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To not go to DPs sisters wedding?!

170 replies

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 26/01/2016 09:45

Ok I already know I am being unreasonable, it's DPs sister, but I reeeeeeally don't want to go!

I don't like weddings anyway, but I'm especially dreading this one. His sister is just awful, acts like a spoilt princess at the best of times but is now the bridezilla from hell!

If we visit his parents and she is there, we can't mention buying our house or she gets cross that we aren't focused on her wedding, and yesterday when his mum started asking me about any ideas we've had for our wedding, she gave me the most awful look and loudly announced that there would only be her wedding this year so her mum should be focusing on that, not another one that isn't booked yet! I didn't want to tall about our bloody wedding, getting married is something me and DP will do but I am really not arsed about wedding planning and it will be very, very low key, so I resent being looked at as some awful thunder-stealer! Herr attitude whenever the conversation is about anything other than her wedding is just truly grim.

On top of this, I hate the way I look and we are buying a new house as we speak, so money is tight so I'm stressing about my outfit and what I'm going to wear. She said that she expects her guests to wear designer outfits as anything cheaper would ruin her day and the photographs Confused

I have already managed to get out of the 3, yes 3, hen parties, but my DP really wants me to go with him to the wedding and take the children so I don't feel like I can say no.

Although she had never been directly hostile to me, I get the distinct impression that she really doesn't like me, probably as we are so different, and I feel as though I won't measure up on the day,and she'll mock me for my outfit etc.

Would it be unreasonable of me to contract food poisoning so I can't go?! only half joking

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waitingforsomething · 26/01/2016 10:13

Yabu I'm afraid. Just grin and bear it and wear what you want - she's not going to know if it's designer!! It might be fun she'll hardly have time to speak to you!

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 26/01/2016 10:14

I am banking on that waiting! I've asked her mum if we can be seated at the back, so I can hide duck out with the baby if I need to

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definitelybutter1 · 26/01/2016 10:14

Have a live wedding thread on Mumsnet, and find as much humour as possible.

Good luck!

Gatehouse77 · 26/01/2016 10:15

I would suck it up but would only wear what I felt comfortable in and that DH was okay with. I'll conform to convention but won't compromise on comfort or be dictated to on where to buy my clothes. I'd happily be omitted from the photographs!!

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 26/01/2016 10:15

I might just have to butter, to get me through the day sane!

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HanYOLO · 26/01/2016 10:17

obvs you have to go to support DP's mum if no-one else

but do feel free to post on hear about her hilarious unreasonableness

lol at royal wedding

why do you hate the way you look? who you are is enough.

OnlyLovers · 26/01/2016 10:26

She said that she expects her guests to wear designer outfits as anything cheaper would ruin her day and the photographs

She sounds like a prize twat.

I guess you do have to go, but as you say, you can piss off early using the kids as an excuse.

And do wear something really cheap and nasty.

hellsbellsmelons · 26/01/2016 10:27

Dye your hair bright pink or blue the day before the wedding so you really stand out in the photo's only half joking
It sounds like hell. Just ignore her until the wedding.
Get your best Primarni frock on and have a good time.

SooticaTheWitchesCat · 26/01/2016 10:30

YANBU but I think you have to go for your DP.

Don't worry about wearing designer clothes though, wear something that makes you feel good, she can't tell you what to wear.

CrystalMcPistol · 26/01/2016 10:31

You both sound overly dramatic to me.

If you don't go it may well cause a rift.

Grapejuicerocks · 26/01/2016 10:31

Step back and laugh at the ridiculousness of it all. Share secret smiles with mil and dh and tick off that wedding bridezilla bingo card. Detach.

FellOutOfBedTwice · 26/01/2016 10:32

I hear you- my DHs sister got married last year and I was dreading that as much as you're dreading this. She was a bridezilla and is just a human-zilla at the best of times anyway so the whole thing was one long nightmare and it was a three hour drive away on a weekend bang smack in the middle of term (both teachers).

Best thing I can say for it is that it is over now Grin

Mouseinahole · 26/01/2016 10:33

Designer frock from charity shop or at a pinch TKMaxx. Top it with a huge straw sun hat from Pound Land or something and tell her you are saving your best hat for a really special occasion...

2ndSopranosRule · 26/01/2016 10:33

YABU but she does sound like very hard work. Weddings bring out the worst in people I've found.

OnlyLovers · 26/01/2016 10:38

Designer frock from charity shop or at a pinch TKMaxx

Bollocks to that. Why make even that much effort? (actually, looking in charity shops and TKMaxx is MORE effort than buying from 'normal' shops).

Debinaround · 26/01/2016 10:38

It's usually the things you really don't want to go to that you end up having the best time at so by my reckoning you should have the best day everGrin

Love the idea of a giant hat tooWink

wornoutboots · 26/01/2016 10:39

find out her wedding colours and dye your hair to match them ;-)

(I was actually made to promise I wouldn't do that for my brother's wedding!)

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 26/01/2016 10:40

I will definitely consider the hat! Maybe that way I'll get excluded from the photos Grin

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BarricadesBabe · 26/01/2016 10:40

Wear what the hell you like the cheaper, brighter and more visible in photos the better or ask what her budget is for the designer outfit she'll obviously be buying for you as she's so bloody fussed about it.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 26/01/2016 10:41

Oh I know the colours, we were sent instructions about what colours we can and can not wear so as not to clash!

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Kirkenes · 26/01/2016 10:45

Just go and enjoy yourself. Wear what you fancy and don't worry what you look like.

AlpacaPicnic · 26/01/2016 10:49

Yes, do go. Think of it as a nice meal out with your family, with some added entertainment thrown in.

Have you considered playing a quiet game of wedding bingo? You know the kind of thing - tick a square if you see a bridesmaid getting jiggy with someone they shouldn't, tick a square if you see some drunken dad-dancing.

tinyterrors · 26/01/2016 10:51

You do need to go for the sake of family harmony. At least your future mil agrees that she's way ott, it would be ten times worse if she was agreeing with her bridezilla daughter.

Wear what you feel comfortable in, she'll be too busy to notice what guests are wearing.

As for her keeping your do busy 'all day and most of the night' she can sod right off with that. You've got dcs together so he needs to help look after them. It would be impossible for her to keep your dcs away from their dad all day and she'd look a prize twat infront of everyone if she did.

MytwinisMilaKunis · 26/01/2016 10:56

Yes of course you need to go. No question. I think the main reason you don't want to go is insecurity over your looks so why don't you address that as best you can.

hellsbellsmelons · 26/01/2016 10:57

we were sent instructions about what colours we can and can not wear so as not to clash!
Fabulous - this just gets better and better!

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