To not go to DPs sisters wedding?!

[Whatthefreakinwhatnow]

Ok I already know I am being unreasonable, it's DPs sister, but I reeeeeeally don't want to go!

I don't like weddings anyway, but I'm especially dreading this one. His sister is just awful, acts like a spoilt princess at the best of times but is now the bridezilla from hell!

If we visit his parents and she is there, we can't mention buying our house or she gets cross that we aren't focused on her wedding, and yesterday when his mum started asking me about any ideas we've had for our wedding, she gave me the most awful look and loudly announced that there would only be her wedding this year so her mum should be focusing on that, not another one that isn't booked yet! I didn't want to tall about our bloody wedding, getting married is something me and DP will do but I am really not arsed about wedding planning and it will be very, very low key, so I resent being looked at as some awful thunder-stealer! Herr attitude whenever the conversation is about anything other than her wedding is just truly grim.

On top of this, I hate the way I look and we are buying a new house as we speak, so money is tight so I'm stressing about my outfit and what I'm going to wear. She said that she expects her guests to wear designer outfits as anything cheaper would ruin her day and the photographs

I have already managed to get out of the 3, yes 3, hen parties, but my DP really wants me to go with him to the wedding and take the children so I don't feel like I can say no.

Although she had never been directly hostile to me, I get the distinct impression that she really doesn't like me, probably as we are so different, and I feel as though I won't measure up on the day,and she'll mock me for my outfit etc.

Would it be unreasonable of me to contract food poisoning so I can't go?! only half joking

plain 😂

cosie please, please do! You are very welcome to my invitation!

tread I've heard enough about the budget to last me a lifetime! Let's just say, the cost of her dress alone could pay for the kind of wedding me and DP want.

Loving the idea of charging to sit in an empty church!

Mr Tumble that's good to know, when we see her next I'll be sure to point that out

Exactly that AnotherEmma

tread trust me, I would love to avoid her! But we visit DPs parents a couple of times a month and she is always there, "wedding planning"- so get it forced down our necks the whole time!

I've got out of 2 of the hen dos that are abroad thanks to the DD'S and DPS work schedule, the UK one I've actually agreed to go on a work training day in my mat leave so I won't be home for it!

You do have to go but yanbu for not wanting to go. She will be way too busy with herself and her friends to be worried about you on the wedding day. Just busy yourself with the children on the day and enjoy the food and drink.

I agree emma, that is exactly what he should do. If she kicks off, I'm happy to take it on the chin and say I won't drop him off any earlier, as that would mean leaving at 10.30 as it is - 11 would mean 8.30!

If I really have to go, I am not getting up at 5 to get myself and two kids ready!!

Yeah, it's going to be a long day, so if she actually wants you and your DCs to be there for as long as possible (as opposed to leaving early because of boredom / exhaustion) then you can't get there early and hang around. Otherwise you'd just have to leave straight after the ceremony

Aren't you tempted to book your wedding for the weekend before hers? At the same venue? [evil]

You can't stand this woman. This is very clear in your posts. It may be best if you don't attend. Who wants someone at their wedding that is unsupportive? I'm not sure what to advise or what I think about this bridezilla. She is very happy and excited about her wedding, and her life revolves around that right now. Would like more information. Did she use the word designer and say everyone must wear designer outfits? Or was she worried because one of the bridesmaids have refused to wear the designated outfit and might show up in something that is totally out of the realm of coordinating with the others? We need more context to her statements. Has she ever mistreated you? Is there a history of weirdness between you?

Going to the ghastly weddings of the ghastly relations of your OH comes with the territory of having an OH. I'm not sure what the female equivalent of gird up your loins is but do it and go. It's his sister and he's known her longer than he's known you.

But we visit DPs parents a couple of times a month

Then stop :) Invite them to yours instead, without the SIL from hell.

or go in matching t-shirts
www.zazzle.com/bridezilla_on_the_loose_t_shirt-235248791749385398

Your DP just needs to say "11am doesn't work for us because we've got the kids. I'll be there at 1.30pm." End of discussion.

