To not go to DPs sisters wedding?!

[Whatthefreakinwhatnow]

Ok I already know I am being unreasonable, it's DPs sister, but I reeeeeeally don't want to go!

I don't like weddings anyway, but I'm especially dreading this one. His sister is just awful, acts like a spoilt princess at the best of times but is now the bridezilla from hell!

If we visit his parents and she is there, we can't mention buying our house or she gets cross that we aren't focused on her wedding, and yesterday when his mum started asking me about any ideas we've had for our wedding, she gave me the most awful look and loudly announced that there would only be her wedding this year so her mum should be focusing on that, not another one that isn't booked yet! I didn't want to tall about our bloody wedding, getting married is something me and DP will do but I am really not arsed about wedding planning and it will be very, very low key, so I resent being looked at as some awful thunder-stealer! Herr attitude whenever the conversation is about anything other than her wedding is just truly grim.

On top of this, I hate the way I look and we are buying a new house as we speak, so money is tight so I'm stressing about my outfit and what I'm going to wear. She said that she expects her guests to wear designer outfits as anything cheaper would ruin her day and the photographs

I have already managed to get out of the 3, yes 3, hen parties, but my DP really wants me to go with him to the wedding and take the children so I don't feel like I can say no.

Although she had never been directly hostile to me, I get the distinct impression that she really doesn't like me, probably as we are so different, and I feel as though I won't measure up on the day,and she'll mock me for my outfit etc.

Would it be unreasonable of me to contract food poisoning so I can't go?! only half joking

Definitely go or it will give her more ammo. But wear a Primark outfit.

How disgusting! 😮 I'm not sure I'd have been able to resist saying something to her tbh. What a grade A, racist bitch!

DP does keep going on about doing the big proposal there, so who knows! 😂 No, that would be unforgivable!

Oh I know the colours, we were sent instructions about what colours we can and can not wear so as not to clash!

Not to clash with what? The bride? You can't micromanage guests like that. Everyone will hate her and I give the marriage six weeks. She is insane.

the bride, the theme, the bridesmaids and her "leaving outfit"

She really is batshit. The guy she is marrying is besotted with her though, and it's really quite unsettling- he follows her around like a puppy and does what she tells him to do all the time. She talks to him like a child, it's uncomfortable to watch.

Oh dear. He sounds like the worst kind of enabler and she sounds like a control freak.

Absolutely spot on battleaxe.

Oh well, I'll go but I'll book a weekend away for me and DP for another time, to give me something to look forward to, like a reward for getting through the ridiculously OTT wedding.

Design and make your own dress, or has she said which designers too? Has she seen some Vivienne Westwood recently? Or does she mean designers at Debenhams. Do the kids have to designer too? Good luck with the dieting and don't let the witch get you down

Thanks blue! No, no designers mentioned,just that they must be designer clothes. Yes to the kids too.

Have decided to just go to Monsoon and be done wity it-she can't dictate what we wear FGS!

In addition to wedding bingo you need yo run a book on how long the speeches are going to take from start to (minutes and seconds) pound entry and closest guess gets the cash.

quiet I'm crying! 😂

Amazing ideaklein, might as well make a few quid as I suffer through enjoy them!

Brilliant quietbatperson! It doesn't say you can't go in fancy dress! Here's a very smart idea for your DH. It involves wearing a suit so she can't complain.

Hi op

I think you should you should go the whole hog, I'de be off Primark like a shot for matching
Loud fancy frocks. Think animal prints large flowers, fuck it I'de be full on flouncy frock mode with bells on.

Let her Seethe might as well get hung for a sheep than a lamb, oh and let the kids choose their own clothes, from the retro day glow dept.

Damn wondering Aspie beat me to it

No creams or pastels here . She sounds like a complete loon tbh but she's bound to be far too busy bossing the wedding party about to have time for you!

Fwiw - I've pickedup some great designer (@Debenhams) outfits from charity shops.

Actually if you've got DDs I think something like this is quite sweet.

"She said that she expects her guests to wear designer outfits as anything cheaper would ruin her day and the photographs"

Bollocks to that. Just wear what makes you feel good, in colours that suit you. How will she know whether the clothes the guests are wearing are actually designer clothes anyway. Will she ask to look at everyone's labels?

Monsoon is expensive, don't waste your money, seriously, Primark (great minds Guilty ). That rainbow dress does fit the criteria very well though .

But just to be contrary, I'd show up in the most pastely thing I could find, from the cheapest shop. And have many clashing pastels. And children in lovely pastel clothes.

It's got to be gold lame all round I think, big sparkly fascinatiors (made by your DDs for extra sweet effect). Pat Butcher earrings, go for it.

Wear pyjamas just to wind her up.

Yes go, your DH deserves some support. He's probably dreading it too. In the meantime, have some fun, amuse yourself. When she stopped your MIL from asking about your wedding, say "oh we though we'd got to a few other weddings before we decide what we want, you know, see what we think is OTT and bridezilla and what is tastefully unfussy. When she goes on about you needing a designer outfit, say" that sounds like a charity shop challenge to me, I reckon I will find something nice for a tenner in Xxx (insert name of nearest horrible town)... If she goes off at you, sigh and say "you need to chill out and recognise a joke, you'll be getting a bridezilla reputation." It will either end up with her backing off a bit or her banning you from the wedding - you can't lose!

Oh my, these dresses are beautiful 😍 haha! The costume for DP is amazing!! 😂

I love the idea of letting DD pick her own- I'm guessing it will be. if and flouncy and bordering on bridesmaid territory!!

Right, bolstered by mumsnet support, bollocks to labels and bollocks to Monsoon, Primarni it will be- dress, shoes and accessories! She'll probably be apoplectic with rage, but hey ho!