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To not go to DPs sisters wedding?!

170 replies

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 26/01/2016 09:45

Ok I already know I am being unreasonable, it's DPs sister, but I reeeeeeally don't want to go!

I don't like weddings anyway, but I'm especially dreading this one. His sister is just awful, acts like a spoilt princess at the best of times but is now the bridezilla from hell!

If we visit his parents and she is there, we can't mention buying our house or she gets cross that we aren't focused on her wedding, and yesterday when his mum started asking me about any ideas we've had for our wedding, she gave me the most awful look and loudly announced that there would only be her wedding this year so her mum should be focusing on that, not another one that isn't booked yet! I didn't want to tall about our bloody wedding, getting married is something me and DP will do but I am really not arsed about wedding planning and it will be very, very low key, so I resent being looked at as some awful thunder-stealer! Herr attitude whenever the conversation is about anything other than her wedding is just truly grim.

On top of this, I hate the way I look and we are buying a new house as we speak, so money is tight so I'm stressing about my outfit and what I'm going to wear. She said that she expects her guests to wear designer outfits as anything cheaper would ruin her day and the photographs Confused

I have already managed to get out of the 3, yes 3, hen parties, but my DP really wants me to go with him to the wedding and take the children so I don't feel like I can say no.

Although she had never been directly hostile to me, I get the distinct impression that she really doesn't like me, probably as we are so different, and I feel as though I won't measure up on the day,and she'll mock me for my outfit etc.

Would it be unreasonable of me to contract food poisoning so I can't go?! only half joking

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WonderingAspie · 26/01/2016 11:04

I'd go to Primark and find the most clashing dress I could find. But I'm awkward and would refuse to be told what to wear. You could always say you misunderstood and thought she didn't want designer and accidently mixed the 'ok' colours list with the 'not ok' colours. FFS. What a bellend she is.

Just amuse yourself with her twatish behaviour, keep us updated and known that you are better than her because you don't behave like a twat, tell people,what they can wear and talk about for the next year!

Please let your DHP propose at her wedding! Grin

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 26/01/2016 11:05

Look on the bright side, she hasn't asked you to be a bridesmaid Grin.....

Seriously - I'd get on top of losing that weight, book a registry office for three weeks before her wedding and invite nearest and dearest with 2 weeks notice, and a nice lunch afterwards. Grin But I am evil like that.

WonderingAspie · 26/01/2016 11:05

What colours are banned btw? Just nosey curious. Grin

LaContessaDiPlump · 26/01/2016 11:05

You need to attend just so you can report back.

That MN membership card comes with responsibilities you know!!

hufflebottom · 26/01/2016 11:12

I second the wedding bingo. Maybe play with you MiL?

As for the designer clothes and colour schemes? Really? Somethings you're comfortable in? Jeans and t shirt?

I feel for you op. I ended up at a wedding like that. I had really bad morning sickness though, we hadn't told anyone at that point but the bride twigged (I did really try to hide it honest) she hasn't spoken to me since. Grin

TheAnswerIsYes · 26/01/2016 11:16

You know you need to go.

(And wear a long white dress)

cozietoesie · 26/01/2016 11:17

Plan to go - and spend any spare time thinking of the poor other half. (If she's like this with you all, imagine what she's like with them!)

PennyHasNoSurname · 26/01/2016 11:21

Oh god id turn up in jeans.

She sounds a prized nightmare!

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 26/01/2016 11:21

poundland have some lovely clip in hair bits that are very weddingy, like little hats with lace and feathers and stuff, really they are very nice, I bought two even though I have no weddings to go to.

Valentine2 · 26/01/2016 11:21

Designer dress? I think you should definitely go as its DP's wish and his whole family will be there. Do it for his sake and enjoy the day with the extended family rather than letting her spoil the occasion for both you and DP. As for the designer dress, I would never buy it just to please her. Buy whatever you feel good about and can afford right now. If I were you, I would keep the dress a surprise to her and that will put her off you for until the wedding day. Tell her some big name on the wedding day (and enjoy the nasty lie ;)). Have fun. It's what DP would like too I think . Rather than paying up for a designer dress.

cozietoesie · 26/01/2016 11:25

I'd have to try and source some vintage designer down the nearest second hand shop. (Assuming it looked OK on me.) She'd really be flummoxed then. Grin

CallieTorres · 26/01/2016 11:25

"She said that she expects her guests to wear designer outfits as anything cheaper would ruin her day and the photographs confused
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tell her she is welcome to send you some money to buy designer, and if not you'll wear what you like and she can fuck off

cestlavielife · 26/01/2016 11:25

tk maxx for designer on the cheap.

Lancelottie · 26/01/2016 11:28

All dresses are designed by somebody.

Therefore, unless you turn up in a finger-painted sack, you are wearing a designer dress.

Sorted.

cozietoesie · 26/01/2016 11:31

If I'm a guest at a wedding, the only concession I'll make is not to wear white or black. Apart from that, I wear what I like. Smile

HumptyDumptyHadaHardTime · 26/01/2016 11:31

Even if you turn up in a finger painted sack. Someone has designed it to an extent Grin

OTheHugeManatee · 26/01/2016 11:34

She sounds astonishingly awful. But I'm afraid you need to bite down on it and go and post lots of updates about her dreadful behaviour on here.

Enkopkaffetak · 26/01/2016 11:35

Laura Ashley is a designer... just saying Grin
Yes you have to go but make a wedding bingo for yourself. You know guests not in designer. How many shoes the bride wears how many times she says my wedding etc etc.

I don't agree life is to short. IMO life should never be to short to do something we know to be important to someone we love. Here your dh and I suspect your MILL too.

If we don't take.time to care about and show we care about our loved ones then why live at all? (Disclaimer may be a bit emotional as I am in a Starbucks waiting for ds to come out of routine surgery)

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 26/01/2016 12:05

Wedding bingo sounds great fun! MIL would love it!! Grin

The brief is no white, cream, silver, black or pale pastel colours..... highlighter pink it is then! 😂

huffle that sounds exactly like something DPs sister would do!

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Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 26/01/2016 12:07

Ahhhh enko, I hope it's straightforward and DS is feeling much better soon

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Jessbow · 26/01/2016 12:14

Lime green leggings and an orange floaty top it is then. Red fascinator?

Wonder what she'll do to guests that turn up in banned colours? I have visions of her gran sat in the 2nd pew in her liberty bodice, having been stripped of her frock.

regenerationfez · 26/01/2016 12:16

What an idiot she is with those colour bans! The pastels and creams are unlikely to clash, but she really is asking for people to turn up in neon colours or hot pink and bright green. Especially if she's a royal pita to the other guests tooGrin I worked with a bridezilla once, who only invited people to her wedding who were pretty for the photos. She didn't have her only niece as bridesmaid because she was mixed race. (she said this in front of me-im Indian and my kids are mixed race, as she knew). Her husband left her within months of the wedding. Not that I'm wishing that on your sil, but some people put so much effort into the wedding they forget about the marriage.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 26/01/2016 12:21

Oh my gosh regeneration, that is awful!

Jess, will do live updates on the day, ypu may already have ticked one off your bingo card haha!

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hellsbellsmelons · 26/01/2016 12:24

No pastel colours?
That means bright colours then.
Surely they will take the focus AWAY from the bride.
God she's a knobhead!
A nice red dress would do just fine then.

regenerationfez · 26/01/2016 12:24

Yes, she basically said a 4 year old child wouldn't 'fit in'. I suspected I knew what she meant from the thinly disguised slagging off of her sisters boyfriend and when we saw the photos afterward it became obvious Confused