YABU, because this is absolutely begging for quick hits. All of MN will be agog. You need to go in order to allow the rest of us to enjoy it vicariously.

little its true, I fond her vacuous and self-absorbed, not just now (although she's at a whole new level of me-Ness since planning the wedding) but she has always been the same.

I will go, to support my DP, who is dreading it as much as I am, bless him. To say they aren't close is an understatement.

She expressly told us to wear designer labels so as to not cheapen and ruin the day, and so the pictures aren't ruined either. There is no other context to this,she really is that shallow.

There is no real history between us, I am always very pleasant when I meet with her and work bloody hard to umm and ahhh at appropriate times during wedding diatribes chat, but the fact of the matter is she is very hard to like. How well would you get on with someone who got arsey when you talk to others - not even her- about how house hunting is going and get told that, excuse me, it's my wedding coming up so I need my mum to focus on that, not be thinking about you moving house?

fanny, I promise a live wedding feed on the day!!

Don't worry about LittleBeautyBelle's comments, whatthefreak.

That poster always does this - questions the OP, even to the extent of saying they don't believe what the OP has written.

Which is troll hunting, actually, and is not allowed on MN.

Sanity, the aibu "to go against dh" thread just a couple of days ago, I questioned the op, and said I didn't believe her, what she was saying didn't square up and was cursed by everybody on the thread and called every foul name in the book. I felt she was deliberately taking a hot button topic to make people automatically see red and making up the whole story about her dh and her son. Well, do you know what happened? The thread was deleted by MNHQ because the Op was found to be a "person of ill intent" who fabricated the whole thing! I have never reported a thread, ever, I have never reported a poster, I have never called anyone a troll and even on that thread I didn't call her a troll, I said I didn't believe what she was saying, that she was manipulating, that she sounded off to me. Well, I was right, she made up the whole thing. I don't think you're being fair to me. I don't "always" do it. I have questioned the op 2 or 3 times when it seemed called for.

If she's not even close to her brother I don't know why she wants him at a church three hours before she gets married there. There is no reason whatsoever why he could need to be there.

Op, you can find great girl's dresses in TKMaxx. Super flouncy and bound to upstage a bride (who will find it difficult to protest). Just make sure your children clash with each other as well as you. And if you were to find your own designer dress there, you could lower the tone by excitedly explaining to every other guest that you only spent £30 at TKMaxx for the lot (whether or not it's true). Oh yes, there is A LOT of fun to be had here. And whatever you do, don't forget the hair colour 'experiment' for the big day.

Op, you're asking if yabu. If your sil has been mean or underhanded to you, then I understand the resentment and I wouldn't blame you for not going to the wedding or going but leaving as soon as the ceremony itself is over. And you shouldn't have to explain to anyone except your husband and he should stand by your choice.

If she has not been mean or underhanded to you, then yabu, in my opinion, and should attend the wedding and be happy and supportive of her.

I wore an orange dress from Wallis to a wedding last year it was quite bright..they also did a Neon version. You just have to find something neon and accesorise

a neon blue version

As the bride won't be arriving at the church before 2pm how will she even know whether your husband is there. I repeat, it is an utter pointless waste of time getting there three hours early. There won't be anyone there, so what will he do? Go to the pub instead? 30 - 45 minutes beforehand is ample time.

The church will be locked up at 11am (unless another wedding). She won't be there before 2pm and he doesn't have a job to do. Simply arrive around 1:30pm end of. And get him helping with the kids during the evening my. He's not the groom or best man, no need to be at the bride's beck and call. Your DH needs to stop pandering to her.

designer outfit? I'd look at that as a sign to buy some really posh jeans...

If you have to arrive three hours early, see if the vicar could fit your wedding in on the same day?

all clothes were designed by someone hence they are all designer..

yanbu about how you feel.

when she starts on the crap about not talking about the wedding. stop, give her the look (the one you use for naughty toddlers) then carry on ignoring the interruption.