tell them they wouldn't be welcome in my home ever again

How fucking rude, who goes into someone's house, rummages through their stuff and ruins half of it? Just why?!
They sound like twats, cut them off

MaisieDotes · 31/01/2016 11:34

I would be fuming. Especially about the pins Angry

I'm jealous of your art room though

paxillin · 31/01/2016 11:37

I think the jokers will have to come and re-pin the quilt, re-arrange the drawers and pick up the pad they spoiled swapping it for a new one. I would then want an apology for the unsolicited naked images left for you to see telling them this could be seen as sexual harassment.

SevenOfNineTrue · 31/01/2016 11:37

That is funny in any sense of the word.

MrFMercury · 31/01/2016 11:39

YANBU at all. I'd be furious and devastated at having my private space invaded and treated in such a way. I'd expect a new sketch pad at least and I wouldn't want to spend time with people who think it's ok to treat me and my home like that.

ridemesideways · 31/01/2016 11:39

Send them a bill for the cost of replacing the sketchpad and your time spent sorting out their crap!

Floralnomad · 31/01/2016 11:42

Definitely not funny , if you have an idea of who the culprits were I'd just not be seeing them again .

Throwingshade · 31/01/2016 11:44

I wouldn't be 'having words' or giving them a bill for God's sake!

Would anyone actually do that to friends in real life?!

The overstepped the mark and were arses (scuse pun), put it down to experience.

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 31/01/2016 11:45

Hugely disrespectful Sad sketch pads are bloody expensive, and unpinning the quilt! that's going to take so much time to redo.

I'd be fuming and bloody well telling them so Flowers

rookiemere · 31/01/2016 11:45

Yanbu.
That's just not funny at all. They entered your private space and damaged your property. The photos of the bottoms - well if it wasn't for the other stuff that would be mildly amusing.

You say it was a big party do you have any idea who the culprits were?

MetalMidget · 31/01/2016 11:49

Even the cock & balls I'm thinking-what a waste of a whole sketchpad!

Yeah, although my rage would probably be proportional to the quality and weight of the paper and the permanence of the medium used (soft pencil that's easily rubbed out, less of an issue. Hard pencil that can be rubbed out but leaves an impression? Rage. Ink? KILL THEM ALL!).

I'd probably childishly counterattack by appearing tearful and weepy in front of any suspects, saying that I feel like that my sanctuary has been violated, make up some ludicrously sentimental story about the quilt, and say that I'm considering calling the police about the photos as they're sexual harassment/stalking.

Then I'd put a liberal dose of Game Changer hot sauce in a sandwich for them.

Gobbolino6 · 31/01/2016 11:50

God I'd be livid.

MissingPanda · 31/01/2016 11:56

YANBU Disrespectful, childish and immature.

rogueantimatter · 31/01/2016 11:57

Do you think they're jealous of the fact that you clearly get a lot of pleasure from your hobby? (or that you have the space for it perhaps). I'm not excusing them.

I'm glad your DH apologised and explained himself. Is there any reason for him not believing that you really didn't want a party? Does he often not listen to you properly? Do you often say things lightly/that you don't really mean? Could you use this as the start of improved communication between you.

These so-called friends don't sound like friends I'm afraid. Was it your DH who invited them? If you had been the one doing the invitations would you have invited them?

ricketytickety · 31/01/2016 11:58

Your choices are:

  1. seethe in silence and remember never to let them in your house again
  2. speak to them and tell them they're twats
  3. revenge attack

I personally would do the first. It would be enough for me to not want to socialise with them. It's intrusive, rude, disrespectful and actually they have damaged your things. They're not going to get that and probably will dismiss you as oversensitive. But I bet you a gaxillion dollars if you did something comparable they would be hitting the roof.

ricketytickety · 31/01/2016 12:01

If you did want to risk revenge attack (which would result in them getting nasty more than likely) you could:
-blow up the pictures of their arses and the cock and balls pics and plaster their car/front of their house with them. Send them a bill with damaged items and pic of their arse on the front. Every year send them a card on their birthday with pic of their arse on it. Blow it up so massive you can put it on a sheet and tie it to the local roundabout saying 'thanks for wrecking my stuff with your childish pranks you arsehole'

But don't. They sound like weirdos.

MrsDeVere · 31/01/2016 12:02

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Coffeethrowtrampbitch · 31/01/2016 12:03

I'd be so tempted to post pictures of their bare arses on social media, along with their 'artwork' so all our mutual friends could see. I'd also mention that as a birthday present they trashed your studio so everyone knows how hilarious they are.

I expect you are not quite as unpleasant as them though.

SevenOfNineTrue · 31/01/2016 12:07

Sorry isn't funny!

blueemerald · 31/01/2016 12:08

The sketch book and quilt unpinning would have made me furious. At least the digital photos,whilst annoying, are "undoable". The time spent repinning the quilt and the wasted sketchbook....

Chinks123 · 31/01/2016 12:08

It's the pins thing that's really got me, I wouldn't find that funny because it's such a pain. I'm pretty private though, the pictures of the arses would have got a giggle but messing about with my stuff would just annoy me YANBU at all.

roachslayer · 31/01/2016 12:10

they didn't 'trash' the studio coffee Confused

Zucker · 31/01/2016 12:12

Sounds like these "friends" don't like you very much.

Was any of your husbands stuff interfered with like this or are they the types that wouldn't dare go up against a man like this?

Drop them like stones would be my advice.

RandomMess · 31/01/2016 12:13

TBH I'd probably be really really upset.

MrsJayy · 31/01/2016 12:14

I hate practical jokes they are just not funny they wandered about your house drew on your things id be raging and I'd tell them I was raging. Not the same but when we got married and went away for the weekens mil and bil broke into our house and decorated it with silly string and guff I was so upset its not hilarious its intrusive and hurtful